To think my 4 year olds school has overreacted?

[throwaway202267]

Hi my DS4 has been on school lunches since September (reception class)
My Husband was called into the classroom at pickup and was sat down by the teacher to explain an incident.
My son had went to the salad bar after receiving his lunch and thanking the dinner nanny's. He chose whatever salad items he'd like and went and sat down. The salad bar nanny told the supervising teacher in the hall that my DS hasn't thanked her.
The teacher then went to my son and shouted at him and told him he has to thank. (I completely agree with manners and he normally always says his p's and q's). The teacher also said we will tell your mummy and daddy you didn't say Thankyou to the salad bar to which my son replied "that's okay". He's not afraid of us as parents, we don't smack or scream and with him being an only child it's quite a calm household. I don't think my son seen this as a threat and the fact he is only 4 year old.
This got him into more trouble and he was taken to his classroom teacher after he finished his lunch and wasn't allowed any playtime.
I think the school has massively over reacted and my normally happy son was upset about going to school this morning. I understand the need for schools to have discipline but I think this was taken too far.
Am I in the wrong to feel sorry for my son or were the school in the right?
I have explained to him he needs to thank every person who serves him parts of his lunch.

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I assume so, just with a ridiculous title.

They should do nothing as he hasn't actually done anything wrong.

Yeah, here in the working classes the kids just say ‘fuck you’ to the egg chips and beans nanny.

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Totally OTT. Can't believe a grown adult would get a 4 year old told off because they didn't say thank you, especially in that scenario.

Love this. 🤣🤣

Wtf

Your poor son!

Teaching "manners" by shouting- what does thay model to children about emotional regulation? Then presumably because your child didn't cower in fear or cry when "threatened" with a talk with his parents, and was just agreeable to that suggestion, he's punished by losing outdoor playtime? Ridiculous.

Oooh I say this and I'm WC. (swished around in an upper class haze)

Hadn't thought of it bring a British thing tho. What would yo u say elsewhere if little ones forgot to use their Manners.

Also do Al lthe kdis or just reception call them Nanny? Cute 4 yo saying "please can I have more cooccumner Salad Nanny", adorable but slightly weird (my kdis are 2 and 7). 11 yo same heights as me say "Hey Salad Nanny, can you hit me up with some cucumber", less cute.

I assume so, just with a ridiculous title.

Sounds like the kind of title a four year old might have come up with for the dinner ladies.

4 year olds should not miss playtime... playtime is very important for development.
It's inappropriate and the dinner nanny and teacher both sound batshit bananas.

I wanna be Cake Nanny

@MrsTxx come back and tell us what other Nannies there are (and if you're making a complaint to the school)

Yep. Straight after they stab them with the baked beans fork

Was it salad nanny that did it?

I'd rather like that too! 😃

There might be a Turkey Twizzler Nanny too. Now that would be something! 😁

I did wonder if it was private school, I nwhich no way is there a turkey twizzler nanny. Maybe fois gras nanny

Yeah, pretty much. Though it’s a great name for my kids to call my mother who is obsessed with being a size 8 and weighing 7 stone. Much better fit than grandma.

egg chips and beans nanny.

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Totally OTT. Are the dinner nanny’s all nanny age?

Maybe it’s in the sense of Norland nanny rather than granny nanny!

This thread is causing me hysterics. Dont know what’s more hilarious, "fuck you Salad Nanny" or ‘it just needed a conversation "oh so you think your parents will be happy you didn't thank Salad Nanny?”

How about a couscous and tapenade nanny?

Fascinated by the salad bar nanny.

Ah, now couscous I understand, but off to Google tapenade. 😁

Poor child. A four year old, shouted at and suffered a missed playtime? For forgetting to say thank you for his cherry tomato, little gem leaf and cucumber slice? I'd being telling Teacher Nanny and Salad Nanny where to shove their carrot batons....

Tapenade seems to be a mush with olives as a base ingredient. 😃

Yes, there must be a couscous and tapenade nanny.

Mind you, couscous with some ingredients (tapenade?) can be served cold and could come under the domain of the Salad Nanny?? 😃

Name changed in honour of this delightfully whimsical tale