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to be obsessing over comment in DH's work leaving card?

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feelingatadobsessive · 29/01/2008 02:25

I don't really know where to put this because I know I am probably being very unreasonable but here goes...

I read DH's leaving card from his old job and there was a comment from a girl along the lines of "there's no way you'll forget me, just think of rug-munching" or something like that. Do you think this is inappropriate to write in a married man's card or am I being silly? I am now a tad obsessed with finding out what she looks like.

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sparklyfairypie · 29/01/2008 02:57

is this a public leaving card? ie everyone signs it?

if so its probably just some in joke they had.

frisbyrat · 29/01/2008 03:59

I agree with fairypie, but would still be and

Maybe it's because she's lesbian?

Othersideofthechannel · 29/01/2008 06:20

I know of people at work putting things like that in cards to wind the spouse up just for a laugh.

Reminds me of my yearbook from school which is full of comments from lads that thank goodness my parents understood were a joke.
Perhaps easier to accept that kind of sillinesss from 18 yr olds!

dal21 · 29/01/2008 06:49

YANBU , I would probably feel put out, but as everyone else says - it is a public card and is probably about some joke. why dont you ask him what it means?

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feelingatadobsessive · 29/01/2008 09:20

I have asked him. He insists he can't remember. I know it is most likely a joke but I am annoyed about it. Yes, Othersideofthechannel, I see where you're coming from. The problem is he is in his thirties and married with a baby...she is in her early twenties. Neither of them are teens!

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sweetbean · 29/01/2008 09:30

Feelingatabobsessive

What was the comment word for word.

morningpaper · 29/01/2008 09:32

I think work leaving cards are supposed to be slightly risque

It's hardly terrible

If it was actually inappropriate he simply would have dumped it in a bin on the way home

I would be disappointed if there were no saucy comments - he'd obviously be v. dull

Cappuccino · 29/01/2008 09:35

if she actually had let him get at her bits, do you really think she would write it in a card for the whole office to see?

FioFio · 29/01/2008 09:37

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tearinghairout · 29/01/2008 09:38

People do flirt/tell dirty jokes at work, it's a way of relieving the tedium of the day, BUT ime it's done with people you know are 'safe' - ie if your DH had been 'available', or had no SOH there wouldn't have been the risque stuff in case he took it seriously.

My round-about way of saying it's harmless. Trust him.

yummylittlelapin · 29/01/2008 09:39

God, the comments in my leaving card were filthy you have all sorts of silly jokes at work that don't translate to the real world. I wouldn't worry at all. As MP says, he didn't need to show it to you.

themildmanneredjanitor · 29/01/2008 09:42

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Tortington · 29/01/2008 09:43

my bet is she tripped and there abounded juvinile "you're a rug muncher" comments back in 1998

you are being obsessive - get over it

FioFio · 29/01/2008 09:44

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yummylittlelapin · 29/01/2008 09:46

farty custy is thinking of her own recent stinky experiences

soopermum1 · 29/01/2008 09:46

YABU, at my work, the conversation is very fruity (i work with lots of guys so had to develop a thick skin humour-wise) the comment on the card is just a symptom of that. i've only been in work 45 minutes and there has already been a discussion about lesbians

soopermum1 · 29/01/2008 09:47

just read that back- disclaimer alert, no issues with lesbaisn, was just the typical blokey 'she wants you' comments when a girl in the office read out a text message from another girl she'd received

Wendyjayb · 29/01/2008 09:51

It wouldn't be normal at my work if sex hasn't been discussed by 10am
YNBU, maybe a tad over sensitive as it's a part of dh life your not directly involved in. I know when i tell my dh about whats been said at my work he rolls his eyes, but if he knew the people then he'd laugh along with us

OrmIrian · 29/01/2008 09:51

I've had many slightly riske but totally harmless conversations with the men I work with. It means nothing. It was probably a cotinuation of something like that. And people do egg each other on to write 'naughty' things in leaving cards. Very childish but IME the workplace often is.

But, most important of all, he is leaving the place!

Iota · 29/01/2008 09:52

soopermum - I used to work in an office like that

Sooooooo unPC

nailpolish · 29/01/2008 09:55

she sounds immature

MummyPenguin · 29/01/2008 10:26

She sounds like she was trying to make some sort of joke or wrote that to deliberately wind you up, which in my view is deserving of a slap and I would be all to tempted to visit office and deliver it. After all, DH doesn't work there now so nothing to lose. It's highly innapropriate to write something like that in a married man's card. Stupid cow. I'd be too.

yummylittlelapin · 29/01/2008 10:29

I seriously doubt she wrote it with you in mind. I seem to remember several comments in my card about my arse - they were entirely connected with silliness in the office and completely innocent. And I don't think for a second any of the men who wrote them were thinking "ooh this will annoy her husband!"

alfiesbabe · 29/01/2008 10:29

She sounds like a stupid cow I agree - and I also think that if anything had genuinely gone on, she wouldnt have written it.

morningpaper · 29/01/2008 10:32

MummyPenguin yes I'm sure he will then be remembered as Steve With The Psycho Wife which is not v. helpful.

"It wouldn't be normal at my work if sex hasn't been discussed by 10am"

lol! So true!

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