Earlier in the year I bought 5 of the same Christmas gifts for inlaws, my family, grandparents, aunts and uncles. They were on sale and 90% off.
I really like the item and want to keep one for myself, but if I do that my inlaws will have nothing for Christmas and DH will buy them a box of chocolates or biscuits and call it a day.
Inlaws have been pretty spiteful to me and I don't really want them to have the gift now I realised I wouldn't be able to keep one for myself.
Wibu to just unwrap it and keep it and let dh spend £5 (which is more than the gift was if you could believe it) on a box of chocolates and take the awkwardness?
ps
Dh was left in charge of gifts for his side one year and got everyone a chocolate orange each, it was pretty embarrassing receiving nice gifts and giving back a £1 gift. But he didn't seem to care. he brought thoughtful gifts for his grandparents so I think it may have been intentional but he never said and I never asked. I was wriggling in my seat but said nothing) it was assumed I did this as the woman.
There have been numerous problems with inlaws in the past which make me feel like they deserve the nice gift less than aunts and uncles we see less often.
I also feel like it wouldn't matter because they are unlikely to ever even know unless dh or the children some how spill the beans. She knows the family and may chat about gifts but its not that likely as we usually do separate visits.
To buy myself a similar one would cost roughly 25 quid extra. I can't afford that. especially when I have 5 in the house already.
I know its not a big deal in the grand scheme. I suppose I just want someone to tell me to keep it!