...to suggest this...?

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I saw a card game advertised on FB earlier where you split a deck containing 'fun' ideas with your partner, which they can cash in any time (e.g. one might be swapping meals at a restaurant if you like the look of theirs' more)... and one was relinquishing an unlocked phone to your partner.

I'm curious how many would/could do this? Could you ask your partner/husband (random time) to hand over their unlocked phone? Could you with yours?

I could easily, without hesitation, trust is critical... although I'd say with a caveat like "you're welcome to read [name]'s, but we've spoken about your Christmas present, so that's on you..."

I'd say try it... post responses? 🤔

Most, if not all of us do. I delete the conversations with my youngest DD. about my very entitled middle DD. I have my GP econsult answers emailed to me, that's something that I don't want to share.

I look at DH’s phone all the time because mine is always on no battery/lost (I have to do find my phone most days as I’m scatterbrained). Use it for Google, camera etc. also look at the family WhatsApp so could click on any message any time. No issue. I would hope to never be in a relationship where this is even questioned tbh, who can be arsed with that.

Also my WhatsApp and his text messages come up
on our shared laptop.

All phones are open access in our house - we all know each other's passcodes and would pick any phone up to, for example, snap a quick photo. Dh, 3 dc (1 preteen/ 2 teens) and me.

This - I would happily let my DH look through my phone and he would with mine, but it would feel like an invasion of privacy to me (and I wouldn't want to do it to him either).

Always use each others phones. Not because of lack of trust, just because one might be closer than the other so easier to pick up to order something, Google something, change a song etc.

We’ve also swapped meals when out. Not because one looks better but usually because I’ve ordered something I then don’t like or is something I can’t eat when it arrives(complex food issues). I don’t even need to ask him, he will just know and offer to swap. And I know he often orders meals he knows will be safe for me even if it wouldn’t be his first choice. He’ll swap drinks with me too if I try something new and then don’t like it.

See I DGAF if DH goes through my bag either 😄 it’s husband, not a random.

No problem on handing over my phone at any time. If mine pings off with a message, whoever is closest to it, reads it.

My OH had mine all weekend when we last went away, I hardly touched it.

Swapping a meal in a restaurant? Hmmm, I'd have to think on that.

No I wouldn't like that at all. We don't know each other's passwords and have never been 'through' each other's phones. To me it's a complete invasion of privacy akin to someone looking in my bag or reading my mail.

What on earth do you have in your bag that’s an intrusion for someone to see?

@Glassslapper Doesn't matter what's in there. The point is it's mine & it's private. It would be really rude to go through someone's handbag, as it would to go through someone's phone.

It’s not just someone though, it’s your spouse 😵‍💫 the person who will be with you at your most vulnerable moments, hopefully.

@MassiveSalad22 Even more reason to respect each other & not invade their privacy

What an old fashioned view to have

@Glassslapper - maybe old fashioned to you. For me respect for other people's belongings & privacy will never go out of fashion

Looking in someone’s bag for a tissue isn’t a respect for privacy issue.

Its incredible old fashioned. Something my Nan would be funny about!

Interesting take! I don’t mean that snidely. I think people get so ferociously stuck in their own points of view on this site. My views change reading through threads all the time. I do see what you mean. But my husband has seen my perineum torn all the way through so for us most lines have been crossed 😄 we don’t see each other on the loo though, that’s our line. Phones, bags and perineums seem to be fair game in our relationship 😄

Im often on my dh phone as he is rubbish at doing things on it so often hands to me to do.
He knows my password I think and would have no issue handing over but just don't need to

My DH knows my password and I know his. It's from using ours phones as timers. I've never looked at his messages out of respect for his privacy. He's never looked at my messages out of a lack of nosiness. Honestly, the main couldn't care less who I message or what I'm messaging about.

So weird! Why?

It is just personal preference, I wouldn't mind if my DH looked through my bag, I don't consider it rude and neither does he.

It’s not only my privacy though. I wouldn’t want my dh ( I haven’t got one) reading friends messages that they’ve sent me.

The 'game' sounds ridiculous. Forcing your partner to do something on a whim? No thank you, we are not in the playground.

It would be really rude to go through someone's handbag, as it would to go through someone's phone

My handbag only ever has 3 things in it - purse, phone, keys.
There is nothing to 'go through' 😂

I honestly find it odd that married couples are so secretive about their phones.

So glad it's not just me, nobody else mentioned this 😅 it's my first thought if DH is anywhere near my phone - damn what have i said about him now 🙈 i do love him really!