So want to say from the outset that I'm not desperate for presents and in fact find it something of a chore having to always come up with present ideas for my family which they always request. I'd happily have a voucher, or nothing, or to have someone choose something small they think I'd like but they like to have ideas of physical things so every year I spend several hours thinking up ideas that fit their specific budgets.
This year after they asked for ideas I sent a link to my brother, via my Mum as he'd changed his email address. He didn't respond, but I didn't really think much of it. Then on my birthday I get a card from them but nothing else. He also normally sends a text but this year didn't. It's his first year living away from my parents, having moved out a lot older than most adults, and I think he relied on my Mum organising his life, I suspect he's busy and forgotten.
But I don't really know how to handle it, I don't want to send a message saying where's my present, I'd feel rude asking and I'm slightly sick of chasing him about stuff. But I also don't want it to have gone to an old address (which he's done before) or to find it's on its way because it's actually something I need and if they aren't going to get it then I'll buy it myself.
Would you just leave it or should I message him?