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WWYD re DB SIL Xmas presents

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unclebuck · 11/12/2022 20:18

LIGHTHEARTED

I am one of 7 siblings and the easiest going of the bunch. I am the only girl and really don't care what any of them or I do ever, let alone at Xmas.

I had kids first. First Xmas most sibs either just bought the baby a gift or bought us gifts too and we just kind of went along with it all in this spirit as they had kids. So I buy presents for 3 sibs/partners and all nieces and nephews. One of my SIL is very annoying though and I always seem to be positioned to fuck up and be mocked.

So after 10 years of kids only presents I was given a gift in 2020 year, and so was DH. I said "Oh I didn't know we were doing presents" and she scoffed "Really? Why wouldn't we?"

Then last year I got her a gift and she opened it and literally shouted "you've gone mad, mad! we don't do gifts! hahhahahahahha" then "hold on!" and made a big show of disappearing and coming back with an emergency gift type thing - a candle which I thanked her for.

When I expressed confusion to DC and other sibs they all said that DB is a member of an scheme where he is given a lot of freebies by Amazon for reviews, and this is where gifts are sourced from.

She is a PITA at the best of times but means no harm. What do I do this year?

Prize for the funniest gift suggestion 😂

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Justmuddlingalong · 11/12/2022 20:31

Therapy?

wlanbsoo · 11/12/2022 20:34

Justmuddlingalong · 11/12/2022 20:31

Therapy?

😂

panko · 11/12/2022 20:35

Nice pair of comfy knickers

unclebuck · 11/12/2022 20:35

Justmuddlingalong · 11/12/2022 20:31

Therapy?

😂for me or her?

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CassandraBarrett · 11/12/2022 20:36

Something you'd like yourself that you can use if she doesn't get presents for you

Ihaveamagicwand · 11/12/2022 20:39

An Amazon gift card!

Windtunnel · 11/12/2022 20:46

A Kirsty Allsop how-to-make-homemade-gifts book.

serenaisaknobhead · 11/12/2022 20:54

A photo book of his Amazon reviews

unclebuck · 11/12/2022 21:06

Windtunnel · 11/12/2022 20:46

A Kirsty Allsop how-to-make-homemade-gifts book.

I have considered making terrible gifts 😂

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unclebuck · 11/12/2022 21:07

Another cluster bomb is that DS is 19 this year and doesn't give a sit if he gets any presents, frankly would prefer not to given the terribleness of all the gifts. Their DD is 17 now so I want to instigate a "no gifts after 18 " rule which seems, frankly, ambitious

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Windtunnel · 11/12/2022 21:12

Tell your kids to get their present faces on. It's great practice for life!

Frapped · 11/12/2022 21:14

Give her back the candle

Windtunnel · 11/12/2022 21:19

Frapped · 11/12/2022 21:14

Give her back the candle

😃 😀 😄

pizzaHeart · 11/12/2022 21:19

Are you thinking small but a thoughtful gift or funny ( but still small) ? Or do you want to have “just in case” gift? What kind of budget? Will you do gift for her DH?

unclebuck · 11/12/2022 21:24

Frapped · 11/12/2022 21:14

Give her back the candle

Perfect!!! But I burned it 😩

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unclebuck · 11/12/2022 21:27

I have got the Nieces v nice pressies :)

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unclebuck · 11/12/2022 21:29

serenaisaknobhead · 11/12/2022 20:54

A photo book of his Amazon reviews

I have no idea what his user name is, no doubt scathing reviews, they are hard to please

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NamelessTemptress01 · 11/12/2022 21:49

message her or DB - just checking are we doing adult gifts this year or just for the under 18s, we seemed to get crossed wires last year!

CourtneeLuv · 11/12/2022 21:56

unclebuck · 11/12/2022 20:18

LIGHTHEARTED

I am one of 7 siblings and the easiest going of the bunch. I am the only girl and really don't care what any of them or I do ever, let alone at Xmas.

I had kids first. First Xmas most sibs either just bought the baby a gift or bought us gifts too and we just kind of went along with it all in this spirit as they had kids. So I buy presents for 3 sibs/partners and all nieces and nephews. One of my SIL is very annoying though and I always seem to be positioned to fuck up and be mocked.

So after 10 years of kids only presents I was given a gift in 2020 year, and so was DH. I said "Oh I didn't know we were doing presents" and she scoffed "Really? Why wouldn't we?"

Then last year I got her a gift and she opened it and literally shouted "you've gone mad, mad! we don't do gifts! hahhahahahahha" then "hold on!" and made a big show of disappearing and coming back with an emergency gift type thing - a candle which I thanked her for.

When I expressed confusion to DC and other sibs they all said that DB is a member of an scheme where he is given a lot of freebies by Amazon for reviews, and this is where gifts are sourced from.

She is a PITA at the best of times but means no harm. What do I do this year?

Prize for the funniest gift suggestion 😂

Flat out ignore her. Not gifts, no head space, don't even accept a gift from her. If she gives one, leave it on the side.

NoAlexa · 11/12/2022 21:58

CourtneeLuv · 11/12/2022 21:56

Flat out ignore her. Not gifts, no head space, don't even accept a gift from her. If she gives one, leave it on the side.

It's always great when someone quotes the very long op

unclebuck · 11/12/2022 22:04

When she did get me a gift I got in trouble for eating it immediately 😂 apparently it was poor form. She gave DH a bottle of tequila and we sold it at a car boot sale. She is lucky we didn't start doing shots at 11am on Xmas eve

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CourtneeLuv · 11/12/2022 22:48

NoAlexa · 11/12/2022 21:58

It's always great when someone quotes the very long op

It's always great when someone makes a completely pointless post.

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