If that same person has replied in a group chat?
I messaged friend on Saturday to check she got home ok after I dropped her off at the train station and heard nothing back.
Today a friend in a group chat (who we also saw on Saturday) asked a very generic question and she’s messaged back in that.
Just think it’s a bit rude
AIBU?
To think it’s rude not to text back?
feelingfuller · 31/10/2022 19:50
Am I being unreasonable?
173 votes. Final results.
POLLPonoka7 · 01/11/2022 07:01
I game on my phone. Messages have come up and I haven't gone into them, but filled in a reply while it's showing at the top of the game screen. Sometimes they don't send. As said, sometimes you think that you've replied and you haven't. This can be the downside of messaging. In the old days we'd phone the house phone, or they'd phone our's, to check that out friends got home safely.
I also find it infantilising, but would answer a quick, yes thanks, goodnight, to someone who is a good enough friend to go out with and give me a lift.
thistimelastweek · 31/10/2022 19:56
I think it's rude. Seems to me like ignoring someone who just spoke to you.
But I'm getting older and don't always see things like the younger generation.
Mlb123 · 01/11/2022 02:02
Anyway , I know the feeling of rejection and being ignored well, but these days I don't let it bother me and instead I find amusement in it. At present the most amusing thing for me is that after years of mainly lurking (since 2009) I have began posting a good few replies and stuff, but as in real life when I message people -i get nobody acknowledging the posts and messages as I write essays that bore on and I can't manage paragraphs much either. So anyway I shall test if people are reading my messages by writing that everyone on Mumsnet are evil, ignorant bitches who can't respond to my posts as they don't have the intelligence quota to do so! Not! Lol xxx
Twiglets1 · 01/11/2022 06:33
It’s called manners.
And it’s manners to reply if a friend asks if you got home ok, especially one who gave you a lift to the station.
Obki · 31/10/2022 20:56
I really hate this think some women do where they check up on each other, because it often means nothing.
OP, when your friend didn’t reply what did you do? Did you call the police? Did you drive over to her house?
No, you dod nothing. So what was the point of asking her if she got home?
feelingfuller · 01/11/2022 00:07
The fact you’re hanging around this thread to pounce on any comment that would go against me is hilarious. But very very sad on your part.
You aren’t a nice person and you’ve proved that twice in one thread.
Keyansier · 31/10/2022 21:15
I think that is a good point.
Obki · 31/10/2022 20:56
I really hate this think some women do where they check up on each other, because it often means nothing.
OP, when your friend didn’t reply what did you do? Did you call the police? Did you drive over to her house?
No, you dod nothing. So what was the point of asking her if she got home?
Mlb123 · 01/11/2022 02:02
Anyway , I know the feeling of rejection and being ignored well, but these days I don't let it bother me and instead I find amusement in it. At present the most amusing thing for me is that after years of mainly lurking (since 2009) I have began posting a good few replies and stuff, but as in real life when I message people -i get nobody acknowledging the posts and messages as I write essays that bore on and I can't manage paragraphs much either. So anyway I shall test if people are reading my messages by writing that everyone on Mumsnet are evil, ignorant bitches who can't respond to my posts as they don't have the intelligence quota to do so! Not! Lol xxx
MugginsOverEre · 01/11/2022 07:11
I see it like that too. My sister sees my name calling or a text from me and just ignores it when she could easily answer and say "Bit busy, I'll phone you back" or whatever. In fact, her phone can reply to a call in an auto text saying so. To me it feels like snubbing someone who's trying to say hello to your face. But these are days when you can see someone at your door and they can see you but you still don't answer because you're not expecting them as they haven't called ahead so you walk away and carry on whatever you were doing while they look on, wondering wtf?
thistimelastweek · 31/10/2022 19:56
I think it's rude. Seems to me like ignoring someone who just spoke to you.
But I'm getting older and don't always see things like the younger generation.
sandgrown · 01/11/2022 07:14
So you ladies get annoyed because someone shows concern for your welfare ? A quick text back to say you are home is all that’s required.
Twiglets1 · 01/11/2022 06:33
It’s called manners.
And it’s manners to reply if a friend asks if you got home ok, especially one who gave you a lift to the station.
Obki · 31/10/2022 20:56
I really hate this think some women do where they check up on each other, because it often means nothing.
OP, when your friend didn’t reply what did you do? Did you call the police? Did you drive over to her house?
No, you dod nothing. So what was the point of asking her if she got home?
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feelingfuller · 01/11/2022 00:07
The fact you’re hanging around this thread to pounce on any comment that would go against me is hilarious. But very very sad on your part.
You aren’t a nice person and you’ve proved that twice in one thread.
Keyansier · 31/10/2022 21:15
I think that is a good point.
Obki · 31/10/2022 20:56
I really hate this think some women do where they check up on each other, because it often means nothing.
OP, when your friend didn’t reply what did you do? Did you call the police? Did you drive over to her house?
No, you dod nothing. So what was the point of asking her if she got home?
TooBigForMyBoots · 01/11/2022 01:47
YABU. If you need a response, you call.
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