"You'd be 20/20 if you had fashion sense"

[Bonnie93]

Talking to bf of one year. He said "the thing with you is you have no fashion sense... we need to work on getting you one... because your a 10 out of 10 but if you had a sense of fashion you'd be 20 out of 20"
I literally didn't know what to say so just said a long sarcastic okayyyyyy.
He replied "you know you don't so don't be all moody about it".

We are both 30. I typicaly dress casually, no designer brands (he is quite into designer gear) and tend to wear neutral/dark colours).
I experienced coercive control and violence in last relationship and one of the things they liked to control was what I wore (they said I dressed boring and wanted me to dress more revealing). Starting to feel like I'm heading down the same road again.

Would I be unreasonable to walk away now?

Thanks for all your advice. I know you are right and I need to go with my instincts.
Could I ask what is negging?

Tell him you've looked into your fashion accessories and just he's not making the cut so you'll be looking for some new arm candy....

Get thy self to Primarni. Fill your basket with velour lounge wear if that is appealing to you ... . Enjoy the thrill of wearing something comfy and of your choice whatever that may be.
Ditch the dodo tonight op.
I do confess when I moved in with now dh I refused to allow his leather sandals over our threshold.
A quick reminder he was 31 not 81.

All that need to be said.

@Bonnie93 Negging is basically giving back handed compliments that make the person being negged want to work harder to win the neggers 'approval'

Fuck.that.shit.

The comment he made about hearing your ex boyfriends version of events was a dumpable offence before we even get to this other dumpabale offence.

Get rid. He's a misogynist and also thick as fuck.

He's a pig op, you deserve so much better.
I have sensory issues which make it very hard for me to be dressed both comfortably and appropriately and I feel the cold so half the year I'm wearing layers of clothing which need to be acceptable textures and cuts, I'm also poor and would never waste money on brands.
Objectively I know what I like and what would look stylish, practically it's very hard to achieve day to day with my needs.
My boyfriend has only ever been complimentary about my clothing and style, he would never dream of putting me down in any way, and he also knows basic maths.
Good men are out there op, throw this one back and find one of them x

@ChrisTrepidation ok I understand. I honestly don't get how people can be so calculated In bringing someone else down.

No no no

Jesus. What a prick.

What bellend doesn't believe you when you say you've been abused...

Take care. And you're well rid

Vain, rude and wants a trophy girlfriend. Very unattractive man

Dump dump dump NOW. He would like to hear ex's version. He is trying to manipulate you. Awful. Well done I spotting it early! Don't doubt yourself

I would be tempted to tell him he's 25 out of 38, but if he was intelligent, he would be 30 out of 52😂

and obviously. dump him

Would I be unreasonable to walk away now?

It's never a bad time to ditch someone who tries to tell you what to do. Especially anyone who actually thinks that 10/10 is fundamentally different to 20/20.

When I first told him he did throw me of by saying he'd like to hear my exes version of events.

Really. I'd sack him off just for this alone. Does he somehow think their version was ... Ooohh, I'm too cross on your behalf to even type what he might have meant.

Sorry not read the whole thread but that just made my stomach heave. He's an absolute shit. Walk away now. Anyone who says that is a controlling misogynistic fucked up piece of scum. And I bet you are beautiful just as you are, dressed as you like. 💕

He's definitely only a 0/0 person- maybe stretch to a 1/1. What a dope.

You deserve better.