I have always been fiercely independent. I’m a home owner and business owner and never wanted to rely on someone else. I have never mixed my finances with my partners’ and as long as he is able to pay his rent (he lives with me) then I believe it’s up to him how much he works/ earns. But now I am pregnant. I’m working my arse off, despite going through a rough first trimester, because I want to have as much money saved so that I can continue paying my mortgage and have money for myself when I take a bit of time off. I have told my partner that we need to both be saving as much as we possibly can before the baby comes because my income will be lower. I am almost half way through my pregnancy now, and some days he is only working 3/4 hours and spending the rest of it gaming. He’s self employed and doing absolutely nothing to increase his work hours. I don’t know what I’m asking for here, I guess confirmation that I’m allowed to tell him to up his game. This is all alien to me, being in my 30s and having never told a partner how much he should work or earn. For the record this was an unplanned but very much wanted pregnancy.