Sorry, a trivial social media one-WIBU putting up wedding do photos?

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This scenario involves two friends of mine/one another's.

Friend 1 got married on Saturday. Me and partner attended the evening do.
Friend 2 was a bridesmaid.

We sat with friend 2 once we got there and learned that she wasn't happy. Friend 1 had several other bridesmaids, and a couple of the others who didn't know friend 2 were being snippy with her, rolling their eyes at her, didn't let her get her make up done in the same room as them,didn't pour her a fizz when they got one for a photo, just generally being quite nasty.

Friend 1 (bride) came over to see us when friend 2 was in the loo and said she also wasn't happy, friend 2 had been quite nasty with her recently (it was loud and I didn't get much detail of this unfortunately).

At about 1900 (we got there about 1600 when the evening 'do' started), friend 2 said her and her husband were nipping out for an hour to see husband's friend who lived just down the road and to get some fish and chips.

We left about 2230 and they still weren't back. Before leaving I spoke to friend 1 who wasn't happy with friend 2 for leaving. I apologised that we were also leaving relatively early but I was driving and we were staying at a friends so didn't want to turn up too late (we couldn't find a nearby hotel and too far to feasibly drive home so staying with my family member who lives locally). Friend 1 said she totally understood, It's a long way to come, fair enough but she was very annoyed at friend 2.

I made a point of taking photos at the wedding do, being one of the few sober ones at the night do, and did get some lovely ones.

Friend 2's husband has messaged me and asked me to take them down as it might upset friend 2 who was very upset that day and didn't need reminding. Despite all the above we had a really good time and friend 1 looked gorgeous and happy and I knew she'd be fine with the photos being up on SM (she was/is). Friend 2 doesn't 'do' social media a lot but will sign in now and again (not that it should matter IMO)?

I don't know whether to just take them down, contact friend 2 to see what she thinks, leave them up and say to bog off, or what.

Further info if required-I'm closer to friend 2. More of a trusting, close friendship.
I think she'd probably tell me, but I am not sure-if she had an issue with my photos. I love friend 1 too, but we've just not spent as much one on one time together and our personalities just don't gel quite as much. Ive known both women for about ten years, and the two of them have known each other longer, about 13 years and used to be very very close. I am sad that their friendship has
hit ructions.

Such an odd request to rake them down!
This is quite outing so be careful what you say x

*take !

If my bridesmaid had left my wedding to see other friends and get fidh and chips, I’d wonder if I’d catered enough. The friendship would probably be broken completely.
If the photos don’t show other friend, then leave them up.

I was going to say 'take them down' some people just don't like being on sm, however if she's not in the photo and you haven't tagged her then don't.

But I would call her and make sure she's ok and mention that her dh asked you to remove the photos. See what she says. You can limit who sees the posts, so you could removed her and her dh ability to see the post

So you let people take photos, but then told people they could use them? That's incredibly rude. You should have stayed out of the group photos if that's your attitude.

*couldn't!

Did you even read the OP?

Friend 2 left at 7pm and isn’t in the evening pics that OP took and put up.

OP, friend 2 is behaving very badly here.

She’s pissed off that the photos show the party continued without her exalted presence and that the bride looked happy.

I wouldn’t take them down and if Friend 2 is the type of person to fall out over this then she’s not a good friend.

Friend 1 (bride) came over to see us when friend 2 was in the loo and said she also wasn't happy, friend 2 had been quite nasty with her recently (it was loud and I didn't get much detail of this unfortunately).

Why did the bride have a woman as bridesmaid if she’s so nasty to her. Very odd.

Friend 1 had several other bridesmaids, and a couple of the others who didn't know friend 2 were being snippy with her, rolling their eyes at her, didn't let her get her make up done in the same room as them,didn't pour her a fizz when they got one for a photo, just generally being quite nasty.

What a load of bitches. I’m not surprised friend 2 left at 7pm. Why are the bridesmaids at war on their friends wedding day?

They all sound awful.

Ad for the photos, if the bride/groom are happy with you posting them and friend 2 isn’t in them, I don’t really think she or her husband was demand you to take them down.

What a shot show though. Friends get on and are supportive to each other, I couldn’t be arsed with any of them.

Why are you so invested if you were only invited to the evening do anyway? You're not important enough to her to be invited to her main wedding, yet she has rattled you so much you're writing about her on an Internet forum!

Why the fuck did you pose in group photos then? What a dick move!

I also don’t like social media and don’t post but I also either remove myself from photos or accept they will be on other people’s feeds.

Friend 2’s husband is basically asking you to publicly take sides between your friends.

if you normally post on SM, and you take down photos that are normal for you then it’ll be obvious that it’s been because you’ve been asked.

His wife isn’t even in the photos so he’s being ridiculous.

what next? No photos of any wedding you go to because it reminds her?

Take down the one she’s in tbt background of and leave it at that imo.

I would take them down and take a break from both of these people, this sounds so draining. I couldn't be arsed with being stuck in the middle of this rubbish.

How nasty. Not a good look. Geez!

Don't take them down. Its a nice memory of you and the bride. Just remove the one where friend 2 is in the background. Friend 2s husband shouldn't be getting involved.

I won't take photos of an event down because one person doesn't want to see them. They can mute, snooze, block or filter out. What you put on your own SM (with caveats about decency and other people's children etc) is up to you. Not a friend's husband (see caveats)

Only put photos on SM if you have consent.

She doesn’t need consent from the husband of someone who isn’t even in the photos…

Nobody in the photos has an issue

The consent of someone who isn't in any pictures?

Admittedly OP didn't clarify until later but non of the photos are even of friend 2!

I don’t think I would be asking questions, trying to mediate between them sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Do you have the BRIDE'S permission? I'd be annoyed if a friend jumped the gun and posted my wedding all over their SM pages! I always wait for the whomever the person is, whether it's a wedding, birth announcement etc to post their own pics before posting about it, and I have a very small circle of 'friends' (I mean unlikely that what I post would be seen by many or any of their friends).
But no, I don't think 'friend 2' or her husband have the right to ask you to take pics down if they aren't in them.

For goodness sake, she isn’t even in the photos. Absolutely do not take those photos down, she’s being a bloody diva.. not least because she’s got her husband to do her drama-work for her!

How does it benefit you or the bride to have these photos on social media? Other than being gratified by the likes and comments. But it would apparently hurt your good friend. I’m team take them down, it’s no loss to you.

Your friends are all really touchy aren't they?

Keep the photos, block them from seeing them if they can't cope with photos from an event they went to and decided to leave early from.