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AIBU?

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My friend has got so boring

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Bpdqueen · 07/12/2022 22:43

We've been friends for about 10 years where not best friends but where pretty close. A few months ago she got a new puppy and it's all she ever talks about. She sends me photos of him all the time and the way she talks about him if you didn't know it was a dog you would think she was talking about a baby. I'm not really an animal person and iv been trying to act interested but I don't think I can do it much longer.
Aibu to tell her she's being boring and that I'm not interested about every little thing her dog does.

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KimberleyClark · 08/12/2022 08:12

BeggyMitchell · 08/12/2022 07:37

That's what I find fascinating pictish, how someone like your ex-colleague just assumed everyone in your office was as interested in her daughter as she was? Her Mother. So weird.

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Plenty of people like this in my experience.

Usernameisunavailable · 08/12/2022 08:13

I’d be bored by it too, OP, or indeed by any one single topic that someone kept banging on about incessantly. In fact I had similar years ago with a friend who was obsessed by her cat. Utterly boring. I’d find a way of dealing with it tactfully at first, then less tactfully if she didn’t get the message. (That’s what I did do and eventually my friend went back to an acceptable level of cat chat once the penny dropped.)

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 08/12/2022 09:58

Bpdqueen · 07/12/2022 23:13

She has grown up children and young grandchildren which I'm more then happy to hear about and how their getting on and what their up to but she seems to of lost the ability to talk about anything but this puppy

Whew.....thought you was talking about me for a minute until you mentioned grandchildren ha ha ha ha.

i would hope though if I was being that annoying I would rather be told and may be a tiny bit upset but better that than me ruin a friendship.

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Bpdqueen · 08/12/2022 10:40

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 08/12/2022 09:58

Whew.....thought you was talking about me for a minute until you mentioned grandchildren ha ha ha ha.

i would hope though if I was being that annoying I would rather be told and may be a tiny bit upset but better that than me ruin a friendship.

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🤣🤣🤣

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SleeplessInEngland · 08/12/2022 10:43

Just don't reply to any puppy related texts and change the conversation when you meet her in person.

AnotherOde · 08/12/2022 11:07

My lovely mum is dog mad (my parents have 3) She absolutely loves them. I’m indifferent tbh. I absolutely don’t wish them any harm and will give them a friendly pat when I see them, but I’m just not a dog person & find them quite boring. I’m not interested in what tricks they’ve learnt or how cute they were at the park on Tuesday etc.

Mum has a habit of telling me countless stories about the dogs she’s met on her dog walk. She will go into great detail too, chuckling to herself as she tells the story. I’m not remotely interested in a strangers dog but I just listen and add in a few ‘awww cute’ every now and again. Then I change the subject. I would never tell my mum I’m not interested, that’s just mean. I think she gets the hint though, as she doesn’t mention them again.

I think you should let her indulge in her cat for a few minutes then change the subject. If cat talk starts again - I would joking say ‘ we’ve already spoken about your cat, no more cat talk’
She should soon get the message. She probably doesn’t realise how much she’s doing it.

Southwig22 · 08/12/2022 11:11

Do you post photos and updates of your children?

This will 100% be how everyone feels about those updates, by the way.

autienotnaughty · 08/12/2022 12:31

Pinkbonbon · 07/12/2022 22:49

I wouldn't phrase it like that xD

Just stop acting interested when she talks about ìt. Throw in the odd 'I'm not really a dog person. But good luck eith that haha'.

Respond positively and cheerfuly to conversations that don't revolve around the dog. When she goes back to talking about it, ushive short replies and follow up with a question about a different topic. Hopefully she'll get the hint.

Conditioning her like pavlovs dogs 😂😂😂 🐶

XelaM · 08/12/2022 12:37

Bpdqueen · 07/12/2022 22:58

But if it was a baby I wouldn't mind I love babies. It's just its a dog and she acts like it's a baby, she even puts on the baby voice when she's talking about him

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I have both a dog and a child and ai also talk of my fog like it's my second baby 🥰 He's my little boy and I absolutely adore him.

I think non-doggy people are quite sad and boring 😬

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Bpdqueen · 08/12/2022 15:35

Southwig22 · 08/12/2022 11:11

Do you post photos and updates of your children?

This will 100% be how everyone feels about those updates, by the way.

No I very rarely post on social media anymore. I don't have an issue with people talking about their pets and children just not for 99% of the conversation

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