I lost my DP in January, very unexpectedly so obviously very traumatic and devastating. I’m a bit on the woo side cos lots of previous weird, but I try to retain a healthy scepticism.
So I’d been up till about 3am in the run up to the funeral and had been writing my eulogy ….. decided I was reasonably content with it, and shambled up to bed. Obviously I know I’m sleep deprived, traumatised etc…..
I went round to DPs side of the bed to plug in the charger for the tablet, and I swear to my dying day, as I stood up I watched him walk past my wardrobes as if he’d just come in to go to bed. Wearing his dressing gown, bald head - clear as day. But what’s more, the floorboards made exactly the noise they make when they’re walked on.
Now we have a “four poster” bed made from scaffolding poles with overhanging ends where dressing gowns, scarves and things get hung, so in a few steps he was out of my sight.
I just sort of froze for a minute then tried to logic it - tiptoed round the bed thinking maybe one of my adult sons had come in, although they would have said something…..
Obviously the room was empty.
I then replicated bending over and standing up again as I had been when I saw him to see if it was an optical thing…..
Rightly or wrongly I choose to believe DP was just doing what he’d always done and coming to bed…..
If the floorboards hadn’t creaked I’d be more open to the idea I was just tired, but that sealed it for me …..