To think I and other people with commitments should get a medal

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Kids have an inset day and their dad is home and so for the first time (possibly ever) I am getting ready for work without having to get them ready for school, nursery, holiday club.
I'm actually bored. It's not time to leave yet. I'm dressed. I've even done a bit around the house. It makes me think of how easy this is, even for a serial procrastinator like me. So know I'm wondering about all my child free colleagues who roll their eyes when I come in frazzled, frizzy, five minutes late (I also stay late) and sometimes with someone else's toothpaste on me. Do they have any idea how easy it is to get yourself out of the house for work compared to getting other little two people out the door (who frankly aren't as motivated)? Do they not realise that those of us with kids/ caring responsibilities are not just wilfully blasé but that it's actually really fucking difficult to get somewhere (almost) on time without looking like you've been through tough mudder with an added sticky fingers obstacle?
I could do this every day.

Get a grip, this MUMSNET!! A site set up to connect mums and share experiences and give support as we all navigate the rollercoaster journey of parenthood.

What “frazzles” you Op

Doesn’t frazzle many many many others

Hate the betting the OP is one of those employees who is always going on about how much they have to do and how busy they are? 😂

But actually have very little responsibility

So if I were you, I wouldn’t be too surprised that the stereotype of your ‘clueless childfree’ colleagues who ‘just have no idea, do they girls, haw haw’ has rubbed some up the wrong way. It’s the way you’ve written it.

Yep.

Do you think perhaps Mumsnet is not the online spiritual home you’re looking for?

Actually, it's byline is "by parents for parents" and it has always welcomed the childless by choice or by circumstance as well.
At least it did until the demographic became slightly more "hunny" and "bubba" weighted.

This is a parenting forum 🙄
There is nothing wrong with OPs post. If it annoys you or bares no relevance to you life just move on but stop with the nastiness.

I have been on Mumsnet long before I was a parent, I didn’t however complain I was being victimised when parents were having a moan about parenting.

Said the pot.
Do you think infertile women or women who have dead babies should be kicked off because they are childless?
Are you quite new here?
Spotted your name a lot over the last few days. And always so charming to people who don't share the same experiences as you.

Don't worry. You've pretty-much got monopoly of that on here

I went swimming without kids a few weeks ago and couldn’t believe how easy it was to just get changed and get into the pool. Just didn’t appreciate it at all before having kids!

Here here

The OP began a thinly veiled attack on people who are not parents. It's been carried on by others.

@Flapjackquack I joined when my daughter was 1. Never talked much about her on here as that's not why I joined back in the day.

What has certainly shifted over the years is the constant belittling and unwelcome sniping to anybody not living exactly the same experience.

No one is saying that! They are saying that it’s ok for parents to complain about parenting on a site that’s primarily about parenting. It has other areas in its forum function but the brand of Mumsnet is about parenting so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that parents use it to complain about parenting from time to time!

I completely agree with you OP! Every so often I have to go into the office early before the rest of the house wakes up and it's so easy just having myself to look after.

That being said, I had a week to myself this past summer while I was working and DH took the kids away. I was pretty lonely and bored after a few days and really lost motivation to do much besides the basics, and that was just a few days on my own. Not much fun.

No I’m not new!! Just defending a fellow frazzled mum from comments that are totally irrelevant to the post which talks about the struggles of parenthood and working.
if you don’t like the post and it isn’t relatable move on. Don’t comment saying it’s thoughtless to childless mothers, what an awful thing to say to the OP!!

Jesus Christ she was just venting, it’s not a “thinly veiled attack”. I agree Mumsnet has become more hostile, but I don’t think it’s the OP being hostile here.

@Flapjackquack
If you read the delightful pp which I quoted, you'll see that that is exactly what she is saying. Not a Mum? Shouldn't be here

Mind you, AS is useful as she has interesting opinions about lots of people who are not like her. If you read more of her anti- this and anti-that stuff, you may not be so quick to spring to her defence.

I was saying it to you.

@PAFMO - I don’t tend to keep tabs on specific posters honestly

I think it’s absolutely pathetic that even on a forum specifically for parents, with Mum in its actual name, women are having to fight for space to lightheartedly discuss their lived experience of parenting. There are plenty of discussions even on Mumsnet that aren’t about parenting. Let people have their space.

Oh come on! If it was a thread about infertility or being childfree by choice or circumstances, I'd defend your right to talk about it or complain about parents who don't realise how difficult it is. But parents should equally be able to talk about struggling sometimes on a primarily parenting website.

OP it's been a long time since I've been in that situation but I remember how difficult it can be. There seem to be more and more people on this site who seem to come on here just to be nasty to anyone who wants to vent. It's not being a martyr to want occasional bits of appreciation and support. You're doing a great job. And of course there are people who have no caring responsibilities who like to imply how much more competent they are than those that don't! It's like those men who leave all the organising and packing of bags and sorting of children to the woman for a day out and then sit in the car beeping the horn because they're not ready!