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I miss lockdown

125 replies

DeniseDenis · 15/11/2022 20:59

Locktime lurker.
I know this is controversial, but I'm quite seriously, long-term ill at quite a young age and so I've basically always been in and out of lockdown.
I spend weeks and months on my own too ill to see people.
I don't blame anyone, there is no one to blame.
But plans are always cancelled. It's rubbish. I'm isolated simply because I'm too ill to go out.
When covid hit and everyone was forced indoors (and I'm not saying I'm glad people were ill or businesses failed and jobs were lost) I felt less alone. It's awful to admit but I was glad it wasn't just me for once whose life had ground to a halt.
I loved chatting to people via online quizzes and finally felt 'seen' at work.
And it's awful as I know loads of people struggled with it but I didn't because I was used to being in lockdown and already lived constantly with a huge degree of health uncertainty.
But now it already feels like these strides which were made to be more inclusive have been forgotten.
I get why, it was an unpleasant blip people want to forget about.
It's really lonely. I doubt I'm the only one who thinks this period is already being erased from people's minds and feels sad about it.

OP posts:
Tinybrother · 02/03/2023 22:36

TedMullins · 02/03/2023 22:08

I get it. It was lovely to feel so much social pressure lifted. I’m glad that wfh has become so much more widespread now following lockdown. I lived alone in a tiny flat so I was supposedly someone who should’ve been lonely and vulnerable but I wasn’t at all. I think I have a lesser need to physically be around and touch people than others as I found zooms and WhatsApp’s sufficient for social interaction and I also have a dog who I went out with every day so I talked to other dog walkers.

If people were working in hospitals/emergency services, had loved ones die or become isolated in care homes, lost their jobs or were adversely financially affected then I can understand why that period was traumatic. But people who could wfh and didn’t lose anything except the ability to go to shops and see people for a few months need to get a grip tbh. If the worst thing that’s ever happened in your life is that you couldn’t go out for a while you’ve had a very charmed life!

Where have “people who could wfh and didn’t lose anything except the ability to go to shops and see people for a few months” said that it’s the worst thing that’s ever happened in their life? many people who had experienced worse situations previously still found lockdowns difficult

Hopefully you no longer feel that social pressure and are able to choose the level of interaction that suits you best, without feeling that everyone else should reduce their social interactions alongside you

TedMullins · 02/03/2023 22:45

Tinybrother · 02/03/2023 22:36

Where have “people who could wfh and didn’t lose anything except the ability to go to shops and see people for a few months” said that it’s the worst thing that’s ever happened in their life? many people who had experienced worse situations previously still found lockdowns difficult

Hopefully you no longer feel that social pressure and are able to choose the level of interaction that suits you best, without feeling that everyone else should reduce their social interactions alongside you

A lot of people on lockdown threads have said that! And I don’t think me or anyone else on this thread has said we want others to, or think they should be forced to, reduce interactions - just that when that happened there happened to be some positive side effects for us. With hindsight (and knowing how much the government was taking the piss) I don’t think lockdown was even necessary and I wouldn’t advocate for it to happen again. But I enjoyed aspects of it.

Motheranddaughter · 02/03/2023 23:04

Stay at home if you want
just don’t expect me to

Lingfield01 · 02/03/2023 23:04

Sorry, it was a living nightmare for me. Never suffered mentally before but my mind took me to some very dark places during lockdown. Never again.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 02/03/2023 23:06

I didn't find lockdown difficult at all. As a single mum with zero support I had been very isolated for a long time. During lockdown there were loads of online Pilates classes, quizzes, socials - it was great!

Thatenough · 02/03/2023 23:10

icelolly12 · 02/03/2023 18:46

Sounds very selfish to want to drag other people down. Misery loves company I guess.

Ironic since you came on to this OPs thread and decided to throw insults at her.....

Notafanoflockdown · 02/03/2023 23:16

Yeah I feel nostalgic for:

My grandad dying of COVID and my nan having to stand on her own at our 18 person funeral because of social distancing.

Watching my colleagues get PTSD working in ITU and on COVID+ wards watching hundreds of people die scared and alone. One is only 23 and severely traumatised.

Worrying my extremely clinically vulnerable father would die.

Having to work on COVID +v wards with a plastic fucking apron and a surgical mask because the trust wouldn't pay for FFP3s.

Looking at the a&e list of positive COVID cases every day and hoping nobody my age was admitted.

Waiting anxiously for a viable vaccination.

Only seeing people I worked at hospital with and being unable to see my own family for months.

Not being able to buy basic groceries because those furloughed and wfh scooped them all up.

Having my cat put to sleep and having to say goodbye in the car park.

If you were baking pies and enjoying your garden with your loved ones you are seriously deluded about what lockdown meant for us.

EmmaEmerald · 02/03/2023 23:17

Aw Ted
you could have read about someone like me in the paper and thought, if only she’d got a grip, she’d have no need to top herself.

Notafanoflockdown · 02/03/2023 23:19

My most clear memory of lockdown was an experienced consultant breaking down in tears and saying "she was 50 she had years left, it's not FUCKING fair".

Moonicorn · 02/03/2023 23:22

Mitchumforthewin · 02/03/2023 16:39

Absolutely not. Anyone who misses keeping people locked in their homes for months on end just so they feel better about themselves is misguided.

This.

Moonicorn · 02/03/2023 23:23

I don’t really get it why not just carry on lockdowning yourself then? Why do you want other people to do it as well?

XenoBitch · 02/03/2023 23:27

YANBU to feel how you do. Many people enjoyed lockdown. But YAVU to be sad that some people wish to forget that time. It was hell for some.

80sMum · 02/03/2023 23:28

I too found much to enjoy about the lockdowns. I'd quite like a 3-week lockdown about 3 times a year!

DixonD · 02/03/2023 23:34

YANBU. I’d never been as happy as I was during lockdown. It’s how I always wanted life to be. I’m very introverted though, which probably contributed to how much I loved it.

I think about it often.

Everyonesinvited · 02/03/2023 23:35

I think a lot of introverts miss lockdown.

XenoBitch · 03/03/2023 00:20

Everyonesinvited · 02/03/2023 23:35

I think a lot of introverts miss lockdown.

Introvert does not mean you hate seeing people.
I am an introvert and suffered horribly during lockdown.

Everyonesinvited · 03/03/2023 00:24

XenoBitch · 03/03/2023 00:20

Introvert does not mean you hate seeing people.
I am an introvert and suffered horribly during lockdown.

Yes I get that totally but wasn't it nice not to have to do social things regardless of how much down time one needed? I thought so.

Emptycrackedcup · 03/03/2023 01:34

Moonicorn · 02/03/2023 23:23

I don’t really get it why not just carry on lockdowning yourself then? Why do you want other people to do it as well?

Totally this. Nothing to stop you from being a recluse if that's what you want!!

Emptycrackedcup · 03/03/2023 01:38

Notafanoflockdown · 02/03/2023 23:16

Yeah I feel nostalgic for:

My grandad dying of COVID and my nan having to stand on her own at our 18 person funeral because of social distancing.

Watching my colleagues get PTSD working in ITU and on COVID+ wards watching hundreds of people die scared and alone. One is only 23 and severely traumatised.

Worrying my extremely clinically vulnerable father would die.

Having to work on COVID +v wards with a plastic fucking apron and a surgical mask because the trust wouldn't pay for FFP3s.

Looking at the a&e list of positive COVID cases every day and hoping nobody my age was admitted.

Waiting anxiously for a viable vaccination.

Only seeing people I worked at hospital with and being unable to see my own family for months.

Not being able to buy basic groceries because those furloughed and wfh scooped them all up.

Having my cat put to sleep and having to say goodbye in the car park.

If you were baking pies and enjoying your garden with your loved ones you are seriously deluded about what lockdown meant for us.

I'm so sorry to hear this Flowers

GoldCherub · 03/03/2023 02:18

Lockdown was an odd experience as everyone was suddenly experiencing some of my family’s normality.

Housebound for days on end. Facilitating education. Panicking about supply of specific food and medicine. Unable to socialise face to face. Money worries. Health worries. Worries about caring for older family members because you can’t get out. That list is a carers and/or disabled person’s normality.

Lockdown should have had a profound effect on society to ensure that nobody continually experiences it.

Johnisafckface · 03/03/2023 09:12

I miss it too.

Beezknees · 03/03/2023 09:27

Everyonesinvited · 03/03/2023 00:24

Yes I get that totally but wasn't it nice not to have to do social things regardless of how much down time one needed? I thought so.

Nobody HAS to do anything social that they don't want to. If you can't say no you need to work on your assertiveness.

Madeintowerhamlets · 03/03/2023 09:28

Twilight7777 · 02/03/2023 15:56

This👆

So true!

PicnicBunny · 03/03/2023 09:36

I don’t know if I ever mentally came out of lockdown.

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 03/03/2023 09:42

I think so many people are missing the point of this thread. The OP isn’t saying they want lockdown again and all the negatives that came with it.

They’re saying they miss a time when there were more social and societal opportunities open to them because of their disability/chronic illness.

It’s not they don’t want to go out and socialise, it’s that they either can’t or struggle to. There are hundreds of thousands of people in this predicament and lockdown opened so many channels of connection that have since been closed.

Why can’t some of those channels remain open for those who need them.

Everyone saying “well if you don’t want to go out don’t” is just cruel and assuming people have the choice.

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