Children - wasn’t meant to be

[Stressedandtonic]

Kids aren’t on the cards for me & DH due to medical condition/ circumstance does anyone have any witty put downs I can use when asked for the millionth time variants of ?when are you getting pregnant ? AIBU to be fed up of insensitive people constantly overstepping ? Have tried the standard MYOB but it just gets backs up

Of course it’s intrusive, and I’m sure you’d think differently if your infertility hadn’t been overcome.

It’s not a topic far should be seen as inoffensive small talk at all.

Asking someone if they’d ‘like’ a child, or another as if it’s a simple decision can be horribly triggering for someone who can’t have children, or has been through hell to get the one they have.

Where are these people? This never seemed to happen to me, I didn't have a child until 34.

I'd just say "I'm not".

The question isn't intrusive I don't think, it's just that you may be one person asking it and that's the entire interaction for you, but for the person being asked it's the thousandth's time and it's just tiresome and not nice to go through.

This is what we need to be mindful of I think.

Just say you're awaiting being assigned a Handmaid. Blessed Be the Fruit.

When I told people I’d had IVF and it hadn’t worked they lived to tell me about their auntie Flo who got pregnant at 47 and that I shouldn’t give up hope.

‘It’s a long story” ?

People should not ask such personal questions. I have been present when one person asked another when they were going to have a baby and not giving up, it was acutely embarrassing.

It's immature to be so nosey.

In your place, I'd just say you can't have any and change the subject, that will shut them up.