For not having alternatives for trick or treaters?

[mummydoris2006]

Last night we had lots of kids trick or treating and was very busy answering the door. It was lovely to see all the different costumes and all the excited kids but at around 7pm we sat down to eat our tea so didn't want to be disturbed.

I decided to leave a bowl of mini haribo and squashems out next to the pumpkins and also inserted some lollipops into a pumpkin too. I figured that way the parents could see they were lollies and could decide if their kids were allowed them and also the younger kiddies had already been earlier on in the night.

Around 7.30pm there was a knock on the door and I answered to find a woman and her son stood on the doorstep. She said she knocked to tell me the bowl was empty! I was a bit taken aback and thanked her for letting me know and said her son was welcome to help himself to a lolly instead, it was at that point she said he wasn't really allowed lollies so she'd knocked for an alternative!!!!!

I explained there was no alternatives if the bowl was empty, and she stomped off in a huff. Even though my DC is too old to trick or treat we still put out pumpkins and welcome trick or treaters but surely, we're now not expected to have a never-ending supply of sweets!?!

I went out at 7 pm and my bowl was already empty too. I bought both the bowl and the pumpkin in and shut my lights off. I was nervous someone might knock.

That’s why we shut all the blinds and let them take it out on the knocker. The greed and expectation; which is essentially begging isn’t it.

I don't know how anyone had any sweets left after 6pm. The trick or treaters started calling at 4pm and there was a constant stream of mini vampires, witches, brides of Dracula, Dracula himself, Jason from Friday 13th and the bloke from Scream, from then onwards. I brought the pumpkin indoors once the sweets were all gone, otherwise the kids would have had the choice of a Dairylea triangle or an apple.

I do live in a village with a high concentration of young families though.

Why were the messages deleted? What did they say? 😕

That woman was really rude and entitled.

We almost ran out last night so my husband popped out to buy some more so I would have just done that in your shoes 🤷‍♀️

Next year we’ll just have more in.

Oh no ,what have I missed?! I read the ops first post,went and mopped the bathroom floor,made a cup of tea and a load of posts are deleted!

You get what you're given when you knock on a door and then surely every normal, rational person just goes through the sweets bag after the DC have gone to bed and eats disposes of any sweets that aren't suitable?

I was laughing at DS last night though. Knockrd on a neighbour and she offered some sweets, her husband jokingly pushed the dish away and offered the fruit bowl instead "those sweets are mine, you can all have an apple instead". All the other children laughing, took some sweets and off they went, DS stood there and asked for 'his' apple. Carried it around with him for the rest of the night with a face like he'd won a prize and he's taken it to school with him today to show his friends because "it's a special Halloween apple"

Used to do this before DP overruled me. Buy a load of satsumas to hand out to children who knocked, say to them you decide if that is a trick or a treat...

So many deleted messages but it sounds like the woman posted on this thread?!

If so- you were rude. Tell your child "Oh what a shame, they've ran out! The pumpkins are nice, aren't they? Shall we go home/go to the next house etc?"

We got satsumas and everyone loved them as they were a nice break from candy - and we saw smiley faced satsumas and loved them!

A house we visited last night ran out on the group of kids in front - the very kind lady went a raided her kitchen for a couple of Penguin bars for my boys! I was very appreciative but did feel a bit CF standing with them waiting!

We started just after 6 and load of houses were running out - I think the way we only do it now where you only knock on houses that are decorated is better, but it does mean the houses that are decorated get descended on so get through sweets far faster than before when you just knocked on every door!

@MNHQ please undelete have a heart 🤣🤣🤣

My friend did this last year when she had to pop out and collect her own children, and returned home 20 minutes later to find both the bowl and entire contents gone! Cheeky brats didn't get anything this year.

I had someone knock last night when my bowl was empty! I did have more sweets ready (bowl was out whilst we were physically out trick or treating, and I left it out after whilst I sorted tea). But was rather taken aback. It was an adult and one child 🤷🏻‍♀️

I had a group of about 5 call, each took one or two small sweets / chocolate packets each. The mum standing over them told them ' go on take more than that'

Nothing shocks me anymore

I stopped doing it. To be honest don’t like the idea anyway but did it for DC sake as all their friends did. We are very rural village and I only went to the houses of people we knew.
the reason I stopped leaving out sweets was one of the other mums ( moved now thank goodness) took the whole pot I left out 😳. I caught her red handed and she said it was so could dish them out to the other children. I told her to put them back and let the children get a handful each at which she said her DC only like chewy sweets. I stopped after that.

Who voted YABU?? 😂😂

Aww man @Baboooooshka come back I missed all the crazy

Lol if that happened to me I'd find it very very funny and assume the adult in question has some deficit in their understanding of social conventions !!

I'd expect it from some children who have yet to work out halloween etiquette but not an adult!

That won't be the woman who knocked at the door.

It'll be the same bpb who went on another thread the other day about a shitty friend and pretended to be the friend and started claiming the op was the arsehole.

They think they're funny I assume. 🙄

Bpb?
Pbp

I don't know what my autocorrect is playing at these days.

I think there need to be universal trick or treating rules put in place......like not asking for alternatives and NOT starting your trick or treating until after 6pm!
4.45pm was our first visitor last night - far, far too early.

I mean, I know you were trying to ensure you got some sweets, but seriously?! Give us all a chance to get back from school/ work.....

I'd hastily carved a pumpkin and lit it and put it outside along with fun sized chocolate bars and McVities Halloween Cake Bars nephew visiting earlier said they were far too sweet and citrussy!

Anyway, at about 5.30-6pm there was a really heavy downpour of rain which soaked me and put out the tealight in the pumpkin so I had to relight it and then as I'd given out most of the treats (and got soaked) I just left an open pack of Cake Bars there which were swiftly devoured.

Most parents and kids were surprisingly polite about taking treats. No complaints. But I am in a naice area.

CF but they tell the kids to only go to house's with decorations up.

Few years ago one of my neighbours asked why I 'refused' to enter into the community spirit and decorate/answer the door on Halloween and give out sweets to the children....... I said that unfortunately I was at work that evening, and was told I should have put in a day off request, so I could buy and give out sweets to other people's children.......
Some people are bonkers 🤣