Husband and I take it in turns to spend xmas day with one side of the family and Boxing Day with the other, this year it’s his families turn to be with us on Boxing Day.
Last year when I was pregnant I hosted and cooked for his whole family - days and days of prep and cost hundreds (as it does if you’re needing to cook for 6+ who like a drink) they were very grateful as I think they could tell how much effort I’d put in.
This year they have assumed I cooking Christmas dinner for them all over again on Boxing Day despite having what will be a 6 month old, barely any money due to maternity leave and with them bringing over 3 extra people. Husband and I set them straight but they said well we have no choice because you can’t come to us because you’re allergic to dogs. I said to in laws I really don’t mind having them over but it’s just too much money and time with a little one so if everyone could bring a bottle and a dish, or we could all put in money for a takeaway and they bring a drink each. They want Christmas dinner because “we are old and can’t do it anymore” just for context they are in their 60s and in very good health, and are being quite moody with us about my refusal to cook an xmas dinner for 8 people.
AIBU
AIBU?
To not host Christmas
BigMama32 · 16/11/2022 13:47
Am I being unreasonable?
580 votes. Final results.
POLLSweetChild0mine · 16/11/2022 17:44
@BigMama32 why is your husbands work on his case about a turkey? Or did in laws ring him and give him grief whilst he was at work
Banrockmystation · 16/11/2022 17:49
So you will have already had Christmas with your parents and the in-laws want you to then cook for them the next day?
They never host you because of the dog allergies is that correct?
If so then surely it’s their turn to host you and in these circumstances that would mean taking you (and paying) for a dinner out on Boxing Day?? Simples!!!
NoDairyNoProblem · 16/11/2022 17:58
You are completely right, no one needs a second Christmas dinner- if they are complaining about being too old to cook a Christmas dinner then surely going out or your in-laws from Australia cooking something would be a natural conclusion.
Life is expensive, and hosting is never cheap. We had 6 adults over for buffet food and drinks last year on Hogmanay. Everyone brought a bottle or two but we still needed a good supply of wine, some spirits, mixers, ice, garnishes, napkins plus the food itself. We would have been far cheaper to go out and split the bill.
NoDairyNoProblem · 16/11/2022 17:58
You are completely right, no one needs a second Christmas dinner- if they are complaining about being too old to cook a Christmas dinner then surely going out or your in-laws from Australia cooking something would be a natural conclusion.
Life is expensive, and hosting is never cheap. We had 6 adults over for buffet food and drinks last year on Hogmanay. Everyone brought a bottle or two but we still needed a good supply of wine, some spirits, mixers, ice, garnishes, napkins plus the food itself. We would have been far cheaper to go out and split the bill.
Riapia · 16/11/2022 18:53
Days and days of prep and hundreds spent entertaining 6+.
Fuck me how many was the plus.
LTB.
Venetiaparties · 16/11/2022 19:09
The bloody brass neck.
Don't do it!! If you can't put your foot down you never will.
They are welcome for drinks and crisps on boxing day, or they can cook themselves. Some people are so entitled!
You are not paid entertainment/chef services for their benefit!
BigMama32 · 16/11/2022 18:54
@piedbeauty hes a hopeless cook worked up until the 24th and helped out in other ways - cleaning the house, collecting the food shops, tidying up the kitchen as I cooked etc
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