My friend has got so boring

[Bpdqueen]

We've been friends for about 10 years where not best friends but where pretty close. A few months ago she got a new puppy and it's all she ever talks about. She sends me photos of him all the time and the way she talks about him if you didn't know it was a dog you would think she was talking about a baby. I'm not really an animal person and iv been trying to act interested but I don't think I can do it much longer.
Aibu to tell her she's being boring and that I'm not interested about every little thing her dog does.

No she doesn’t. She just sounds bored of hearing constant talk about someone else’s dog when she’s already not interested in dogs.

If this woman constantly droned on and on and on about her hobby of knitting nobody would say ‘you sound quite jealous of her knitting needles tbh.’

projecting much?

OP, just grey rock everytime DF talks about it. Don’t respond to pics etc. Glaze into the distance and make mental shopping lists when she rabbits on. Hopefully they’ll get it..

Why would the op be jealous? I don't get it

No offence to my child but I think it is odd to talk about any subject constantly so I never talked about them from birth as the the only topic of conversation

Oh my gosh my mum is the same she even tells me about their poo. If I say I don't really want to hear about their poo she gets offended 🤦🏼‍♀️. She only posts about them on her Facebook never her grandchildren it's strange. If we go on a day out she will talk about what the dogs did that's it! Some people with dogs just seem to get obsessed and don't understand that other people aren't!

Dog poo chat is really grim!

Thankyou everyone for the replies I will Try to redirect the conversation a bit and hope as more time passes the dog talk settles down

I agree with whoever said to give it time. Once the puppy is a dog there’s far less to say. Having a puppy is a bit like having a baby…they are all-consuming. Your friend is a baby bore, that’s all. It’s quite common.

I can relate to your struggle with listening to her go on about it. I have ADHD and I really toil to remain patient with those who keep returning to a subject I’m not interested in.
I once worked alongside a woman who used to talk about her grown up daughter all the time. We all knew what adult dd had for dinner, what she wore yesterday, what she bought in IKEA at the weekend and just how absolutely marvellous everyone regarded her to be. We had 20 mins before the day started and I fucking resented my colleague monopolising it every morning to yammer on about a 26 ur old woman that I had not the slightest interest in knowing anything about. It was torture for me. I had to simply leave the room at times as I was struggling to remain polite.

As a dog owner I get bored when people talk about their pets too much! My friend sends a lot of cat photos, it’s always just sat still with the same expression. She does talk about lots of other things though!
I don’t think you can bring it up without offending, I’d just try and change the subject and stop responding when she brings it up.

Could you say something like ‘ right how’s Rover? Let’s get puppy chat out of the wat then we can move on’ ?

I am loving the description of cats with the same expression sitting on different chairs and the accompanying photos with obsessive chat..... .made my day!!

My parents yammer on incessantly about their dog. It's nauseating. In order to keep the peace, I let them get on with it.

When she mentions it just don't respond

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Jealous of the dog…..!

FM actual L

Why don't you get a puppy too? You can bond with your friend over having dogs and the dog will keep you busy and good company?

Op doesn't like animals and someone puts this. How daft can you get.
Puppies are massively hard work. The vast majority of people including most existing dog owners are not actually suited to dog ownership. It would completely fucking stupid for OP to get a dog. We should be encouraging less people to have dogs not more.

There are ways of doing things. I wouldn’t blow up a friendship
over this.

1. be direct but nice - I love that you love your dog but you seem a little OTT and it’s slightly off putting
2. be indirect- go out and have fun with other people and yawn when she mentions the dog. Give it five minutes then leave. Every time. When she texts you about the dog, don’t reply for days.

etc

She will get out of the puppy love stage, give it time.

😂😂Nailed it!

Exactly

@LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet seems to miss details in posts and then jump on people for mentioning them.

Sounds good.

Get cat op, a big scratchy one, that will send a message loud and clear that you aren't interested in her cutsy pue puppy.

Obviously, I'm only joking. I do know what you mean though. I think people can go totally ga ga about their dogs (or other pets). I think it's usually because they have a bit of a void in their lives and they need to fill it with love. Dogs are great for that because they don't answer back and are unswervingly loyal. For that reason, I'd probably avoid telling her you are bored by her and the puppy, she's likely to take it very personally. Instead just reduce the time you spend with her, limit the attention you give when she talks about the puppy and have a long list of other topics to change the subject to. She will get less annoying and consumed as the puppy gets older. In the mean time maybe join some groups to meet a few other people to get a bit more variety as well.

That's what I find fascinating pictish, how someone like your ex-colleague just assumed everyone in your office was as interested in her daughter as she was? Her Mother. So weird.

I think its part of friendship (especially long term ones) to listen and engage in things that don't particularly interest you.

(Same as marriage)

It's a kind thing to do for someone you care about and hopefully they would do it for you.

As previous posters have said the puppy is a novelty now and it will wear off, I'm sure.

Tbf, you probably would feel the same if it was a baby. It can be relentless from some people. It's 100% understandable that to them, the baby is the most important thing in the world, but jeez Louise it's boring. Fundamentally babies are boring!

At least dogs climb on your worktops and eat all the biscuits when you're not looking. (I have a friend whose dog has "friended" us all on his own Instagram account. ) I just "like" and move on.

Seriously, I don't think you can say anything overtly. Just do as others have suggested, quick look at the photo and change the subject.

You’re wrong. Puppies are never boring.

Can you meet up and do an activity instead? Sometimes meeting up for a chat generally is pretty dull unless you have interesting stuff going on in your life.