DH recommends me a hair salon

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Very weirdly DH texted me on Weds eve with the details of a hairdresser in a salon in Marylebone. It was 10:45 pm and he was out with work clients/on his way home, I'm not sure which. He's never done that before.

I send him a "?" to which he didn't reply.

Asked him about it again today, and he said - oh yes, I saw someone with a really nice haircut and asked her where she got it done and she told me so I sent it to you.
I asked him who this person was - apparently a random lady on the train platform in London. Quizzed on her age - "about your age".

AIBU to feel a bit pissed off he is asking random women for their hairdresser? He claims it was "for me". We don't live in London, but I do go there for haircuts. He knows I'm trying to find a local hairdresser who is good, but why would this make him ask a random on a London train platform.

What’s the backstory here OP? On its own I really don’t see the issue unless it’s part of a pattern?

Exactly. He 'didn't notice' if she was attractive' as he saw her hair from the back.... yeah right

Is it a problem if he thought she was attractive though? As long as he didn't hit on her or act sleezy in anyway I don't see the problem.

So what if he thought she was attractive? I think many men who are attractive who aren’t my DH. Unless you think he was actively hitting on her?

Ah so "AIBU, DH saw a woman, thought she was attractive and inadvertently let me know. He practically had an affair right in the train station platform. Should u get my ducks in a row and ltb?"

Is he not allowed to notice/talk to attractive women then?

Never mind what his intentions were. Id have been extremely wary of a strange man approaching me in a train station late at night. It was an incredibly thoughtless thing to do.

I agree with this. It's very weird.

OP, are you worried that it was one of his clients that your DH was out with whose hair he was admiring? And didn't want to admit it so he told you he asked a random woman at the station?

Because that sounds more plausible to me.

Another person who also happens to be looking for a London based hairdresser?

So…your issue is that he saw an attractive woman?

Seriously, what exactly is it that you object to? As it’s really not clear.

I have asked several of random women where they’ve got their hair done before when I’ve loved their hair. A few times while I lived in London. They all told me and I noted it down. I’d be chuffed if my husband did this knowing I was looking for s new hairdresser. My dh does notice new hair on me or friends and comments if he likes it, the fact your dh did it so openly suggests it was completely innocent.

Normally it might the odd but given the circumstances that you are looking for a new hairdresser then less so, especially as he'd had a few drinks. I doubt he'd have asked sober

I live in London
People approach me all the time and ask about my hair- but not as much as in the USA where it is daily

Do you believe the message was intended for you?

Same. I have an Afro and I get asked about it or gave my hair commented upon pretty much daily. I live in central London. I have no idea where the idea that Londoners don’t speak to each other comes from.

So you're upset that you're husband spoke to a woman?

Your*

Did you say he was out with drinks with work? I bet it was a female colleague and he thought that might sound a bit off so he changed it to random woman.

I don’t think it’s anything to be upset about either way tbh.

I don’t understand why it would be off to ask a work colleague, but I don’t understand anything about this post.

Might have booked and paid for an appointment for his mistress

Based on…what?

YANBU. That feels a bit icky to me. To PPs saying they have asked random women where they got their hair done... Yes, so have I - I have asked women myself. But for my partner to ask a woman on my behalf? Bit weird.

YABU

He knows you’re looking for a hairdresser so was trying to help out.

Obviously he’s shit at helping out but it’s still the thought that counts.

I can’t help but feel it’s the fact that he spoke to another women is what you are mad at.

I’ve also asked men where they have got certain things so I can get my partner the same.

Why do you think she was alone? At 10.45pm on a Friday night trains in London are Very Busy Indeed.

I’m afraid this is how forums work - you say things, and sometimes people respond. Especially when what you say is stupid.

Do you have a specific style of hair that stands out? Or a specific colouring? I can't imagine a man noticing a nice normal haircut but if you have a style that stands out he could easily see it and think it looks like yours.