By not wanting to take my 6month out in the cold for 4 hours?

[Subzer0]

Just wanted to preface this by saying I'm the father but wanted a woman's/mother's perspective because I don't have many women in my life other than my wife, hope this is okay.

My son just got out of A and E yesterday. He suffered from bronchiolitis at 1 week old and each time he gets a cold now he suffers (He's now 6 months). Took him to A and E yesterday, they say his O2 sats were fine (thank God!) but weren't happy with his wheezing and sent him home with an inhaler plus spacer device.

I (husband) booked the family to go to a Christmas adventureland today with the kids. It wasn't cheap but I told my Wife today that I didn't want to take the little one out in this weather, considering we would be out for around 4 hours. And considering the fact he's just come out of hospital and is ill.

My wife is now hugely upset and angry with me, saying I ruin everything.. etc. Saying he will be okay if we wrap him up.

I said I more than happy to drop her and the older 2 kids off but wasn't happy keeping the little one in the cold for more than 1hr. But no, she said it's either all of us or none, so now told the other 2 kids we're not going and basically blaimed me for that!

Am I being unreasonable?

Not unreasonable at all @Subzer0 , you sound very sensible.

My thoughts too.

Baby should definitely not go and your wife is being childish and incredibly unreasonable

I never said he was to blame. He should have tried harder when his wife became emotional and tried to stop her ruining the day for the older two children.

Wow victim blaming much?

Why should he have tried harder?

It was his wife who was having a tantrum and ruining her children’s day.
He did nothing wrong at all.

Absolutely YANBU. If your child was in hospital yesterday, 4 hours out in the cold doesn't sound sensible as a next-day activity for them. They'll be better off getting some rest where it's warm.

I'd stick with your suggestion that she and the older kids go (or you take them if she'd prefer to stay with the baby).

I agree. It took a while but she admitted it was an overreaction. She just wanted some quality family time. She's apologised, since and admitted she wasn't thinking straight exactly as you say.

She's a great mum, I couldn't be happier with the mother she has become. She has overcome so much in her life and at every point she has chosen her children over anything. I'm very greatful for having her in my life. But this was just an out the blue overreaction.

She ended up looking after DS3 and the other 2 had an amazing day so it all worked out in the end.

Can you read? I never said he was to blame but his wife kicked off and he should have tried to talk her round considering how unreasonable she was being. Her tantrum caused her two older children to miss out on a lovely day. That is not acceptable.

Cold air plus bronchiolitis is dangerous. This is not just a cold. Bronchiolitis is very serious in babies.

No point arguing over semantics. My children had a great day in the end it was all worked out in the end. Please see post above.

I do appreciate everyone's advice on the matter. Hope everyone reading has a Merry Christmas, take care.

I'm glad you reached a decent outcome.

DS2 had bronchiolitis and it was horrible. He's gone on to have asthma and has had a rotten time with it each time the weather's changed since the summer. It's horrid when issues like this ruin plans and affect family life (it was a major dampner and concern during our summer holiday- we couldn't take him anywhere with air conditioning all summer without it triggering attacks) but sometimes you do just have to modify plans around it.
Air temperature and quality make a major difference to inflammed airways (and I'm normally team "fresh air")

You are right and she is wrong, could you get a babysitter. ?

I'm so glad it worked out for you all and the older children had a great day @Subzer0