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to think it's ridiculous for football player in Qatar to want to protest about LGBT rights?

165 replies

Sausagenbacon · 23/11/2022 23:07

when they are playing in stadiums built by migrant workers in appalling conditions? Plus, to me it seems the height of cultural imperialism to go to other countries and expect them to adopt out moral stances.

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Keyansier · 24/11/2022 12:55

I'm gay and find the whole thing just absolutely preposterous. "When in Rome" seems to have disappeared from some people's minds.

Qatar is a religious and conservative country, I have slept with guys from there but I could be potentially killed if I ever stepped foot in the place, that's why I have no plans to ever go. It's just attention seeking at this point and trying to grab media attention.

Aphrodite89 · 24/11/2022 14:58

peaceandove · 24/11/2022 12:49

Empty virtue signalling from players who couldn't have pointed to where Qatar was on a map if their lives depended on it.

What a nasty, snobbish comment. I'm assuming you know lots of footballers to have been able to form this opinion?

Simonjt · 24/11/2022 15:23

Dotjones · 24/11/2022 12:08

I'd say "being gay" in quotes is legitimate in this case because the question was What is the sentence in Qatar for "being gay" - clearly, simply being gay is not a crime, no more than being a paedophile is a crime in this country - the offence only occurs when a person acts on their preferences.

(Think about it - how would you know someone was gay if they didn't have romantic or sexual contact with people of the same sex, and they didn't tell you they were gay? You wouldn't be able to tell.)

On the broader issue, I think it's terrible the way that teams have backed down in the face of a potential yellow or red card. Basically the FAs are saying "we support equality to the extent we're willing to pay a fine, but not to the extent that we're willing to jeopardise our tournament." If they're not willing to risk consequences that actually hurt, their support can't be that strong, can it?

Ah, gay people and peadophiles in the same box, just lovely.

Murdoch1949 · 24/11/2022 16:19

Qatar has welcomed foreign teams & players as guests to their country. They cannot impose their inhumane regime on foreigners playing football. The footballers need to actually undertake more stances, I was very disappointed by the England team quite frankly. They should have worn the armband then dealt with the response, even if it meant defaulting a match. FIFA is a corrupt organisation, last world cup Russia, now Qatar.

thehorsehasnowbolted · 24/11/2022 17:19

YANBU OP

I'm done with activists hijacking sports, advertising, education, in order to push their cause. If you want a platform, fund your own

I'm also fatigued with different groups trying to upstage one another to come first prize for victimhood. I'm done with intersectionality also.

you apply moral relativism to homophobia but not to racism

Morals are relative

2+2=4 =>fact

The earth revolves around the sun => fact

Most other matters are opinions, and everyone is entitled to their own.

Henuinequest · 24/11/2022 17:27

‘Morals are relative

2+2=4 =>fact

The earth revolves around the sun => fact

Most other matters are opinions, and everyone is entitled to their own.’

my right to exist as a person without threat of death or injury or jail JUST because I married a woman and not a man isn’t an opinion. It’s a basic human right.

ErrolTheDragon · 24/11/2022 17:47

Most other matters are opinions, and everyone is entitled to their own.

For the types of thing where that does pertain, everyone is then entitled to criticise and reject other peoples 'morals'.

And if anyone thinks that the equality of the sexes and freedom from persecution because of their sexuality is mere opinion rather than basic human right, then my opinion is their 'moral compass' is bust.

Henuinequest · 24/11/2022 18:16

If morals are ‘relative’ then the people who believe that people from different ethnicities shouldn’t marry are allowed to not just hold those opinions but police them?

morals may be ‘relative’ but civil rights are not.

LemonDrop22 · 24/11/2022 18:50

antipodeancanary · 24/11/2022 01:59

Being raped is punishable, being pregnant and unmarried is punishable, being divorced as a woman is punishable, lashes of a whip being a preferred punishment. Working, having custody of children, travelling or studying are punishable unless authorised by a father or husband. Wasn't it Qatar that took all the Australian women off a flight in Doha as a foetus has been found in an airport toilet and they carried out intimate examinations in order to find out which woman had delivered, as miscarriages are also punishable. Unhappy days.

Yes, but it was a newborn.

Someone is looking after her (I think) while the Qataris use every tool in their arsenal to find and drag back the third world migrant worker who panicked and dumped the baby rather than be imprisoned etc.

ToGanymedeAndTitan · 24/11/2022 19:02

Henuinequest · 24/11/2022 01:07

‘Being gay isn’t actually detectable except by certain behaviours.’

if my wife and I went to Qatar ( obvs wouldn’t) we would have to watch how we interact with each other the entire time. And you might say, well don’t kiss them or hold hands or do anything ‘obvious’ but we’ve been together 20 years - how easy would you find it to not give ANY clue about your relationship with your partner or husband or wife?
to act as if you were just mates on holiday.
you know when you look a 2 people and can tell they’re probably a couple even if they’re at opposite ends of the table/room or group?
then throw in authorities who are actually looking out for that, watching,
examining.
so yes it is detectable, and that’s even before you throw in what straight people might consider ‘giveaways’ like dress or mannerisms..

Exactly, I'm straight and have been with my husband for 20 years too.
As you say, it would be hard to not show you were a couple - even if you thought you were just acting like mates, surely eye contact, loving looks, body language and forgetting yourself for a minute and a playful hand on knee as you get up type thing etc?!
You can't just hide it ffs and no one should have to.

Sausagenbacon · 25/11/2022 08:13

morals are ‘relative’ then the people who believe that people from different ethnicities shouldn’t marry are allowed to not just hold those opinions but police them?
Of course they are. In their country. Just as we are free to disagree.
The idea of Gay Rights has only existed here for a few years. What about trans Rights? TRA's believe that trans Rights are human rights while GC people question this. We can't even sort out what human rights are here.
And yet we carry believing (or rather, some do) that we are right. Even when we don't know what we believe from one decade to another.

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ErrolTheDragon · 25/11/2022 09:49

It's your insistence on being constrained from protesting by national boundaries which is problematic.

Of course, if you break the law in another jurisdiction you have to accept you'll face the consequences there.

Joystir59 · 25/11/2022 09:53

If cultures support hateful attitudes then cultures need to change.

bumblingbovine49 · 25/11/2022 10:00

Henuinequest · 24/11/2022 01:07

‘Being gay isn’t actually detectable except by certain behaviours.’

if my wife and I went to Qatar ( obvs wouldn’t) we would have to watch how we interact with each other the entire time. And you might say, well don’t kiss them or hold hands or do anything ‘obvious’ but we’ve been together 20 years - how easy would you find it to not give ANY clue about your relationship with your partner or husband or wife?
to act as if you were just mates on holiday.
you know when you look a 2 people and can tell they’re probably a couple even if they’re at opposite ends of the table/room or group?
then throw in authorities who are actually looking out for that, watching,
examining.
so yes it is detectable, and that’s even before you throw in what straight people might consider ‘giveaways’ like dress or mannerisms..

Married couples have been punished in Saudia Arabia for public displays of affection . I'm not sure about Qatar though.

It is true that LGBTQ+ people are in danger but so are many people who openly show ( sexually based ) affection in public

Weirdly , men holding hands is fine in many Arabic countries . My white middle aged short balding straight husband who has been to a few Arab countries has strolled around holding hands quite often with similarly aged Arabic men who are showing him around for work reasons

caringcarer · 25/11/2022 10:31

I.kust wish political statements were kept out of Sport. The focus should be on the football.

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