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My friend has got so boring

85 replies

Bpdqueen · 07/12/2022 22:43

We've been friends for about 10 years where not best friends but where pretty close. A few months ago she got a new puppy and it's all she ever talks about. She sends me photos of him all the time and the way she talks about him if you didn't know it was a dog you would think she was talking about a baby. I'm not really an animal person and iv been trying to act interested but I don't think I can do it much longer.
Aibu to tell her she's being boring and that I'm not interested about every little thing her dog does.

OP posts:
Dotcheck · 07/12/2022 23:16

Don’t tell your friend she’s boring- that is really mean.
Just start changing to subject after a few mins. She’ll get the point

QS90 · 07/12/2022 23:18

If she's been your friend for 10 years, I think it should be fine to tell her (nicely) the puppy talk is a bit much. Maybe plan a nice activity together such as cinema or tourist attraction so you have something else to focus on / talk about?

BabyOnBoard90 · 07/12/2022 23:24

YANBU but this is a pet loving forum, so don't expect much support on this one.

Grimchmas · 07/12/2022 23:28

Lol BabyOnBoard90

Mumsnet is one of those delightful places which manages to be accused of being both anti-dog and pro-dog (or all pets) at the same time 😁

fifteenohfour · 07/12/2022 23:30

Do you have BPD? This could be an insight into your insecurity now that you aren't getting the same amount of attention from your friend.

Puppies are like babies to some people. They make you incredibly happy and you want to share that.

Mamaneedsadrink · 07/12/2022 23:32

Tough one, my aunt is like that with her cat. I'd just ignore and change the subject and hopefully she'll take the hint. I think it would be hard to not hurt her feelings, but maybe the I'm not really into dogs type comments if you get desperate

Original poster
Bpdqueen · 07/12/2022 23:33

fifteenohfour · 07/12/2022 23:30

Do you have BPD? This could be an insight into your insecurity now that you aren't getting the same amount of attention from your friend.

Puppies are like babies to some people. They make you incredibly happy and you want to share that.

Yes I do have bpd but I don't think its that I just think she got boring

OP posts:
been and done it. · 08/12/2022 00:05

Wolfiefan · 07/12/2022 23:01

See baby talk would bore me to tears. Love to share puppy talk.

Me too.

ClaryFairchild · 08/12/2022 00:54

Suggest she gets her puppy its own instagram page, so she can get likeminded followers.

Than don't follow that page....

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 08/12/2022 00:59

I’m afraid I cannot muster the slightest enthusiasm for when my friends get puppies. It looks hard work and a bit boring TBH.

Love babies though, I’m a great friend for if you’re having a baby Grin (and before anyone starts no it’s not the same)

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 08/12/2022 01:00

I live that it only took a few posts to diagnose the OP with a neurodiversity. Good old Mumsnet strikes again

ilovesooty · 08/12/2022 01:55

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 08/12/2022 01:00

I live that it only took a few posts to diagnose the OP with a neurodiversity. Good old Mumsnet strikes again

She has it in her username!

LBFseBrom · 08/12/2022 02:02

Don't say anything. Having the puppy is a new thing for her, it's a bit like falling in love or even having a baby; in a while your friend will pipe down.

It's not worth spoiling a friendship over something like that.

dolor · 08/12/2022 02:32

Wow.

You sound quite jealous of the dog tbh.

abblie · 08/12/2022 02:57

Maybe your boring and she got a puppy to entertain herself 🤣

garlictwist · 08/12/2022 03:24

I don't think you can say anything. But yesterday I had to sit through wha felt like a lifetime of my colleague showing me photos of her dog so I feel your pain. Boring.

Hillrunning · 08/12/2022 03:41

She is your friend, you don't need to be interested I'm the dog, be interested in her experience of having a dog. Enjoy seeing her go through the very normal obsessive period of new dog ownership, enjoy asking her how she feels about it, if she is coping, how it has changed her life. It will ease off, I have no doubt that in your 10 years of friendship you have have periods of being a bit too locked on to something in your life and presumably she has been a good friend and got on with it.

I don't much like dogs, I do like hearing from my close friend all about her dog because I like seeing her happy and enjoying a big decision she made.

Literaturemakeslifebetter · 08/12/2022 03:48

For some people the cats is all they have.
Some people don't even have the cats.
Lots of awkward silence with those people.

oakleaffy · 08/12/2022 04:26

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 08/12/2022 01:00

I live that it only took a few posts to diagnose the OP with a neurodiversity. Good old Mumsnet strikes again

what IS it with Mumsnet and Neurodiversity?
No other place like it for Neurodiversity being mentioned every time someone's teenager doesn't like something, is a pain in the arse, or difficult
'Are they ASD?'
Maybe they are on the spectrum
Maybe they are neurodiverse'

Someone can quite easily dislike puppies without suffering from a Syndrome! 🙂

oakleaffy · 08/12/2022 04:27

abblie · 08/12/2022 02:57

Maybe your boring and she got a puppy to entertain herself 🤣

Haha!😂

Flamingflames · 08/12/2022 04:31

My friend used to give me loads of updates on her dog but I just ignored a lot of it and she’s stopped. She just shares it all with the world via Instagram now! Some people are weirdly obsessed

BiBoop · 08/12/2022 04:42

oakleaffy · 08/12/2022 04:26

what IS it with Mumsnet and Neurodiversity?
No other place like it for Neurodiversity being mentioned every time someone's teenager doesn't like something, is a pain in the arse, or difficult
'Are they ASD?'
Maybe they are on the spectrum
Maybe they are neurodiverse'

Someone can quite easily dislike puppies without suffering from a Syndrome! 🙂

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😂 so typically mumsnet!

I hate my friends talking about their kids and pets. I have no interest in their kids & I don't spam people with my pet stuff.
Kids is the worst though, all the bragging & how amazing they're doing... I literally could not give a fuck.
I'm friends with my friends not their kids. I've zero interest, why don't people understand that? Boring the pants off you with shit stories about people you don't even know too. DD's friends dad yada yada yada & DS's girlfriend is whoever Tory MP's daughter.. Oh really wow.. Zzzzzz
Bore the fuck off & taking your shit stories with you.
It's worse as you get older! I miss talking about the spice girls & singing the lyrics from Smash hits magazine.. 😂
Why do people turn into such bores!!!

BeggyMitchell · 08/12/2022 04:47

YADNBU OP

Some of the snippier replies are probably from those who recognise themselves in the description of your boring friend 😂

Doesn't matter if it's a new puppy, baby, cat, lover or god forbid a bridezilla (!) some people just have shockingly low self-awareness and can be too wrapped up in their own life to take you into consideration, or even just notice what's going on with you like a proper friend would.

Agree with some PPs' ideas, change the subject as much as you can when it gets too much and maybe cool off with her a bit in general. Hopefully she values you enough as a friend to take the hint.

LaurieFairyCake · 08/12/2022 05:01

New puppies take up ALL your time

MORE than babies as the nappy on a baby catches the shit and piss

So frankly staring at my puppy was pretty much all I did for about 6 months until it was toilet reliable and had stopped chewing me/the bloke/the furniture

There was fuck all else in my life for about 6 months

The only relief I got was when it went to daycare from about 20 weeks onwards for 2 hours three times a week

At least with the babies I could just leave them with someone else

The only way you can cope with training a dog for life is to convince yourself how cute and lovely it is - the more you put in to touching it and staring at it in a loving way the more you become convinced your dogs 'are the bestest dogs ever'

monsteramunch · 08/12/2022 05:23

@oakleaffy @LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet

The poster mentioned BPD as it's in OP's username tbf. They didn't just randomly armchair diagnose a disorder.

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