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AIBU to let mainly 12 year olds and a single 13 year old watch dirty dancing

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Wills · 16/11/2022 19:16

Last year (around now) we moved our daughter to private school due to the lack of dealing with continuous bullying (I'm happy to give the back story but not only is it not the point of the thread, but OMG it's worth another thread so be careful what you ask for). For those who bemoan parents sending their kids to private - actually it did alright for the first 2 but failed the 2nd 2.

Needed to say that because MN is notorious for those who attack.

I've got 7 12 to 13 year olds (that's 6 girls and 1 boy) coming to my house this coming weekend to watch a film. I'd love it to be a film they've never seen before. PLEASE could I have suggestions. My daughter has seen Legally blonde, both Princess diaries, Wild child (best tween film ever! In my humble opinion)), Mean girls (not watched but am told is good and not age inappropriate), Clueless (also not watched personally but my older two girls felt it would be age appropriate for her). Others have suggested dirty dancing and said that at 12-13 the abortion bit would go over their head. Ummm no. I can't take the risk. My youngest is the only child we've sent to private. It's both wonderfully naive and a mix of (you're never going to survive unless you grow up etc). The key thing is that given that most of these kids are trying their hardest to still believe in Father Christmas despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.... What the hell do I show them that won't upset the other parents. I'm out of my league here. They've had all their children at private school from the start. Most of them are great. But the last thing I need is a controversy. Sorry - am possibly over worrying. BUT please give film suggestions!!!!

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OoooohMatron · 17/11/2022 15:41

DoctorMartin · 16/11/2022 22:59

Mama Mia and Mama Mia 2 would have been perfect for mine at that age. They're grammar school though which might make a difference.

Why would it make a difference?

slashlover · 17/11/2022 15:46

How has nobody mentioned "A Knight's Tale" yet? It's a PG with good music, it's funny, has a proper baddie you can root against.

It's brilliant.

Rippled · 17/11/2022 16:14

I doubt it will inspire them to make a play for one of the ride attendants next time you go to Butlins. It'll be fine

licketysplit101 · 17/11/2022 19:05

How about Stand by me. I loved that film. Also the Goonies.

DancingSunflowers · 17/11/2022 19:08

Grease

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/11/2022 19:12

I’m sure my dds watched it (a lot!) at about that sort of age. No harm done - they’re both perfectly well adjusted, happily married or partnered adults.

Agree the Goonies is brilliant, though.

Trudij123 · 17/11/2022 19:23

OMG, how did we forget A Knights Tale?! It’s brilliant !!!

fruitypancake · 17/11/2022 19:23

New Lindsay Lohan Xmas film on Netflix is really light and fun

PoTayToes80 · 17/11/2022 19:28

Has anyone said Stand By Me yet? Might not have seen it as it’s not modern, but fab coming of age story about 12 year old boys.

PoTayToes80 · 17/11/2022 19:29

@licketysplit101 oops, you’ve said it!

Delatron · 17/11/2022 19:32

I watched it with my 12 year old DS (can’t remember why) it was mainly fine. The scenes around the abortion are tricky but offered up a good talking point. But in hindsight maybe 13/14 would have been better. He seemed to know about abortion so they must cover it at school.

It’s tricky with other people’s kids though. I think you need to play it safe.

OkPedro · 17/11/2022 19:39

I would like the poster who suggested American pie to come back and explain themselves 🤣

Danikm151 · 17/11/2022 19:49

Enola Holmes would be perfect for that age!
number 2 is technically educational as well 😃

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 17/11/2022 19:51

What about Ghost? PG13. Funny but A bit sweary though.

I get what you mean about the kids seeming much younger than their peers in state school. What I would say is that every year in every school has a group that are behind the curve in a lovely way in being not so worldly wise. I don't think it's a private school thing. You get total opposites in the same year group.

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams · 17/11/2022 19:53

DDs adored My Fair Lady though they did spend weeks screeching "arww" and "Ay'm a good girl I am"

VestaTilley · 17/11/2022 20:23

No to Dirty Dancing. They probably won’t sit and watch a film anyway; they’ll just chat through it- why not lay on some games for them?

I’m not sure why you’re assuming private school kids are more “grown up”- even if this group are, you don’t pander to it- they’re 12, not 20.

I’d be annoyed if you showed my child a film that was aimed at teenagers.

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