Page 9 | AIBU to think when staying in hotel should not go down to breakfast in pyjamas

waltty · 2022-11-05T16:52:27+00:00

Last night stayed overnight in a City Centre hotel and a family all came down to breakfast wearing their pyjamas,looking like they had all jumped out of bed , it was 9am so still had time to shower and dress before breakfast finished , AIBU to think this is not appropriate

XenoBitch · 05/11/2022 19:36

JudgeJ · 05/11/2022 19:30

If you 'can't be bothered', ie you're too lazy , to get dressed then you deserve to miss breakfast. Many establishments have a dress standard in their restaurants in the evening, depending on the type of place, maybe they need one for breakfast time too.

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Or maybe that someone has an issue like Fibro or chronic fatigue. Look up Spoon Theory.
They may have made it down to the breakfast area in their PJs at expense of not washing and dressing. After a nap, they can maybe do that later.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 05/11/2022 19:36

PrincessJanet · 05/11/2022 17:52

Why on earth would you clean your teeth before eating breakfast? Bloody waste of time Because other people at breakfast may be able to smell your breath. I have noticed this in hotels, or even early morning shopping. (Used to have a lot of hotel stays for work).

And it's better for your teeth to brush them before eating www.dentistnewbury.co.uk/blog/when-and-how-should-i-brush-my-teeth

Mrsmch123 · 05/11/2022 19:45

Honestly couldn't care less what others are doing....if that's what they want to do then fair enough

shivawn · 05/11/2022 19:47

I really could not get upset over this.

Chouetted · 05/11/2022 19:51

BatshitCrazyWoman · 05/11/2022 19:36

And it's better for your teeth to brush them before eating www.dentistnewbury.co.uk/blog/when-and-how-should-i-brush-my-teeth

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It does make the orange juice taste bloody funny, though...

Suzi888 · 05/11/2022 19:53

YANBU but god, I would love to do it! 😂

IrmaGord · 05/11/2022 19:53

Or maybe that someone has an issue like Fibro or chronic fatigue. Look up Spoon Theory
They may have made it down to the breakfast area in their PJs at expense of not washing and dressing. After a nap, they can maybe do that later.

In the scenario posted by the OP, are you honestly suggesting that the whole family has chronic fatigue syndrome and none of them can get dressed til they've had a nap?

TellMeWhere · 05/11/2022 19:54

Lots of hotels don't allow it - it's slobby. If you want to eat breakfast in your pyjamas then order room service.

Grapewrath · 05/11/2022 19:54

I couldn’t give a shit what other people wear to breakfast tbh

Newpuppymummy · 05/11/2022 19:55

I wouldn’t do it but wouldn’t care if somebody else did.

Wexone · 05/11/2022 19:55

oh sweet lord totally inappropriate 😳 if they want to eat breakfast in their pyjamas get it sent to their room. I am surprised the hotel didn't say anything.

XenoBitch · 05/11/2022 19:56

IrmaGord · 05/11/2022 19:53

Or maybe that someone has an issue like Fibro or chronic fatigue. Look up Spoon Theory
They may have made it down to the breakfast area in their PJs at expense of not washing and dressing. After a nap, they can maybe do that later.

In the scenario posted by the OP, are you honestly suggesting that the whole family has chronic fatigue syndrome and none of them can get dressed til they've had a nap?

Maybe the the whole family in PJs would make the person that could not get properly dressed feel better?
In any case, how does it actually affect the other people there? If you are the sort to "throw up in their mouth" a little at someone in their PJs at the breakfast buffet, then I would suggest it is not the person in PJs that needs help.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 05/11/2022 20:01

I wouldn't do it but am almost envious of people who feel comfortable doing that, especially on holiday when you don't want to miss breakfast and have to be showered and made presentable by 9:30.

My DD once went down to breakfast dressed but in her slippers in a not at all posh hotel and staff told her she had to go and change into shoes for hygiene reasons. Never quite got that.

Scurryfunge12 · 05/11/2022 20:03

It’s not something I would do but there isn’t half some snobby buggers on here 🤣 You’re no better than anyone

Duchess379 · 05/11/2022 20:06

😆. Tbh, this would be me! I'm not a morning person by any stretch of imagination. But tbf, I barely spend a night away from home

CandyLeBonBon · 05/11/2022 20:06

What if you've slept naked, but have 'breakfast clothes' like leggings and a t-shirt to go to breakfast in, then you come back and shower and put your day clothes on?

Teeth brushed but hair in a messy bun. Is that ok? Asking for a friend!

StarbucksSmarterSister · 05/11/2022 20:22

Or maybe that someone has an issue like Fibro or chronic fatigue. Look up Spoon Theory.
They may have made it down to the breakfast area in their PJs at expense of not washing and dressing. After a nap, they can maybe do that later.

So, unless it's a really cheap hotel without it then why not get room service? Much easier for them.

JanetSally · 05/11/2022 21:01

WombatChocolate · 05/11/2022 19:00

It’s often not really about wanting to wear PJs when people wear them to supermarkets, on the school run or in a hotel.

It’s about telling the world that they don’t give a toss about other people but will do exactly what they like. It’s an attitude some people have - rules or norms or standards are not for them, and they delight and look for opportunities to show that attitude through behaviour. In some ways, it’s attention seeking - they want people to notice, perhaps comment and disapprove. Of course they would t say that, but if asked would say it was just about comfort and they can’t understand why anyone cares or notices…but actually often they want people to notice. Often it’s people who might not get noticed for much else in life and who feel the need to assert themselves and be noticed for something.

Similar behaviours are parents who live round the corner from school but drive to school for pick-up an hour before time and sit and leave their car engines running, refusing to send kids in school uniform, playing of loud music in gardens or out of open windows in summer because ‘they are entitled to do whatever they want’ - basically behaving in rather selfish ways which can impact others and deliberately not going with the social norms, often wanting to be noticed for the behaviour. It’s often an anti-authority thing.

Totally agree. Immature and attention seeking behaviour by people who don't actually push the boundaries in any meaningful way, but in safe and silly ways.

mycatisannoying · 05/11/2022 21:10

Such common and inappropriate behaviour.

XenoBitch · 05/11/2022 21:12

StarbucksSmarterSister · 05/11/2022 20:22

Or maybe that someone has an issue like Fibro or chronic fatigue. Look up Spoon Theory.
They may have made it down to the breakfast area in their PJs at expense of not washing and dressing. After a nap, they can maybe do that later.

So, unless it's a really cheap hotel without it then why not get room service? Much easier for them.

Room service for who? The comfort of the other diners?

TheLateLadyLothbrook · 05/11/2022 21:16

babyyodaxmas · 05/11/2022 19:01

No was taught to let it air.

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This has set me off. So was I.

ThirtyThreeTrees · 05/11/2022 21:17

I would have complained.

I don't pay money to stay in a hotel to be surrounded by people with no common decency or respect for other guests.

I would never knowingly book somewhere that would tolerate it.

knittingaddict · 05/11/2022 21:18

It's slobby and inappropriate. No one needs to see that.

SocksAndTheCity · 05/11/2022 21:19

JanetSally · 05/11/2022 21:01

Totally agree. Immature and attention seeking behaviour by people who don't actually push the boundaries in any meaningful way, but in safe and silly ways.

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But everybody's boundaries are different - why would anybody care what a complete strangers were and why would they care whether they were pushing them, provided they weren't disturbing or harassing them in any way?

Why assume that everything (or anything) anybody else does is intended as some kind of 'attention seeking' performance for an audience rather than just people getting on with their day in whatever way they prefer? I've no interest in what others think of the way I dress/look/behave when it has no effect on them and I wouldn't expect them to waste a second of their time considering what I think of them, either?

glassfully · 05/11/2022 21:23

If PJs for breakfast is too undressed for you, how do you feel about seeing people in bikinis on holiday?

I haven't gone to breakfast in my PJs but I would if more people did.