To ask who was BU?

[fenese4864]

Person A has an 8 year old son, he hasn't been to school all week as he had a fever and seemed unwell, Tuesday he was also complaining of stomach ache and he vomited once. She normally picks up Person B’s child from school but as her son wasn't at school, person B has has to pick up her own child this week and wasn't happy as she was having to leave work early. Today, person b went to town and saw Person A out with her son and called the school. Her reasonings are that if her son is well enough to be out, he can be in school.

Is person A in the wrong for keeping her child off school and taking him out or was person B for getting involved and reporting her?

If a child is out and about they should be at school, yes. But person B is a right arse for calling the school and person A should tell them that if they think they're ever going to pick their child up again they can go fuck themselves.

Person B is a complete bitch who should keep her beak out, and if I was person A I would not be giving lifts any more! End of.

Person B sounds as though they will have to leave work early or find childcare forever more now. Unless a big drip feed they sound very entitled and ungrateful that their child is usually picked up for them.

This!!!

If he vomited on Tuesday he wont be allowed back in until Friday - so he may well be better but still not allowed in.

Person B was wrong and needs to sort out paid childcare

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Person B is going to need to find some new childcare when (hopefully) Person A finds out.

There could have been any number of reasons why the child was out.

Person B is horrid.

Person B sounds pathetic

Person B quite clearly has no understanding of how to maintain beneficial relationships for the purposes of childcare!

Person B sounds like a dick. If my son had a stomach bug and I thought he might be contagious to other children, causing them time off school and their parents time off work, I'd keep him off school for 48 hours until after he'd last vomited to be sure it had gone.

If I needed to nip to the shop in that time and he felt well enough to go, I would go knowing that he isn't spending 5-6 hours in close proximity with other people, risking passing it on. Person A could have needed bread, milk, medicine for the poorly DC.

It's none of Person B's business and it sounds like they've now lost their after school pick-up arrangements.

Person B needs to find someone else to pick up their child.

Person A could have a good reason for being out with her child like a doctors appointment or taking him to speak to a pharmacist

Most schools have a 48 hour exclusion policy for vomiting so the boy couldn't be in school no matter how well he felt so being out and about is perfectly reasonable.

It's also perfectly reasonable for Mum A not to have picked up child B from school when child A was vomiting. If I was child B's Mum I'd be grateful my child wasn't being exposed to a potential vomiting bug.

Also if I was Mum A I wouldn't be doing any more childcare for Mum B after this!

Person B is out of order - she could’ve been taking him to doctors/chemist or even just for some fresh air if he was feeling a little better?
Even if he should have been back at school, it’s none of her business. No one likes a snitch - and it’s not exactly a safeguarding issue

What's the details around person bs child getting picked up?
Ie paid for? Family? Friend just helping out for a favour?

I don’t think person a & b should be involved in a lift sharing situation as they don’t seem to have a good enough relationship.

@fenese4864 How can you be sure it was the mum who's child you take to work.thst reported you?

Person B is wrong.

Please never do anything for Person B again. Utter bitch.

He couldn’t, and shouldn’t, be at school today if he vomited on Tuesday.

Person B is being ridiculous. They should be collecting their own child from now on or making other arrangements after that level of spite.

It’s really none of person Bs business what A does and it’s clearly because shes pissed off rather than any actual concern

Person B has lost her school pick up permanently now, if person A has any sense!

Person B is a massive twat.
Child could well be better now, but they aren't allowed in for 48 hours after vomiting. Person A could also have had an appointment, needed groceries, any other reason good enough to need to take an unwell child out.
Even if there wasn't a good reason - person B needs to keep their beak out, and can sort her own child's transport from now on.
By being a spiteful individual, has shot her self in the foot.
If I was person A I would be messaging B the following -

Hi there B-
I've been informed you reported me to school for having my child out today when he's been unwell. I assume this means you've sorted alternative transport for your child from here on out.
Have a pleasant evening, and please note I am unable to help with transport or any favour from now on.

I would probs end with a go fuck yourself but up to you

PersonA is right as school usually demands 48 hours after d&v

Person B sounds like an entitled twat and person A shouldn't do them a favour again

I think it depends where he was seen and what he was doing.
If he was coming out of the cinema with bags of sweeties for example, or in a queue to go on a ride, or coming out of a toy shop/McDonald's then he definitely should be in school.

What's the childcare arrangement between A & B? Is it paid (financially or childcare reciprocated or anything quid pro quo)? How far in advance was B informed that A wouldn't pick up her DC?

If I was B and I wasn't informed until the last possible moment so had no chance to arrange alt childcare, was still expected to pay/do my favour back/look after her child and saw the child was clearly fine and taking the piss, then I would probably be tempted to call the school (I don't think I actually would, but I would have the urge to).

If I was B and I was informed ASAP, didn't have to pay or do my favour and saw the child moping around the pharmacy or food shop then I wouldn't be bothered.