...to suggest this...?

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I saw a card game advertised on FB earlier where you split a deck containing 'fun' ideas with your partner, which they can cash in any time (e.g. one might be swapping meals at a restaurant if you like the look of theirs' more)... and one was relinquishing an unlocked phone to your partner.

I'm curious how many would/could do this? Could you ask your partner/husband (random time) to hand over their unlocked phone? Could you with yours?

I could easily, without hesitation, trust is critical... although I'd say with a caveat like "you're welcome to read [name]'s, but we've spoken about your Christmas present, so that's on you..."

I'd say try it... post responses? 🤔

My husband could look at my phone anytime, but he never would because he trusts me.

I could but I don't.
I wouldn't want him going through my phone. There's nothing on there but it just feels really personal. Like someone going through your handbag.

My husband knows my password and could look at my phone anytime (I also know his password). I often use his phone for internet searches or google maps when we are out as he never uses his data allowance. Perhaps it is because we trust one another or perhaps it because we are both boring!

I'd hand over my phone absolutely anytime, no problem at all.

If they wanted to swap meals because what i'd picked "looked better" i would tell them 100% no chance that was happening.

My husband knows my passcode and uses my phone all the time, if his is out of battery etc. I do the same with his. Taking my food, though? Hell no!

This!! Although my ex fiancés parents used to always swap meals half way through. So if one had a better one they both got a bit. Was quite sweet really

I have nothing to hide, but do would never ask to look through my phone, and nor would I look through his. There's a uncomfortable tone of control in it. A bit like reading someone's diary. I've never had any reason to distrust dp, and if I did, checking his phone would not be the answer.

We have each others passwords. There is nothing to hide. I don't though. We have had each others emails and said to go through it to find something. Other than finding a present the other has bought then there is nothing else to find. We are incredibly boring.

The whole family know the passcode to my phone. No one has ever asked to look through it but they will happily use it if I'm driving.

I could hand over my phone, but I won't because my privacy isn't the issue - I can't give permission to expose the privacy of my friends and family.

Swapping the meals wouldn't happen - we don't like any of the same food yes that's as annoying as you can imagine

Is this this 'Servd' game is it called? I saw this and thought yeah in theory it looks really fun.... In reality I can see it being a massive catalyst for arguments. If the divorce rate goes up it will be because of this game lol.

I neb on husband's Facebook when I want some funny stuff to look at. Some of his friends list are hilarious in the things they post, my people are tame. I ask and do it in front of him and my phone's left lying around, he knows my pin.

Guess we're just not that arsed

Yes, we know each other's passwords, nothing to hide.

DH knows the password for my phone, he could look on there as long as he doesn’t look at the Christmas list (not the one we share for family) as he’d see his present. That’s about the most exciting thing he’d find.

It’s unlikely we’d swap meals as our tastes are quite different. If he thought mine looked better and his wasn’t horrible (he loves blue cheese) I’d just say have half of each dish each.

I could but I wouldn't.

DP uses my phone sometimes. I trust him not to look through it.

I have no interest in looking through his.

We can always look at the other's phone, and we use each other's at times. Same with email accounts, we ask the other to reply to <whatever> or read an email sometimes. We just don't seem to have any secrets, if we did we would presumably have to get a burner phone or new email address.

I have zero interest in looking through DH's phone. I imagine it's full of sport and messages from his friends discussing football <yawn>
I've told him my PIN in the past but I doubt that he would know it.

Food however - I am that annoying person who can never decide if I'm going to like what I order if they don't have something I know I'm going to like. DH always says he will swap if I don't like it (and has done on numerous occasions)

He can have my phone anytime, but not my food.

I’d be concerned if I couldn’t do this with a partner, I go through DHs phone all the time, as does he with my phone, we aren’t precious about it

Partner and I know each others phone passwords. We use each other's stuff all the time.
The swap your dinner in a restaurant because theirs looks nicer- is just weird. Not fun.
The game sounds a bit shite.

Oh I agree, food is an entirely different matter!

Why do you go through each others phones? What is it you think you'll find?
That seems odd to me. I don't have any secrets but can't imagine why my DH would need to do this.
When driving, he has often asked me to use his phone to Google something, but I always say I can use my own.

The swap your dinner in a restaurant because theirs looks nicer- is just weird.

I do this as I'm a fussy eater Not just because his looks better

Am i the only bitch who has the odd moan about DH to DS when he's doing my head in & would def not want him reading that on my phone?!

We are in our 50's and both have adult family members of the opposite sex who tell us their troubles, so I wouldn't hand over my phone and although he does, because he isn't tech savvy, I wouldn't read messages. I also often handle his Emails. I wouldn't swap my food with anyone except my grandchildren.