I'm in such a stress and don't know what to do for the best! I'm posted about this before but my DC's dad lives with his mum. His mum won't allow the DC to come over so he comes to mine twice a week plus on a Saturday. On the Saturday he often takes them out but less so when the weather gets colder.
When he is at mine he always leaves a mess. Food packets, drinks bottles, a mug left out, the throws hanging off the sofa and cushions on the floor.
We usually get on fine, but I've been unhappy about not getting much of a break unless I go out when he is here. My psych nurse has told me to set more boundaries. So today I spoke to him about the mess he leaves and asked him not to as I find it disrespectful. He started saying I was making a fuss about nothing. So I said well in that case you can't come in my house. He stormed off and said he wouldn't be seeing the DC til I let him round again!
Part of me thinks fuck him if he's not that bothered about seeing the DC. But part of me knows that without his help with the DC my mental health will be affected so it feels like setting boundaries has back fired 😩