Husband and I take it in turns to spend xmas day with one side of the family and Boxing Day with the other, this year it’s his families turn to be with us on Boxing Day.
Last year when I was pregnant I hosted and cooked for his whole family - days and days of prep and cost hundreds (as it does if you’re needing to cook for 6+ who like a drink) they were very grateful as I think they could tell how much effort I’d put in.
This year they have assumed I cooking Christmas dinner for them all over again on Boxing Day despite having what will be a 6 month old, barely any money due to maternity leave and with them bringing over 3 extra people. Husband and I set them straight but they said well we have no choice because you can’t come to us because you’re allergic to dogs. I said to in laws I really don’t mind having them over but it’s just too much money and time with a little one so if everyone could bring a bottle and a dish, or we could all put in money for a takeaway and they bring a drink each. They want Christmas dinner because “we are old and can’t do it anymore” just for context they are in their 60s and in very good health, and are being quite moody with us about my refusal to cook an xmas dinner for 8 people.
AIBU
AIBU?
To not host Christmas
BigMama32 · 16/11/2022 13:47
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLtakealettermsjones · 16/11/2022 13:56
Well they can pay for Christmas dinner in a pub for you all. How generous of them. 😊
CannibalQueen · 05/12/2022 18:34
Who is the heck is the 1% who thinks she is being unreasonable?
BigMama32 · 06/12/2022 13:40
yes so, I asked my husband to come with me to MILs and said we can’t afford to do Christmas dinner and drinks for 8. We offered to have everyone offer for a takeaway, we had lots of guilting “oh but we like your Christmas dinners” “now you’ve got the baby you don’t want to take care of us then”!
we’re having a whip round and my husband had enforced a “no bottle no entry” rule 😂
we’ve also agreed on Secret Santa with a 30pound budget to save everyone having to buy lots of gifts
MinnieGirl · 05/12/2022 14:24
Any update OP?
takealettermsjones · 16/11/2022 13:56
Well they can pay for Christmas dinner in a pub for you all. How generous of them. 😊
BigMama32 · 16/11/2022 14:30
No I’ve never been to theres, as my post says I’m allergic to their dogs so can’t go.
Last year I hosted, the previous 2 we were in covid situation so no one was anywhere, and previous to that they went on holiday every Christmas to see their children in Australia and We normally had them over for a big meal on New Year’s Day which we had always paid for, cooked and cleaned up after
luxxlisbon · 16/11/2022 14:22
Have you just assumed you would go to them in past years?
You hosted 1 year but who hosted the rest of the time?
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