To think it’s rude not to text back?

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If that same person has replied in a group chat?

I messaged friend on Saturday to check she got home ok after I dropped her off at the train station and heard nothing back.

Today a friend in a group chat (who we also saw on Saturday) asked a very generic question and she’s messaged back in that.

Just think it’s a bit rude

I would assume she’d just forgotten to reply rather than purposefully been rude, I wouldn’t jump to be offended.

I think it's rude. Seems to me like ignoring someone who just spoke to you.

But I'm getting older and don't always see things like the younger generation.

Maybe she just forgot?

I often get texts, mentally reply and forget to actually reply.

I sometimes open a message meaning to reply, get distracted and totally forget - and in my head think I've replied already! Could that have happened?

Does it matter? Obviously you know she got back home okay if she has sent a message.

I don't always reply to messages if I don't feel like replying.

I think it's rude to repeatedly not reply. The odd occasion I can forgive.

Recently I de friended someone ( not a close friend) for repeatedly not replying but then when she saw me out and about full of excuses and 'we really should meet up!'

Fell for it again texted her to arrange something and got ignored again

OK maybe she wasn't really my friend. But I found it humiliating so I've written her off.

You’d read a question a friend asked you and think nah? Do you have friends.

I don’t think so as I don’t think she opened the message as there’s no blue tick.

I assume she just forgot to reply. It happens.

Yes, sometimes, if it's not that important.

My phone often doesn't show me messages. I have no idea why.

Text her and ask her why she didn't reply lol.

Never put down to conspiracy what can be adequately explained by cock up is my motto. Assume it wasn’t deliberate, don’t take offence, don’t get wound up, everyone will be happier.

She probably forgot to message when she got back & now it's been too long to say 'yes I got home safe' as that's obvious or you would have called the police 😂

You’re not a nice person.

I'm the worst at replying. I reply in my head a lot of start typing and get distracted by the kids and then mentally tick it off in my head. Nearly every time I go to write a message there's a half drafted response to something I've failed to send. I do try to do better but I hate how phones give everyone a sense of immediacy as I would rather limit screen time anyway. (She says zoning out on mumsnet )

I completely agree with you. Just because I have a phone doesn’t mean I am obliged to answer messages straight away, especially those that aren’t in any way critical. If something is urgent you call.

There is no such thing as an urgent text

That wasn't a nice response. Perhaps that's why you didn't get one from your friend?

Literally makes no sense at all.

I do much better with messages I can mark as unread in case I can't reply that moment

Maybe she thought she had responded, I know with the newer mode of iPhones you can look at a message in WhatsApp without is showing as read (almost like a preview) maybe she did this and thought she'd got back to you. If she has form for doing it, be annoyed, if it's a one off I'd forgive and forget

So you messaged on Saturday, she read it was busy forgot to reply and then on a different day replied to a new message that came through. No I think you're reading into this more than you need to.

I really hate this think some women do where they check up on each other, because it often means nothing.

OP, when your friend didn’t reply what did you do? Did you call the police? Did you drive over to her house?

No, you dod nothing. So what was the point of asking her if she got home?

I often see messages, think I'll reply and get distracted before I do. A pointless "did you get home OK?" text would be low on my priorities. I'm an adult, getting home is my problem, and I don't need people checking up on me.