My partner works full time and earns around 200-250 per day. I am currently a stay at home mum to our DS who is almost 3 and DD who is 5 months old. I do intend to start work once my youngest is old enough to go nursery. For now i've been doing a private tutoring job from home which i only earn £550 per month. I could earn more but its hard to do more due to juggling the home and children. My partner expects me to contribute a share to all the bills, food shopping and anything related to the kids. By the time i have done all of this i have a very small amount of money left to myself or non at all. Sometimes I would like to buy myself books, or go out with a friend or get my hair done but just dont have much money left. Considering that my partner earns considerably more than i do, would it be fair if i asked him to cover all the bills , and with the money i earn i can use that to cover all expenses related to the kids and myself.
AIBU?
Should i ask my partner to cover all the bills instead of us sharing?
twinklestarin · 29/11/2022 22:50
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLFlissyPaps · 29/11/2022 22:57
What does he do with his left over money OP?
Savings? The kids? Family days out?
Or does he have a hobby and selfishly spends it all on himself?
twinklestarin · 29/11/2022 23:00
All of the above mentioned. I guess he feels like its his so he can do what he likes
FlissyPaps · 29/11/2022 22:57
What does he do with his left over money OP?
Savings? The kids? Family days out?
Or does he have a hobby and selfishly spends it all on himself?
twinklestarin · 29/11/2022 23:07
@Changingplace He does cover costs towards the kids. But i thought i would offer to just cover that myself so it doesnt seem like im being selfish and not wanting to contribute towards anything
twinklestarin · 29/11/2022 23:03
@Aquamarine1029 No not married. We almost did but i refused then went and had another baby so i guess I am not very smart.
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Changingplace · 29/11/2022 22:53
You should pool all money as family money, pay all the bills & have equal spending amounts.
Why does he seem to think kids costs are yours to cover, they’re his kids too?
twinklestarin · 29/11/2022 23:11
@visuallanguage honestly dont know how it happened. It just happened gradually over time. Looking back i should have put my food down
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