Weight Loss Gone Unnoticed

[Miggymoggymugwumps]

Ok so this is light hearted but was just wondering why none of my friends/relatives have noticed I've lost weight?
I started quietly dieting & adopting a healthier eating regime in March this year after weighing in at 12 stone 6lbs. I'm now down to 11 stone and nobody except DH has even noticed!!!
He says it's probably because I'm tall and so isn't that obvious. But I've recently met up with 3 different friends who I haven't seen since either last year or for several months and nothing, nada, zilch...I've lost a stone & 6lbs for goodness sake😂
I can certainly see a difference so was just wondering why nobody else can!

They are probably just too polite to say.

If you get a haircut and wear something new and/ or form-fitting they will notice! Or you could fish for compliments and just tell them you've lost 2 stone and hope they'll say "ooh you can really see it". Unsolicited compliments are more satisfying though.

They probably haven’t noticed. I lost 1.5 stone and was still in most of the same clothes, just more comfortably. Went from 9.5 stone to 8 stone and people noticed around the 8 stone mark, not before

Sometimes people lose weight because of illness, so if I notice someone has lost weight, I am more apt to just say “you look great”. They might say “thank you, I’ve been trying” or they might say “thanks. I’ve been sick” . I try to keep personal observations to myself anyway, other than how good you look, and let you fill in the blanks. Even people who have gained, rather than lost, like to hear they look good - maybe a new haircut, or a new outfit. So, maybe the people you know noticed, but they are polite.

I never notice weight loss. I didn't even notice when an acquaintance had lost over 5st.

There are far more interesting things about people than their weight.

I would never comment on someone's weight unless they brought it up first or if it was hugely noticeable because you don't know if someone wants you to mention it, it could be due to ill health/stress etc and so not a good thing.

I was severely obese and had gastric bypass surgery in April. Since then I have lost 8stone ... you can't not notice, I've gone down 5 dress sizes etc. I work in retail and have had so many people comment on my weight loss as they have seen such a massive difference but so many people have started their comments with "I really don't mean to be rude but ..." or "Tell me to mind my own business but ..." or "I hope you don't mind me asking ..." before going on to ask about my rapid weight loss as they understand that it is a sensitive topic to bring up (especially with a dramatic loss as it could be due to ill health which someone might not want to disclose).

I am more than happy to tell people about my surgery (most of my regular customers knew anyway as I had a couple of cancelled surgery dates and was off for quite a while on and off so I had already told them pre-surgery) and at first I was upset people hadn't noticed more but I have to admit that I'm actually now starting to get uncomfortable with how often people comment on it as it is so obvious so they aren't as uncomfortable asking as if it's a small loss. Don't get me wrong, 99% of the comments are positive or in the "You look fantastic, well done!" vein, but the constant discussion of my weight just keeps highlighting how much worth people put on your appearance.

How many dress sizes have you gone down? You probably didn't look as big to start with as you think you did so other people won't really notice. A lot of people only notice extremes more than little changes.

I'm 5 10 as well and a stone and a half on or off wouldn't be enough for people to notice anything.

This. I don’t like anyone commenting on my body, whether their intention is to be complimentary or not. And yes, a not insignificant number of people feel similarly.

I lost 2.5 stone and not one comment 🤷‍♀️

That doesn't make any sense.

You can be underweight and then extremely underweight.

Wow that's amazing! Can I ask what you did to lose it @Miggymoggymugwumps ?

I'm trying to get to 11s from 12 stone right now, and struggling to cutting out chocolate in the week before I'm due on etc, which derails me!

A colleague once said to me, wow I didn't recognise you , you were so slim before 😂🖕🏽

Over the decades I have lost and gained 5 or 6 stones several times. Like pp have said, people only notice when you have lost a significant amount, for me it was at least 2 stones, probably nearer 3.
But that was for people who didn't know I was dieting. If I had told them I was on a diet they then seemed to watch me like a hawk and appeared to feel it gave them permission to comment all the time about not only my weight loss but what I was actually eating.
So if you want people to comment and notice, tell them you're dieting, then they won't shut up about it!

I wouldn't comment on someone's weight up or down uninvited. Maybe they're sick, stressed, have an eating disorder or have some other reason why the weight loss isn't positive for them.

I’m a similar height, lost 2st 5 so far this year and only DH has noticed or certainly commented on it. I prefer it that way, any comments about my weight make me self conscious. I’m still quite overweight though at 13st

I used to go to slimming clubs where the leader used to say that it took about a 2.5 stone loss for people to notice and to be confident about complimenting you.

I'm a yo-yo dieter and I prefer people don't comment when I lose weight as it makes me more anxious as I invariably pile it back on in the future!

Hate people commenting on my weight. It’s loaded with judgement whether positive or negative. So I never comment on someone’s weight.

Because my friends love me they just see 'me' like the inside 'me' the same as I see them x

I expect many have noticed and its a combo of jealousy for some and for others they're worried about saying it as some get offended at the insinuation they were bigger before (which is the truth but people can be weird). Tbh I'd say I've been working hard how do I look.

Because my friends love me they just see 'me' like the inside 'me' the same as I see them x

That doesn't mean you can't congratulate your friends on what for most people is a personal achievement.

Having said that, I still wouldn't mention it unless they did.

They'll still notice, even if it's not important at all to them. I think all of my friends are beautiful, but when those who have lost weight bring it up in conversation I am first to congratulate them- it is a big achievement and the result of hard work.

I lost 2 stone recently and most friends didn’t mentioned it. A few family members did. I didn’t mind, I never comment on other people’s weight loss either. (Just as I wouldn’t mention a weight gain). I am sure they noticed OP and well done.

I would never mention someone's weight loss as I think it's rude! It could be for any reason and not necessarily on purpose.