to think if I’d been a man, the road rage idiot wouldn’t have tried to open my car door?

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Never have I been so grateful for my car door locking system.

Driving to a fireworks display yesterday, long queues, country roads, but everyone is being quite chilled out and polite about it all.

I’m making progress down a lane but I’m blocked by a car coming the other way, but it’s ok, I can see behind that car that the cars behind her are reversing and backing up so we can all pass. Everything absolutely fine. Other driver and I smiling at each other.

Except some bloke gets out from a few cars back (he won’t have been able to see what I could see). He comes up to my car, tries twice to open my driver’s door and starts berating me through the window for holding up the traffic. I was petrified afterwards to think what could have happened.

Thankfully after I looked away and don’t engage he went back to his car. The car in front of me reversed and we all we able to proceed on our way.

AIBU to think he wouldn’t have dreamed of doing this had I been a male?

Hope you reported this to the police OP. Get nutters like this off the road.

Viofo do some decent dashcams that record both front / back and now inside the car.

I also invested in "OBD Speed Lock Car Door Close Device Automatic Locking Device" it's a small device you can plug in to the diagnostic socket in your car. Most cars have one near the steering wheel some where if you look in the manual. For cars that don't have the function, it automatically locks your doors when you move and unlocks them when you turn off your engine or automatically unlocks all when your speed decreases suddenly in any high speed accident.

A woman driver threatened me for having the temerity to have the right of way on a roundabout. I was already on the roundabout, turning right, she was waiting in the to turn left into the lane I was entering. She started to pull out so I beeped my horn to let her know I was there. She waved her fist at me and mouthed something, by the expression on her face it wasn’t complimentary.
She followed into the lane then overtook me, again waving her fist and shouting something. She then began to slow down, speed up, slow down again, driving all over the place.
Further up the road I could see her car stationary in the carriageway, obviously with a plan to God knows what. I knew there was a slip road coming up, luckily for me she was stopped well beyond the exit to it so I dropped right back and without indicating, took the slip road. The traffic was too heavy for her to reverse to follow me.
I often wonder what she’d have done if I hadn’t taken the slip road.

Dash cam always and turn and point it at them every

This has happened to me a couple of times, including when I’ve had a man with me. I keep the car doors locked all the time, and my phone in the car with me.

I think it's more like to happen to a woman.

Me too. And for a man to be the aggressor.

Men are weird creatures, prone to emotional rages.
I remember years ago in Corsica, on a coach transfer from the airport, a bloke in a car ran into the back of our coach, on a mountain road.
Our driver pulled a massive old pistol from his glove compartment, stamped back to the car and started waving said pistol through the car window, shouting (presumably expletives) in Corsican patois!
Our tour rep was speechless.

We had this a couple of months ago. A very aggressive van driver behind us trying to get past. Country roads, narrow with lots of bends and steady stream of traffic the other way. I could feel DP getting his hackles up. As we hit the suburbs we stopped at a red light which normally stays that way for a minute or two and I could hear him get out and stomp up. I asked my DP not to engage as he can be a hot head and potentially escalate it.

unfortunately DP lost the rag with me for not ‘backing him up’

the guy spent a good 30 seconds looking in at the window at me getting a bollocking and decided I’d maybe had enough for one day. Thank you van man.

his second to last car was trashed by him and a similar hothead ramming in to one another in a lay-by.

i just don’t understand why aggression gets so hard so fast.

exactly!

Both sexes can be victims, but the perpetrators of violent crime are mostly men (not exclusively, but mostly).

Sadly we see the tragic outcomes all the time in the headlines when this did happen to a man...and the aggressor had a weapon. The fact you weren't a man possibly made you safer.

This.

And I can tell you that the bloke that had been shouting and swearing at me in front of my young kids (for my dh’s admittedly shoddy parking) was far less inclined to discuss the situation with my dh when he finally came back. He shit himself and drove off.

Clearly preferable to pick on a woman with kids.

Have you spoken to the police? did you get a look at his car and manage to remember the registration number?

There might be CCTV as well in the area that captured the incident.

I would report this as an assault. He probably will do that to someone else and they might not be so lucky as you were not to be physically attacked by this bully.

And yes I think if you had been a big guy he would have thought twice about trying to get to you.

Seen both genders get out of there cars to have a pop at someone

Dh was cut up by a van man on a roundabout. The bloke got out- very angry red faced man, and came to grab dhs car door handle. Dh got out, all 6ft 6 of him and the bloke who was at least a foot shorter turned straight round and got back in his van. Dh didn't say a word.

I'm a cyclist. People abuse me on the road all the time 99% are men who can't wait just 2 seconds for me to pass.

This happened in Texas a few months ago
www.thegatewaypundit.com/2022/07/texas-woman-shoots-car-toddler-inside-road-rage-attack-video/

Does it matter if it wouldn’t have happened to a man? It happened to you, and that’s enough.

Sounds like a real bully.

The standards of driving around where I am scare me to death though. At least once a week I have to swerve to avoid people crashing into me- from them not stopping at all at roundabouts and driving straight across, driving straight on from side roads without stopping to look and overtaking on the wrong side of the road are all main culprits. I had some woman up my backside today more bothered about singing into her mirror this morning than looking at the actual road. Honestly I nearly flip every day. There is no excuse for this man though, horrible git.

YABVU my dad was dragged from his car and assaulted with life changing injuries caused.

Violent monsters don't care who they attack.

There are stats on male on male violence. Iirc men walking alone at night are at a higher risk of being assaulted than lone women

I'm sorry about your dad, that's awful.

Men are as likely to be victims but more likely to be perpetrators.

Men are more likely in some types of attack, less in others. They're vastly more likely to be perpetrators of violence. There are women who violently attack strangers, it's not something that never happened, but it's a provable fact that they're far rarer than men who do so.

*that should say "men are more likely to be victims of some categories of violence and less of others, but are in all types of violent attacks men more likely to be the perpetrators"

Had a scary incident like this in Italy. I kept my hand on the car horn and luckily a nearby resident rang the police who turned up pretty quickly.

My ex was indiscriminate in his road rage. He wasn't particularly strong, he was just an angry knob head, so would regularly get pasted by some big bloke he'd confronted.
Also, I have been threatened by both men and women when driving, one woman followed me for miles swearing and gesturing to me, so it's not just men that can be aggressive idiots.

Do you think there is a possibility men don’t like to report that they were assaulted by a woman and so the stats are skewed?

How scary for you, I'd have been utterly terrified. So glad you had the doors locked and you're ok.

I often forgot to lock mine (not automatic) but I'll be making more of an effort to do so from now on.

Someone I knew vaguely, another mum, offered me a lift home from nursery as it was raining. En route, another car pulled in front of her unexpectedly and she had to brake hard. He pulled in, she stopped too, got out of the car, opened his drivers door and pulled him out of the car by the scruff of his neck "my children are in the car you bloody fool" as she bent him backwards over the bonnet, just stopping herself from punching him. He was petrified. I was completely gobsmacked. No one was harmed. We drove away. I never accepted a lift again from the vicar's wife.