...to suggest this...?

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I saw a card game advertised on FB earlier where you split a deck containing 'fun' ideas with your partner, which they can cash in any time (e.g. one might be swapping meals at a restaurant if you like the look of theirs' more)... and one was relinquishing an unlocked phone to your partner.

I'm curious how many would/could do this? Could you ask your partner/husband (random time) to hand over their unlocked phone? Could you with yours?

I could easily, without hesitation, trust is critical... although I'd say with a caveat like "you're welcome to read [name]'s, but we've spoken about your Christmas present, so that's on you..."

I'd say try it... post responses? 🤔

My friends have shared stuff with me about their lives that are none of my partner’s business. No, he wouldn’t get free access to my phone and I wouldn’t want access to his either. He can use it if he needs to make a call etc but not to just look through for entertainment.

I wouldn't allow my partner look through my phone. They are generally accepted as private and so the messages on there were sent to me by friends and family in the expectation I would be the only person reading them. Its very unfair to share them just to prove a point about how open you are with your partner.

Yep, that's it.

Yeah, I saw it and thought the same... unless you were 100% trusting and comfortable in your relationship, arguments galore!

I think it's just there to add a bit of daring variety and craziness to the relationship

One was the ability to take control of your partner's phone, another was swap meals, another was dress them for a day how you want, a pamper me card, a detour on their way home from work for your favourite drive through card...

I was just curious how many in here would be comfortable sharing a phone. I'd imagine the younger ones where one (sadly, usually guys) is keeping their options open with flirtatious messages would cause massive arguments.

Interesting about the handbag comments though... can't help seeing the "quick, get my inhaler"... "no can do, you warned me!!!" image.

Im more likely to refuse to swap meals than phones 😂

My phone doesnt have a passcode and most of the time i cant even remember where i put it down, so he is welcome to it at anytime.

Theres nothing i would say to someone else about my dp that i wouldnt say to his face 😂 easier to be an open bitch, then if he wanted to play random games like this its all good.

When I was married we both knew one another’s passcodes and both would pick up the nearest phone to check time or Google something. My very recently ex (were together 3 years) has had my unlocked phone in his hand and I’ve had his and happily have put his face in my facial recognition, he was slightly less open but not particularly hiding anything. I wouldn’t have snooped in his phone and I wouldn’t expect him to snoop in mine. We respect one another’s privacy.

I once read my then partner's phone only to find messages from the OW The relationship ended but I'm glad I looked and would again.

I have enough trouble getting DH to read his messages. No concerns at all that he has messages he wouldn't want me to see. I know his passcode and he happily handed me his phone when I asked for it to load a YouTube video earlier.

I never get the whole 'if you trust me let me look at your phone'. I'm single but would never let a partner have free rein on my phone. Often friends discuss personal issues with me over text and it would be a massive betrayal of THEIR trust to let anyone else read them!

This too!!

He could look through my messages but I'd be very embarrassed if he looked through my search history 🙈

DP and I have chatted about doing something like this as a silly game for stocking fillers, but not looking through each other’s phones

We had in mind cashing in ‘vouchers’ for things like “can you do the litter trays today even though it’s my turn” or “dinner’s on you tonight”...silly little things like that rather than an excuse to invade one another’s privacy!

I don’t think DH is interested in my endless ‘brain dump’ lists on Notes, eleventy million interiors pictures or my WhasApp chats with my friends about our children/Daniel Craig’s blue shorts or the PTFA. My life is so dull 😂

’Go through his phone’? What does this mean?

Why don’t you just ‘go through your own phone’?

What does his have on it that yours doesn’t have?

Presumably his messages to other people? Is that what you go through?

Is it just because you’re nosey?

I'm probably boring but none of those things sound like 'fun' to me ...

Don't want to swap food - there's a reason I ordered what I did (and he has allergies so may not be able to swap anyway)

Know his phone pass number (and fairly sure he knows mine) but wouldn't dream of looking through it. I do find it interesting how many people on Mumsnet don't seem able to distinguish between 'secrecy' and 'privacy'.

Other people's privacy is the issue. Not my own. Too many friends have sent messages that include information that they wouldn't be happy going further. So it won't.

This.

Phones; we could but why would we?

Same

I'd have thought an open phone policy was more an indicator of lack of trust than the reverse. I don't mean borrowing the phone for legitimate reasons, but people who make a point of giving and expecting access. If there's trust, what's the point? The only time I'd be remotely interested in looking is if I suspected something.

I'd have thought an open phone policy was more an indicator of lack of trust than the reverse.

Without a shadow of a doubt.

It is also an indicator of unadulterated nosiness.

My partner has seen me push out 2 kids. I've used the loo while he's in the bath, he has held me while I vomited my insides out when I had D&V. The man has seen the best and worst of me. Still not letting him go through my phone.

Of course we can look at each others phones

We would use each other’s phones anyway. I wouldn’t look at his messages and I’m sure he wouldn’t look at mine.

I'd relinquish my phone to my partner for all eternity before I swap my meal 😅

There's nothing exciting on my phone whatsoever so he would be welcome to it. I have swapped meals with DH a couple of times, once when the Thai curry I ordered was hotter than the sun and I couldn't eat it and once at a group Christmas dinner when they mixed up the preordered menu and he got salmon, I swapped my turkey with him.