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There's too much animosity towards benefit recipients.

363 replies

Threadkillacilla · 20/11/2022 11:36

Any and every flavour of benefit recipient, disabled, pensioner, out of work, low paid, single parent etc etc.
There's a mean and nasty cohort on mumsnet who are vitriolic in their hatred for them all.
What do people want instead of giving people a basic level of existence?
What do they think will happen without benefits?

OP posts:
MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 20/11/2022 14:37

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:34

A bullshitter because you don't like what im saying? I would say that your attitude is towards this is part of where the problem lies with the benefits system and peoples issues with benefits claimants in this country!

If it wasn't for the fact that she's no longer with us I'd swear you're my mother. She enjoyed periodic rants about benefit claimants, as well.

AutumnCrow · 20/11/2022 14:37

I think there are serious issues to address with the PIP system, such as:

Why do only 39% of claimants receive an award on their first attempt, yet 75% of tribunal appeals are successful?

What happens when tens of thousands of long covid patients start claiming, because it's the only way to get a blue badge / access the services that @medicatedgift talked about?

How will the DWP ever clear the backlog?

acrimoniousone · 20/11/2022 14:38

Grumpybutfunny · 20/11/2022 12:02

It's not hatred it's a pure discussion of how we a) finance the welfare state and b) what extent we want to to provide. I'm very much in favour of health, education, security and defence taking precedent over the welfare state as I believe all but the most disabled can and should work in some capacity to fund not only our current lives but also our retirement.

I would love it if the state pension was limit to rises that reflect the rise in wages only with a mandate that we all pay into a private scheme from day one.

Appropriate work found and ring fenced from those with disabilities to enable them to engage in society and earn a living. The wages for this should be linked to a person ability to work, with even says 2-3hour a week providing a minimum income equivalent to current benefits. This would likely to be more costly than the current system but I believe it is worth while.

An end to the current housing system for benefit claimants make it so housing benefit only pays for HMO style accommodation. Everyone deserve a roof over their heads but they should be funding it.

No ability to claim out of work benefits it should be funded through an insurance scheme to which you pay into from day one of working. Make work scheme mandatory for those without paid employment (litter picking, street cleaning, factory work etc) to provide an income limited to the current level of benefits.

People need to live within their means so if you can afford no children don't have them, can only afford one (us) have one etc

All sounds a bit Gilead to me. Some around here come across as if they would 'agree with some of their policies'.

Lonelycrab · 20/11/2022 14:38

Yanbu op

Its all part of the approach. Demonise certain groups to divert attention from the government and it’s appalling behaviour and actions, rinse and repeat.

Appeals to those lacking empathy and intelligence in general, so a sure way to secure at least some votes.

Peteryougit · 20/11/2022 14:39

PeloFondo · 20/11/2022 14:17

Why blimey? I can't afford a child so I don't have one. It is what it is
That's why I use long term contraception. It isn't I don't want children, but I can't afford them so therefore I don't have any
If you can't afford childcare, nappies, clothes etc etc then...

What about the people who’s circumstances change after they have children? People who lose
their jobs or become i’ll? Or people who have a partner who does leaving them a single
parent or a partner who walks away?

Life can change in a heartbeat.

FluffyPancake · 20/11/2022 14:39

People are allowed to think differently to you OP. What annoys me is that too many people in society berate those who dare to voice the unpopular opinion. Just because someone’s opinion is different it doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

AutumnCrow · 20/11/2022 14:40

FluffyPancake · 20/11/2022 14:39

People are allowed to think differently to you OP. What annoys me is that too many people in society berate those who dare to voice the unpopular opinion. Just because someone’s opinion is different it doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

Helps if it's evidence based though.

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:42

@Onnabugeisha I know how to touch a nerve? What by telling the truth as someone who deals with this day in and day out? No one is saying that there aren't many genuine claimants but there are also many many who know how to play the system! Instead of having a discussion about how and why this is happening i get called names and told im lying by the people on here that simply cannot accept the truth? Nothing will change for genuine claimants and may even get worse until these discussions are had and solutions are found! Do you people seriously think the government is just going to keep funding an ever increasing welfare state? No they will start making it impossible to claim and not worth claiming, then it will be the genuine claimants that suffer!! Why do you all take it personally if you are genuine claimants with genuine issues then im clearly not talking about you am i? 🤷‍♀️

Whit3Pumpkin84 · 20/11/2022 14:43

bloodyplanes

You’re talking bullshit. We had to fill in a 14 page form that included a long list of professionals working with my Dd who absolutely were contacted as they told us when they were. We have 3 degrees between us and struggled with the form. We were warned that the more evidence we could include the better so had to battle to get loads of things on paper including prescriptions. A professional had to speak to the health assessor and we were rung to have dates re admissions clarified and proved as anything over a month means you’re not eligible.

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:43

MistressoftheDarkSide · 20/11/2022 14:34

Yes, sorry - just grinds my gears when people who obviously have no medical expertise or experience of the system broadly attack those in need of support…..

I definitely have a medical degree!

Peedoffo · 20/11/2022 14:43

I've never felt jealous of those who can't/ won't work. Many people are simply unemployable I have no wish to see anyone starve. I'd love there to be a trial for universal basic income.

PearlclutchersInc · 20/11/2022 14:44

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:17

@actualnamechange that is the funniest thing ive heard! Trust me I work in the medical profession and these people know exactly what to say and if that doesn't work making complaints and asking for second opinions usually does!

Doing what exactly that you have such intimate knowledge of all these fakes and cheats?

MistressoftheDarkSide · 20/11/2022 14:45

And I’m the Queen of Sheba…..

But as this is an anonymous forum we’ll never really know will we?

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:46

Whit3Pumpkin84 · 20/11/2022 14:43

bloodyplanes

You’re talking bullshit. We had to fill in a 14 page form that included a long list of professionals working with my Dd who absolutely were contacted as they told us when they were. We have 3 degrees between us and struggled with the form. We were warned that the more evidence we could include the better so had to battle to get loads of things on paper including prescriptions. A professional had to speak to the health assessor and we were rung to have dates re admissions clarified and proved as anything over a month means you’re not eligible.

Not talking bullshit at all! I've seen forms go in with GP details, Dr's details! No supporting evidence and they have been awarded! Yes the forms are long but not every question applies to every claimant!

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 20/11/2022 14:46

I definitely have a medical degree!

Can you stop using !!! all the time? it's like being shouted at.

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:47

@PearlclutchersInc well im not going to out myself by telling you that am i! Seriously!!!

actualnamechange · 20/11/2022 14:47

I actually have second hand embarrassment here.

Whit3Pumpkin84 · 20/11/2022 14:48

Sorry I simply don’t believe you.

What is your job?

acrimoniousone · 20/11/2022 14:48

Georgeskitchen · 20/11/2022 12:23

Setting apart those with disabilities or disabled children who are unable to work, and don't forget many disabled people can and do work, OAPs, who many on MN seem to despise, despite the fact that most have worked for 40/50years without things that would have seemed luxuries back then, but people take for granted nowadays, not working at all and claiming handouts seems to be a lifestyle choice for many, along with producing hordes of children and complaining to the papers because the council refuses to provide a 6 bedroom council house.
Pretty sure many of these people would quickly find employment if they were told the British taxpayer would no longe feed and clothe them. They could try doing what many parents did (and still do)
Dad goes out to work through the day. Mum goes out to work evenings when dad come home.
My parents did it and I did it too
Back in the days before wage top ups and free childcare.
That is reason people are pissed off with benefits claimants. There is a big difference between can't work and won't work!!
Pass me my arse now please 🥵

not working at all and claiming handouts seems to be a lifestyle choice for many, along with producing hordes of children and complaining to the papers because the council refuses to provide a 6 bedroom council house.

You do realise the tiny number of people (not 'many') 'producing hordes of children' and 'complaining to the papers because the council refuses to provide a 6 bedroom council house' don't represent the majority?

Threadkillacilla · 20/11/2022 14:49

FluffyPancake · 20/11/2022 14:39

People are allowed to think differently to you OP. What annoys me is that too many people in society berate those who dare to voice the unpopular opinion. Just because someone’s opinion is different it doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

I didn't say owt about agreeing with me I asked a question, what's a better alternative?

OP posts:
healthadvice123 · 20/11/2022 14:50

Most of us are fine with geniune but in the real world and not middle class mumsnet know that there are some who take the piss and also that some get trapped in benefits and that is never good, the system sometimes means your not better off working when all things are taken into account and thats never good that people get caught in that trap

bloodyplanes · 20/11/2022 14:50

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Peteryougit · 20/11/2022 14:51

acrimoniousone · 20/11/2022 14:48

not working at all and claiming handouts seems to be a lifestyle choice for many, along with producing hordes of children and complaining to the papers because the council refuses to provide a 6 bedroom council house.

You do realise the tiny number of people (not 'many') 'producing hordes of children' and 'complaining to the papers because the council refuses to provide a 6 bedroom council house' don't represent the majority?

And that the newspapers love to embellish everything they can about these stories -
“let’s just round it up to 7k in benefits a month, that will get them frothing” - to get people to read them?

It’s sensationalist bullshit peddled to demonise those on benefits even more and it’s lapped up with people with nothing better to do than kick down.

actualnamechange · 20/11/2022 14:53

Ahh bitchiness and spite because you clearly can't think of anything relevant and intelligent to say! Its not me you need to be embarrassed for!

Don't mistake my genuine embarrassment for you as spite. I'm not a spiteful or bitchy person but i am an honest one and you are talking shit. I can only imagine it's because you have the very kind of bad attitude towards disabled people that is being discussed.

Scurryfunge12 · 20/11/2022 14:54

It’s exactly what the tories want. Blaming the benefit claimants and immigrants for everything takes the blame away from them. It’s astonishing that people don’t realise this.