To be hurt DS called stepmum - mummy

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HarriwithanI · 06/11/2022 21:43

Bit of a backstory - DS, 10, spent half term with my husband (need to divorce him!) who’s not bothered with DS until this last year so 9 years not in his life, his choice.
He and his fiancée who’ve been together 2 years and have a DD have seen my DS 3 times.

My DS accidentally said mummy to her and she praised him and said thank you. AIBU to think this is wrong and she should’ve said no you’ve got a mum?

I’ve raised him alone 9 years so hearing that stung. Also they bought him new clothes as apparently I only dress him in stained dirty clothes - I don’t. Yes I buy second hand clothes but never dirty or stained.

He has cried tonight how much he misses them, I don’t feel good enough. I’m jealous of their family unit and I shouldn’t be. I need to snap out of it.

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RedHelenB · 07/11/2022 11:12

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HarriwithanI · 07/11/2022 11:14

Tale? Ok.

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creideamhdóchasgrá · 07/11/2022 18:29

PipMumsnet · 07/11/2022 10:14

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
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There does not appear to be any question about the authenticity of the poster.

There is domestic abuse and mental health issues involve - and a very complex situation has been described.

OP I hope you find in this thread and in real life the support you need to safeguard your sone and yourself :)

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HarriwithanI · 07/11/2022 18:52

@PipMumsnet

thank you , I was on here as a poster for years as “ICantThinkOfAUsernameH” but lost my log in details/access to that email account linked after I left ex. I’ve tried not to drip feed and very much real.
I know myself I can waffle during mental health crises.
I have a wonderful psychiatrist, doing therapy and new medication, so thank you, I do appreciate it, and the support from everyone x

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creideamhdóchasgrá · 07/11/2022 19:05

Mumsnet have posted on the thread and have kept an eye on it. You are believed as a genuine poster.

In a complex situation it is difficult for anyone to communicate all the details in order and especially when trauma is involved - and it's more difficult to communicate in a thread on a forum rather than face to face / in real life but it can be helpful when posters respond in a compassionate way.

Glad you have some support in place :) Wishing you all the best.

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