To want to take a sick day when I’m not sick

[Charlottestar]

I’m not sick but I AM very tired. Desperate for a day to myself …

would you

Basically, as the poster above says, it's dishonesty - taking money for work you haven't done. So if you're doing it, then own it. Just say 'I don't care, I don't like my employer and screw them'. I'd be much more comfortable with that than the whole 'it's a fine line between tiredness and a full-on breakdown'. It really isn't, most of the time, and most people won't have a mental health crisis if they're a bit overworked.

I don't mind people taking sick days. But why do people construct a fantasy to excuse it?

If you take at least a sick day off a year, you have a terrible sickness record. Take all the days you want, but stop kidding yourself.

Over dramatic because …?

I did have two days to myself and they were spent charging around doing things. Yes, one of those things is arguably enjoyable (I don’t personally find it so) but I do have to get my hair done sometimes.

In any case, that’s two days in September, October, November, December and January. So it works out as what - less than half a day a month!

One sick day a year really isn’t a terrible sickness record.

I recommend starting a new post asking how to get your partner to do their share of the childcare for the child they made / agreed to take on. ^^

@Charlottestar no the whole oh I'll just add it to my character flaws stuff

I was being a bit sarcastic

In a nice way.

@SleepingStandingUp - there is no point. It will be a combination of sit him down and / or LTB. Neither will be effective. Two years on and I am resigned to it!

No one HAS to travel far to have hours spent on their hair.

Anyway, it's seemingly missing the point. You have a partner, they should be the one supporting you and that includes letting you have a break.

If you don't change that then you'll be in the same space in another few months then a few more and onwards

@SleepingStandingUp youre really going on about this and I’m not going to lie, it’s a little bit annoying.

My post says am I being unreasonable to WANT a day off. If you seriously think that because I had one day having my hair done two weeks ago it negates everything else sure but you’ve made the point now and it’s feeling a bit shit tbh. It’s coming across that I am hopelessly indulged in some way.

You’ve made your point; shall we move on? (And yes, my nearest town is half an hour away, my hair takes ages, so the whole thing including dropping and picking DS up from nursery took five hours ish.)

But we're not talking about alcoholism or the inevitable illness that this ridiculous job we do brings. We're discussing you asking if you'd be unreasonable to leave your colleagues in the lurch, just because. And I thought long and hard before using the word 'flake.' They're not that common, that's what makes them easier to spot. They all have a pattern of increasing frequency of duvet days, followed by a non-specific longer term illness like a sprained ankle. Then competency and stress leave. You say you're only joking but many on here already bash teachers with no understanding of what the job does to you. If you are having a genuine bad time, I hope you can access help in school as the job is unrelenting. In the circumstances as you have described them, you'd be unreasonable to swing the lead.

@Charlottestar you've chosen to competent ignore the bit where I said that there a difference between just having a day off for fun and having one because you feel run down and over whelmed which is about protecting your MH, I was implying you're the latter. And that a day off now might negate the need for longer off later.

We are talking about it because the threads moved on. You claim to know when someone is a flake or not. I am saying you cannot know as some people are brilliant at putting a mask on, as indeed I am. I was homeless once (looong time ago thankfully) and still kept turning up for work and no one would have known.

I did ignore it because it didn’t make me feel I had to explain or defend myself, but your four posts criticising my hair appointment did

Wtaf am I reading,,, that’s what your holiday is for!

How about I leave your now pretty hair alone and start on your not helpful DH instead 😂

Absolutely this. If you’re burnt out and exhausted, take a day off.

So many lazy people on this thread with no work ethic.

🤣

My holidays are not every week, though.

My next one is Christmas and that’s seven weeks away and will be spent with a two year old.

So my next non working, child free break is 14 weeks away 😫 bur I am unreasonable for wanting a day off!

Even more leave than most people then.

I never actually called you a flake because you said your AIBU was hypothetical and you haven't said whether or not this is something you do frequently. I will say that the usual suspects always think nobody has spotted their behaviour though.

I’ve never faked a sicky, in fact I’m lucky enough that years go by without actually even being ill, that said I still feel for the OP, she just sounds overwhelmed with the thought of all that I’d falling to her that’s all.

I know you didn’t @Hobbi

But you cannot know who is unwell and who is not, no matter how many years you have been teaching.