"You'd be 20/20 if you had fashion sense"

[Bonnie93]

Talking to bf of one year. He said "the thing with you is you have no fashion sense... we need to work on getting you one... because your a 10 out of 10 but if you had a sense of fashion you'd be 20 out of 20"
I literally didn't know what to say so just said a long sarcastic okayyyyyy.
He replied "you know you don't so don't be all moody about it".

We are both 30. I typicaly dress casually, no designer brands (he is quite into designer gear) and tend to wear neutral/dark colours).
I experienced coercive control and violence in last relationship and one of the things they liked to control was what I wore (they said I dressed boring and wanted me to dress more revealing). Starting to feel like I'm heading down the same road again.

Would I be unreasonable to walk away now?

Nope. Dump him. Also introduce him to basic maths - 10/10 and 20/20 are the same thing.

10 out of 10 and 20 out of 20 are the same thing so he's an idiot.

Wearing designer clothes doesn't make you fashionable, and it certainly doesn't make you stylish.

Does he know about your history?

Are you happy with the way you dress?

He probably doesn't know fashion if it bit him on the arse. Red flag!

Bloody hell. What a horrible thing to say. He sounds awful.

He lacks basic maths skills so I'd throw him back in the pond

BETTER to walk away now, imo.
You've been there before. He doesn't deserve you.

What a douchebag, and clearly he’s no maths genius either. Unnecessary comment. After 22 years together, my husband will literally only tell me he doesn’t like something if I directly ask him for his opinion. He values his testicles.

Horrible. Absolutely horrible.

Me and my other half don’t necessarily share the same sense of style. I would love a certain man’s style but he TOTALLY DOES not so I would never even dream of suggesting it.

The only thing you get a right to have an opinion on when it comes to your partners dress in my opinion is if they are wearing clean clothes and if they are in a state of good repair. Ie if they were wearing unclean clothes or clothes falling apart you have every right to have a quiet word. But the actual style, that’s up to them.

Why did he choose to put you down, there's nothing wrong with dressing casually. I bet you look great. He's trying to change you and you're lovely as you are. You don't need that in your life.

@Whataretheodds yes he knows about the past. When I first told him he did throw me of by saying he'd like to hear my exes version of events. But other to that he's been quite patient with me as this is the first relationship I've had since me ex so have struggled with some things in this relationship.

In this situation I just wasn't sure if I was overreacting as it brought back negative memories

I'd dump him for his idiotic belief that 20/20 is a higher percent than 10/10 alone. He's clearly a fucking idiot.

Nothing wrong with dressing casually but even if there were, at least you have a concept of basic maths. He’s an idiot.

Don’t walk, run

I'd run for the comment about your ex's version of events!

Oh good gif I've just read your update. He values the opinion of your abusive ex more than yours because he's a man. RUUUUNNNN!!!!!!

*god

saying he'd like to hear my exes version of events

Thats such a great big red flag! Trust your instincts.

🚩 The part where he doesn't sodding believe you when you told him about the abuse would be enough to be done! You are absolutely heading down the same road only this time you caught it. Well done you!

The fact he wanted your ex's version of your previous relationship proves he's a cunt. Get rid of him OP, he's not the one for you.

Dump his pathetic arse.

Every minute you spend with this idiot is a minute you’re not spending with your perfect partner. Why waste another second on him?

Sounds like a rotter and shit at maths to boot.

omg - never have I ever said this before but LTB.

I hadn't even thought about the mathematical logic of his statement!!!

I just feel I can't continue with him knowing he's looking at me thinking I'm not good enough. And I know too well no matter how much I try to meet his standard it will never be enough.

Run away fast. He’s negging you. Also consider therapy if you’re attracted to similar men/coercive relationship.