Bit of a weird one!
So I’ve been with dp donkeys years, have kids, house, pets etc happy enough. I’d have loved to have got married but he’s never been keen. That’s fine by me, more important things to spend money on in the grand scheme of things and we’re happy enough so pick my battles.
I’ve found an engagement ring wholly by accident whilst window shopping for some earrings that I’ve fallen in love with. Now, I could hint/ask/beg dp to get it for me as an engagement ring. But I know it’s not what he really wants and I feel like I’d be pushing an agenda when actually it really is just that I love the ring 😂
I have the money to buy it for myself which if it was anything else then I would, however because it is a diamond engagement style ring I feel like I’d be emasculating him some how? Or opening the door to a load of questions from others (who are always desperate to know if we’ll ever get married!) which could embarrass him or actually make me look like I’m just completely gagging to get married/railroading him which isn’t the case.
Or….am I just over thinking this and actually I should just get it and get over it?