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Weird phonecall behavior

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Namehangerj · 01/11/2022 07:19

Please help me think clearly...

Partner and I were on the phone last night. He was in a hotel near airport as leaving for a Stag Do at 3am. We were on video call and I could tell he kept texting other people and seemed distracted. This upset me as he's about to go away for a week and I would expected he give me his attention while we were on the phone. Anyway I told him I found it rude, that I expected his attention while on the phone. He said he was organizing things for his travel.

I ended up apologising and we both mutually agreed I was overreacting due to hormones ...

The more I think about it the more pissed off I am that actually this is really unreasonable, that he should have apologized...

My last relationship was an abusive one so it's hard to set personal boundaries and be clear. Was I overreacting, or was he in the wrong?

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CluelessAtClothing · 01/11/2022 07:22

Thats so rude and I would have commented the same. But equally if you were going on a bit and he had stuff to sort out he should have said sorry love but I need to go after a long enough chat. If it was just a quick chat and he still couldn't give you 5 interrupted minutes of his time then YANBU.

CluelessAtClothing · 01/11/2022 07:23

Oh and never blame stuff on your hormones. It devalues women everywhere.

pippinsleftleg · 01/11/2022 07:27

CluelessAtClothing · 01/11/2022 07:23

Oh and never blame stuff on your hormones. It devalues women everywhere.

Totally agree with this. I hate it when a woman blames her hormones.

mutually agreeing it’s down to your hormones is even worse - feels like he’s forced you into accepting blame.

forwhatitsworth22 · 01/11/2022 07:28

It could be that he was busy and excited to go away. I wouldn't take it personally. He probably didn't even realise he was doing it.

forwhatitsworth22 · 01/11/2022 07:28

Also agree with others, don't blame yourself Biscuit

3487642l · 01/11/2022 07:32

Does he usually apologize?

It is strange he didn't just say sorry as his behavior was rude.

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