I'm 31 and partner 3 years younger. Been together almost 3 years now, living together for 2. He's never told me he wants to marry me. Early in our relationship he said he'd like to get married (in general).
But he's never once mentioned us being married, engaged, having children etc.
He's talked about purchasing a house, however.
Around 6 months ago I talked to him about it. I asked him if he saw us getting married one day. It was almost like he had to think about what to say, he kind of made some jokes and then let out a soft, 'yeah'.
But I have no idea.
Maybe just under 3 years together is too soon to get engaged?
Or 28 is too young for a man to get engaged? It doesn't mean we'd even be married for another year or so after, so he'd be nearer 30.
I'm just worrying. Looking at my friends, most were engaged around the 3 year point, some a bit sooner, one still not engaged after 8 years so it's all different.
I know times have changed and women shouldn't be sitting around waiting for a proposal. But I've already brought it up once.
I go by the mantra of if somebody wants to do something, they will. He's never said a word to me about it, if there's ever a wedding joke he just laughs and changes the subject.
What if he says he isn't ready yet? That's fine of course, but what if he's still not ready a year, 2 years later? How long could I wait for something that might never happen?
He seems very happy with me and committed but I know that doesn't mean they want to marry you.
I'm really not fussed about fancy rings and big wedding days and he knows that, I'd literally go to the registry office.
Just looking for advice, as this is playing on my mind a lot..