To be unable to just get on

[KidsandKitchens]

Long time poster but NC so not outing.

I really need some help of advice please, I just don’t seem to be able to get on with what I need to do but still feel like I’m massively busy. Home with nearly 1 year old DD, other two at school, and I’m sat on my phone, as I have been for the last hour, when I’ve loads to get on with. I know I’ve got lots I need to do - DD2 wet the bed and I’ve all that to sort out plus mountains of other housework/laundry but I just waste time sat here on my phone and watching my DD play. I can’t seem to break this rut.

I feel physically uncomfortable if my phone isn’t with me and am constantly checking it but I don’t even know what I’m checking it for? I do want a tidy clean home, I do want to be a good wife and mother but I just can’t seem to get on with it.

I also feel very harassed and busy, but if I’m honest I waste a lot of time.

Any tips please from anyone? Please be kind, I’m in a rut I can’t get out of.

@KidsandKitchens I'm doing it again now as well 😆. Read one chapter of my book when I went to bed early and now faffing on here again lol

I will have a look - I've always assumed it's just how I am x

Same here.

If you try to set specific tasks to achieve on a given day it's a bit better. Otherwise the phone is a very convenient alternative to 'where do I start' paralysis.

Also, some time on your phone is ok. Just make it limited, ideally after you feel you have achieved something.

I think it's quite common, hardest part is getting started. It can be difficult to motivate yourself sometimes, especially if you're feeling tired. Set yourself achievable golas such as small tasks and reward yourself to give yourselfsomethingto look forward to. Also creating a daily routine can help and setting time aside to go on your phone at the end. You could try a quick online excercise video to feel more active.

Also do you think you might be depressed or feeling lonely. It's common to feel isolated when at home all day with young children. It may help to get out of the house go for a walk, coffee with a friend or go to a local playgroup.