To leave 2 under 2 in the house while I walk to get dc no 3 from childminder 5 doors down the road

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Quick pulse - as the title says I have 2 under 2 at home with me now. Dc No 1 is school age and gets picked up by the childminder who lives 5 doors from us.

Should I pack up the 2 babies in a pushchair to walk 2 mins up the road to get dc 1 or risk it and leave them in the bouncer while I run up the road to get dc no 3?

Yes like your child being hit by a car whilst walking across a busy petrol forecourt?

Oh no, that wouldn't happen....

I love the "anything could happen" analogy!

Same could be said for literally any thing we do in life, but most sensible people just risk assess and get on with their day.

I don’t think risk assessment is the point of this thread. There is a reason why parents don’t leave babies in their prams outside shops anymore - the reason being that babies should not be left alone without an adult present! You talk rubbish - a sensible person is not someone who will risk assess and then decide to leave their child alone - that is a neglectful person - a sensible person is someone who looks after their babies and doesn’t leave them on their own at home or in a car!!

Exactly this!!

You can leave a baby in a car for the two mins you pay for fuel.
People used to leave their kids in cars whisky they went for meals or to wait in a queue in the bank. That's not ok. Nipping in to pay for something is totally ok imo

Exactly

Total overanxious parent, that will raise another anxious child and the cycle continues!

IMO it’s totally NOT ok. Wether you can or not is not the point - why on earth would you WANT to leave your baby alone??

Eh??? What’s anxiety got to do with anything??? Just because I want to look after my baby and not leave them all on their own without adult supervision does not make me anxious and it doesn’t for one minute make them anxious as adults - and even if it did I would rather them be anxious than seriously harmed or injured ffs!!!

Absolutely OP!! 👏👏👏
Shit some of the people on here - frightening!!

It is over anxious to not be able to risk assess, having looked at your posts on here, not showering whilst home alone, or getting petrol whilst only alone, is over anxious. I don't think that makes you a better parent, I am entitled to my opinion, if you like it or not.

What on earth do you think single parents do? It doesn't make them a lesser parent than you.

Crikey, wind it back a bit.

Not when I am being character assassinated OP

Dear god! What a reaction, from someone who doesn't want to be judged but has judged more than one person on this thread.

You carry on however you like, but don't call others "slack or bad parents", because they don't have your ridiculous "rules".

And I am not a neglectful mother, but you think it's ok to call me that?

You've character assassinated people throughout this whole thread, suggesting that you "care more" about your kids because you take them to the bathroom with you, and even saying women are neglectful mothers for not being as "vigilant" as you.

"I'd rather be overly-anxious than have dead kids" is always the motto used to excuse over-the-top cautious behaviour that can be psychologically damaging to children. So you'd rather give your children anxiety issues for life than use normal risk assessment like a normal person?

And I say all this as someone who was raised by an overly-cautious parent. Everything was a drama and a potential danger and I had a very anxiety ridden childhood because of it.

@MollieMarie 👏 👏

Very well said!

Actually if you take a proper look at all my postings you will see that I haven’t even made one comment to the actually person who originally started this thread - I didn’t agree to her leaving her children home alone but I chose not to say anything to her question as she was already getting some slack for her question so I kept quiet - I only gave my opinions when #conkersareback started getting nasty towards me when I said to another op that I don’t leave my children when I shower - plenty of others said the same thing! I am not calling other people bad parents at all just defending myself and my actions when I am being attacked by #conkersareback who feels like she is ruler of the world and everyone has to be like her. Did you read the post that she posted about me? The one that I reported to mumsnet? The disgusting one about me that got deleted? Just defending myself when I am being trolled and stalked!

@Chasingclouds100 your disgusting post also got deleted, because you attacked me first!

Actually if you take a proper look at all my postings you will see that I haven’t even made one comment to the actually person who originally started this thread - I didn’t agree to her leaving her children home alone but I chose not to say anything to her question as she was already getting some slack for her question so I kept quiet - I only gave my opinions when #conkersareback started getting nasty towards me when I said to another op that I don’t leave my children when I shower - plenty of others said the same thing! I am not calling other people bad parents at all just defending myself and my actions when I am being attacked by #conkersareback who feels like she is ruler of the world and everyone has to be like her. Did you read the post that she posted about me? The one that I reported to mumsnet? The disgusting one about me that got deleted? Just defending myself when I am being trolled and stalked!
And how on earth am I giving my children anxiety issues by not leaving them alone? Don’t judge everyone by your childhood, you don’t know anything about me or my children

Er no

@Chasingclouds100 er no what?

Why was your post deleted then?

This one @Chasingclouds100

yes this would be more appropriate (street traffic etc. dependant) but I see little problem with childminder standing and watching as the eldest walks to you and you stand at the front door to watch and welcome, and wave down the road

Actually Conkers you started the nastiness by sarcastically asking Clouds if she lived in a mansion! And after just reading all the posts from the start Clouds is right - she didn’t say anything to the original poster and kept quiet, she simply defended herself when you tormented her for being over anxious - Shame on you Conkers

Chasing Clouds I have just read all posts from the beginning and you do not have to answer to this person or justify yourself - how horrible of her to stalk you like this. Obviously leads a very sad life. Jealousy is very ugly