Expensive unwanted gift- what to do?

[crochetmonkey74]

I have a lovely friend who is very dear to me - but she is absolutely terrible at presents.
It was recently my birthday - and she bought me a very expensive item. It's a make up bag from a designer brand. Her sister loves this brand so my friend has hooked on the idea that this must be good. Thing is , I do not like it at all - it's not my taste and I have something nicer. I'd love to sell it on Vinted - but is that terribly offensive?

What do you guys think?

Noone likes a reverse

Do it. It's anonymous. You're just recycling 🙂

definitely not a reverse- this really happened to me

Tell your friend that it was a lovely gift but not to your taste and would she mind if you sold it to buy something different.

If you wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that, then the answer is don’t sell it. You’ll only end up in a pickle when she asks about it and you have to lie.

My Vinted is my full name - but I do know a friend with a more anonymous username who might sell it for me

You say "thanks for the gift, it's lovely" and then sell it on. She will never know. If you go away for the weekend and she asks where the make up bag is, say "it's too good to take with me, I just use this one when I go away".

No way would I do this. Make money from a gift? I'd keep it for a while maybe wheeling it out for occasions I see my friend or else if you think this will go down ok I would phone her and explain it's gorgeous but just not my style but you really appreciate the thought and the expense and offer it to her. She can then take it and use it or sell it and maybe even give you something else with the money.

No way would I sell it. How grabby and ungrateful to make a profit on a gift. At the very very least I would gift it onto someone at a future datem

I wouldn't be able to do this- she can be a sensitive soul and I think this would really upset her.

I'm not trying to be grabby or ungrateful at all

I'm just trying to avoid it sitting on my wardrobe shelf getting dusty for a few years- I have gone quite minimalist over the last few years

I could consider a regift though

If her sister likes it can you suggest your friend gives it to her as it's more her style?

no she would be really upset

She was excited to give it to me - and she is menopausal and a bit up and down anyway and like I said, sensitive.

She is honestly the nicest friend but always gets presents slightly 'wrong' (not only for me)

It's no more grubby or ungrateful than returning the item to exchange and many people provide gift receipts for this purpose. OP can use the .money to buy a gift for herself that she does like, much better than an expensive item being unused and therefore money wasted completely

*grabby not grubby

I'd sell it without a second thought. If someone gives you a gift, it's yours to do as you like with especially if it's hideous.

Regift it or sell it. No need to let your friend know. If she asks about it you can say you tried the make up a few times but it just didn't suit your skin.

I would never sell on a gift. It came to you for free, so pass it on for free (regift or just give away). I don’t find it a big issue not to like a gift I’m given or if I get it wrong when giving to someone else. Just keep the symbolism and kindness and the lovely thought from your friend and don’t let that get bogged down by the misjudgement of the gift. Just put the gift back into circulation and let someone else enjoy it.

It's your gift to do what you like with. You don't need to tell her.

Much as I’d want to sell it I wouldn’t if she’s a sensitive person. Several years ago a good friend bought me some earrings that I knew I wouldn’t wear so I regifted them to someone else. I deeply regret that because I’ve since realised that my lovely friend has noticed I don’t wear them and must be hurt.

Keep it and bring it out occasionally. Suggest future gifts are a joint experience for you both to enjoy. We all have far too much stuff.

Just sell it. It’s a gift so it’s yours to do with as you wish.

It's yours, do what you like with it but don't tell her. I'd tend to pass it on to a sister or somebody who would love it rather than actually sell it (which would make me feel guilty). Or, even better, give it to a charity shop.

Gifs should be given without any expectations or strings, IMO.
Can you change usernames on Vinted? If she's at all likely to see your listing, do that.

And also gifts…

But there was an earlier thread where the ‘seller’ was roasted.

Once you give something away, it’s not yours anymore.

Oh yes

Could you take it back? Even without a receipt you may get a credit note?

hmmm not considered this

I think it was an online purchase
It's a limited edition designer ish make up bag and there are definitely no nearby stockists to me