AIBU to think this is a bit cheeky?

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DH works largely from him but sometimes in an office.

I am a SAHM.

Today he is in the office. Has been planned for weeks.

I have had our 3 DC at home since Monday and they're all ill. Fine no issue.

I've just been contacted by DH to say he's going for some after work drinks. Meaning he'll miss dinner and I'll have to put DC to bed alone.

I've said not a chance as I've been locked inside for 48 hours with three small sick children and I'm not doing bath and dinner alone.

If he'd mentioned it yesterday it wouldn't have been an issue as I'd have been mentally prepared but it's the nature of just dropping it on me that annoyed me.

I'd never do that to him and now apparently I'm the bad guy for saying no!

Op do you actually have any friends left? Is there anyone that you can call on to spend time with ?

All this "giving a pass" chat is mental. Like they need permission to go out 🙃. You said even tho they're ill it's "no issue" so I don't think it sounds like it's difficult to get them to bed alone, as a one off.

If he doesn't like the answer, why does he even bother to ask? What's the point.

Make sure you go out. Even if its alone. Go somewhere nice for dinner. Take a book, have a glass of wine after dinner ie make sure he does dinner and bedtime alone

He didn’t ask, he told, and it’s polite to let her know he will be back later, it’s her who decided she’d the final say like she was his mum

I think the main thing I can get from the tone of your messages is you’re resentful that you’re a sahp because I just don’t get why you’ll begrudge someone getting lunch dinner with colleagues once in a blue moon. He can still tidy the house whenever he gets home or do it tomorrow, why does it need to be done at 5?
I can understand if you already had a night out or activity planned and he was meant to take over with the kids and now bailed but you said it yourself that he’s normally hands on and it’s not as if this night out occurs regularly for him. I think yabu and just resentful

YABU

Oh wrong thread ignore that...