Well I’ve messaged her DH and said I’ve checked and she’s not in any of the photos, and offered to hide them from
both of their feeds. Haven’t had a response yet.
Friend 2 is fine with me and hasn’t said anything. I really think he’s not told her. I like her DH a lot in general.
@Januarcelebration I really don’t know. I guess if she wasn’t happy at all about being there due to a fall out it could have been written on her face…
@ReallyITV I know. I can’t imagine doing that really.I don’t think she’d need to see other bridesmaids again, apart from friend 1’s daughter and another friend (who wasn’t a problem to friend 2) they were from husb’s side of the family.
@LovedFedAndNoonesDead oh god I’d never do that! Friend 1 wants to come and visit me at some point soon which I feel a little uneasy about. This was mentioned at the wedding do but before I knew how much had gone on between them I said ‘Yes of course, I’ll invite friend 2, too!’ and she said ‘no, just us’. Ugh.
But if I do do that, I can get to the bottom of it. If friend 2 contacts me again once the dust has settled I will ask her if they’ve spoken, too. It is sad.
I see more of friend 2. But equally I’ve been to friend 1’s house for drinks/food and it wouldn’t be out of the ordinary for her to come here (I’ve recently moved further afield).
@icelollycraving it was rather odd. And I wasn’t expecting them to not come back, at all.
There was a lovely hot buffet with lots of options at the ‘do’. I just assumed they didn’t favour anything on it.
@phishy perhaps it is that! If her DH Has told her what he’s asked-or if he’s just preempted it I guess
@FallingsHowIFeel I do feel for
her in that way.
I just feel sorry that both of them have fallen out after being friends for so long. They’re both quite strong personalities.
@SaySomethingMan thank you-I am
not the least bit bothered about not going to the full wedding, it was just the wedding party who did and I'd never thought anything of it and despite all this, I did enjoy the night do.
And yes, the bride is very happy with the photos, I did get some good ones!
I definitely won’t mediate!
@mondaytosunday I didn’t specifically ask but I just know her, I’d have showed
my ass in Harrod’s window had she been bothered. She’s just very easy going and fun loving and she’s also very direct. She saw me taking photos (well, she was in a lot of them and initiated a lot too!) and she’d have 100% told me if there was a problem.
@sausage767 It’s a point. I guess why does putting any photos up benefit anyone, they could all just be shared privately.
@MiniCooperLover yes, I really don’t want to be taking ‘sides’ with them at all ☹
@MiddleParking that's a good point, I think if someone’s taking photos one generally knows what they’re for!
@GreenManalishi yes I’ve not been privy to it which if I am honest, I am quite glad about although I’d obviously support either/both of them through it (and will as I know friend 2 will talk to me about it at some point at least).
My personal opinion is agreeing with most others, about the bridesmaid. To me It’s a dutiful thing, and you’re supposed to be there for the bride for the whole day. I will say though the other bridesmaids weren’t great either. One of them lost the bride’s keys handbag for a while (it was found safe, luckily)! And another lost the bag with her change of clothes in (again, relocated via a mad search by some of the other guests)...
I do think It’s rude that friend 2 left on the surface, but I don’t know the full circumstances.
@LBFseBrom she did have a professional photographer but she didn’t mind me (or anyone else) taking and sharing photos, I knew she didn’t. I also know she’s the type to have told me in no uncertain terms if she did
@ItsaMetalBand I definitely would have benefit from knowing more details before this happened.
@JustLyra she admits she can be quite highly strung. Possibly the latter.
@BobbyBobbyBobby @veganbacon 
I follow a ‘bad photoshop’ page on sm-some of them are hilarious!
@RJnomore1 I agree, although I have checked before sharing photos of other’s events before. In this case I knew the bride would have the same idea you/I have.
A wedding eve do starting at 16:00-is that unusual? I’ve been to several weddings but can’t remember the ins and outs to be honest. I suppose because they just had a registry office then ‘do’ with a hot buffet rather than a sit-down meal event.
I did just want to know what others thought about this and it has been interesting to get everyone's different opinions. Thank you :)