Hi my DS4 has been on school lunches since September (reception class)
My Husband was called into the classroom at pickup and was sat down by the teacher to explain an incident.
My son had went to the salad bar after receiving his lunch and thanking the dinner nanny's. He chose whatever salad items he'd like and went and sat down. The salad bar nanny told the supervising teacher in the hall that my DS hasn't thanked her.
The teacher then went to my son and shouted at him and told him he has to thank. (I completely agree with manners and he normally always says his p's and q's). The teacher also said we will tell your mummy and daddy you didn't say Thankyou to the salad bar to which my son replied "that's okay". He's not afraid of us as parents, we don't smack or scream and with him being an only child it's quite a calm household. I don't think my son seen this as a threat and the fact he is only 4 year old.
This got him into more trouble and he was taken to his classroom teacher after he finished his lunch and wasn't allowed any playtime.
I think the school has massively over reacted and my normally happy son was upset about going to school this morning. I understand the need for schools to have discipline but I think this was taken too far.
Am I in the wrong to feel sorry for my son or were the school in the right?
I have explained to him he needs to thank every person who serves him parts of his lunch.