"You know me....I'm laid back"

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Is always said by the people who are categorically not at all, not even in the slightest bit, laid-back?

Furthermore, I have now reached a point in my life when anyone "declares" themselves to be an 'insert adjective' following the sentence "you know me" - I can be absolutely certain they are indeed the exact opposite. Some examples,

You know me...I like to be organised - said by someone living in chaos
You know me...I always look on the bright side - always constantly moans
You know me...I just get on with it - while kicking and screaming and complaining the entire time
You know me....I just go with the flow - is actually a complete and utter control freak

AIBU? 😁

I have been in the lives of two women who used to repeatedly tell me 'I can't lie, I just cannot tell lies' while every time they moved their mouths another lie came out.

YANBU 😂
Your post reminds me of a few people I know.

People who self declare things about themselves regularly, and I'm not talking self deprecating jokes here, seem to think that the more they repeat something, the more it must be true.

You know me, I'm just happy to help out From someone who 100% thrives on the adoration or praise of everyone noticing how much they're doing.

You know me, I'm always busy. It doesn't stop. I've got so much on. from someone who chooses to fill their time cat sitting, going to coffee mornings and otherwise being at home inventing jobs that need doing like upcycling a random piece of furniture they found on Facebook

I don't have a poker face, but that's actually true. Gets me in no end of trouble

You're definitely right though OP, generally if someone feels the need to describe themselves as having some quality, they inevitably don't!

Are they being sarcastic though? I say it to take the piss out of myself because I'm obviously not laid back

YANBU
School mum “I’m so laid back”. Literally anxious as hell about everything. I try to avoid her -
also tells huge whoppers. Bigs up her job, gloats how she decorates her home whilst logged on. Idiot.

I hate that it's usually means I'm rude to people!

I opened your thread thinking I know exactly what you, but no.
That’s not my experience at all.
In my experience people who say this are lazy, passive, useless people who leave things to be done and taken care by others.
Do not like these people.

Superlative people give themselves that is a huge red flag to be is ’open-minded’.
Funny how people who call themselves this are always anything but 🤔

The most ordinary person in the room will declare themselves as the wacky one.

”I am a very good listener!”, proceeds to endlessly talk about themselves, expressing no interest in you. These people are exhausting.

My ex manager described herself as "as laid back as they come", she was a total control freak, pedantic micro manager and the reason I left the job... Also zero self-awareness!

You are so right, I can think of quite a few people this applies to. It's as though people think if they say it, it will be true. I might start saying 'You know me, I never snack on all the biscuits'.

😂i hear you OP. This very line is frequently said by my sister who has a short temper and kicks off like a firework over the least thing. I have to bite my tongue every time she tries to talk me how 'laid back' she is.

Generally just irritates me when people feel they need to describe themselves like that. People will make their own minds up you don't need to tell us! Reminds me of that Catherine Tate sketch "what am I like..." after some really boring story 😁

So true. Open minded / chilled / happy - all red flags. One guy i met who claimed to be happy showed signs of being abusive really early on.

I never declare myself to be anything.

This is what I thought the thread would be about too.

"I'm dead funny me, always up for a laugh" - these are the people who cannot take a joke and are never actually that funny

My personal favourite "the kids are chilled because we are so laid back"

No love, they're chilled because that's their personality. I've got 2, one is a whirlwind and one is so quiet and chilled i could forget I had them. Same parents, same parenting style.

I'm a healthcare professional...
"You know me, I never make a fuss" is only said by people who have an appointment every other week and complain about every twinge and are never satisfied.
I have given up on the poker face now.

Whereas people who “tell it like it is” are complete insufferable bores who everyone finds tiresome with their opinions usually found in the daily mail and are somewhat homophobic / sexist / racist / delete as appropriate

Ditto people who say “I’m not being funny but….”. No pal, you’re not.

Up there with “I don’t mean to be rude, but…” or “No offense but….” ALWAYS followed by rude or offensive comment.
Also,
The suffix, “Joking, obviously…” makes everything offensive and/or hurtful totally okay, doesn’t it?
NO IT FUCKING DOESNT!!!

Every time someone describes themselves - That last verse of Robert Burns' poem 'To A Louse' goes through my head.

"To see ourselves as others see us". However they describe themselves - they just aren't. So yes, the 'laid back' are either uptight, or passive drifters.

Reminds me of a friend's wife who several times has said something to me like "You know me, I'm very sensitive to other people's feelings". It just sounds so pretentious, as though she's somehow superior to the rest of us, and of course, she's always whinging and seems very selfish.

Or 'I'm easy', when making plans and then saying no to every option

Yes, this is where I thought this post would go. ‘Laid back’ for that kind of person is them having a self-congratulatory take on their own passivity.

Judging by the ‘woo’ threads on here, the people who pride themselves on being ‘open-minded’ are actually proud of being credulous and having a poor grasp on the logic of ‘proving’ a negative.

See also ‘I always tell it like it is’/‘I call a spade a spade’ aka ‘I’m breathtakingly tactless.’

YANBU but I deliberately used this technique at one point.
I had been portrayed as ''stressed, anxious and not coping'' by a woman who was bored and loved to gossip. I knew what she'd been saying. So I did frame my lateness or omissions by saying things like ''that's the problem when you're always on time, the one time you're late people assume somethings happened''. ie I'M ALWAYS ON TIME