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What is WRONG with people? It's 2022!

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EdaYildiz · 28/10/2022 13:19

Over the past couple of weeks, ALOT of things when out and about has been getting on my last nerves, it's almost like people just think they walk the earth alone and are not considerate for anybody around them!

EVERYTIME I go to Tesco I can guarantee that at least one person will come and stand right in front of me when I am looking at something - literally plonk themselves right in front of me like I'm not there! I always make a point to stand so I'm not blocking the way for others to walk behind me but also that I've left enough space for others to grab and go from the shelf.

I was in Primark yesterday looking at some basic jumpers on the folded table and there was an ENTIRE table to walk around but no no, I'll let you guess where she came a stood.

I finished work yesterday and was walking down Oxford St with a friend and then BAM the women in front of me just stopped so obviously I went into the back of her and I hurt my nose because of the impact so I said to her "Yes please, just stop walking in the middle of the street".

Shopping Centers is another ache up my backside with people just stopping when they're walking.

I was in a different Primark recently and the women behind me was so close for the 20 minutes we were queuing that I was practically grinding her! Then when I was waiting for my turn to be called to a till, she overtook me and went to the till so I chased her and said excuse me a few times which she ignored!

Another time in Primark, a teenager walked up to the disabled tills bypassing the huge queue, paid and walked off laughing to her friend and saying "idiots looks at them all queuing" so it was clear she was faking it because then she was running around Primark playing tag with her group of friends and then booting it up the escalators on the wrong way racing her friends.

My lord, what is wrong with people? Does anybody find this happens to them too or does this just happen to me?

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Noangelbuthavingfun · 29/10/2022 18:39

EdaYildiz · 28/10/2022 13:19

Over the past couple of weeks, ALOT of things when out and about has been getting on my last nerves, it's almost like people just think they walk the earth alone and are not considerate for anybody around them!

EVERYTIME I go to Tesco I can guarantee that at least one person will come and stand right in front of me when I am looking at something - literally plonk themselves right in front of me like I'm not there! I always make a point to stand so I'm not blocking the way for others to walk behind me but also that I've left enough space for others to grab and go from the shelf.

I was in Primark yesterday looking at some basic jumpers on the folded table and there was an ENTIRE table to walk around but no no, I'll let you guess where she came a stood.

I finished work yesterday and was walking down Oxford St with a friend and then BAM the women in front of me just stopped so obviously I went into the back of her and I hurt my nose because of the impact so I said to her "Yes please, just stop walking in the middle of the street".

Shopping Centers is another ache up my backside with people just stopping when they're walking.

I was in a different Primark recently and the women behind me was so close for the 20 minutes we were queuing that I was practically grinding her! Then when I was waiting for my turn to be called to a till, she overtook me and went to the till so I chased her and said excuse me a few times which she ignored!

Another time in Primark, a teenager walked up to the disabled tills bypassing the huge queue, paid and walked off laughing to her friend and saying "idiots looks at them all queuing" so it was clear she was faking it because then she was running around Primark playing tag with her group of friends and then booting it up the escalators on the wrong way racing her friends.

My lord, what is wrong with people? Does anybody find this happens to them too or does this just happen to me?

One thing you mention irritates the hell out of me ! Why are u waiting to be called to a till? Its obvious when someone is free and I hate people just standing blindly in a queue to be called holding things up...I could imagine this is what happened so the person behind you overtook you 😁. Could be wrong tho !

SmudgeButt · 29/10/2022 18:40

I tend to step back heavily on someone's foot if they are standing too close behind. Or if I'm in the aisle swing my trolley at them. Yes it's petty but they irritate me too.

Alternative when someone walks in front of me while I'm looking at a shelf 12 inches away is to say loudly "Oh excuse me! I didn't realise I was in your way!!" Rarely achieves anything other than me releasing a bit of steam.

Fastforward23 · 29/10/2022 18:45

I think people have become a lot less considerate than they used to be.

Backthetruckup · 29/10/2022 18:46

Sure you're not a ghost OP and haven't realised, like Bruce Willis in The Sixth Sense?

Smoow · 29/10/2022 18:47

Don't get this behaviour in Harvey Nicks 😂. Just stay out of Primani.
How to create personal space, always shop with a friend or family, casually mention you're still not feeling great but didn't have any covid tests left. You'll get a 6ft space immediately 😉

Lialii · 29/10/2022 18:47

Maybe you died recently and are now a ghost? So now people don't see you standing there. It happened to Bruce Willis.

Snugglybutt · 29/10/2022 18:48

I run a lot. What annoys me is people walking 3 abreast and refuse to move.
What annoyed me today is that a man was walking in the middle of the pavement, i loudly coughed...he didn't hear. I was running behind him called out sorry...nothing. so I squeezed past him and he tutted....no I couldn't go in the road as there were cars all along parked. My rage is if you're that deaf get a hearing aid ffs.

Hopevoyager · 29/10/2022 18:49

Backthetruckup · 29/10/2022 18:46

Sure you're not a ghost OP and haven't realised, like Bruce Willis in The Sixth Sense?

I was literally just thinking this 🤣

yep the supermarket one really gripes me too! And I will happily turn around in a queue and say to someone to take a step back. I’ve never been met with hostility so far.

but yep, I agree, people are too wrapped up in their own lives and don’t even process other people.

Backthetruckup · 29/10/2022 18:49

Lialii · 29/10/2022 18:47

Maybe you died recently and are now a ghost? So now people don't see you standing there. It happened to Bruce Willis.

Woah, crossed post!

GG1986 · 29/10/2022 18:53

People are just fucking annoying! I had it happen to me in a shop recently.

sueelleker · 29/10/2022 19:03

YANBU. I frequently think I must be invisible!

Fluffmum · 29/10/2022 19:05

Don’t go to Primarni

PurpleButterflyWings · 29/10/2022 19:10

EdaYildiz · 28/10/2022 21:53

I was not pissing about on my phone, my friend was walking right next to me and I was looking at her when I went SLAM into the lady in front!

It was the wrong timing of it all.

You wasn't there!

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@EdaYildiz

I know I WASN'T there, but I am literally responding to what YOU SAID. That you slammed into the back of someone because you were on your phone and not looking where you are going. You literally said it yourself, that YOU WERE ON YOUR PHONE when you slammed into the back of this woman!

I notice you have not responded to the MANY people calling you out, and pointing out that you DID say you were on your mobile phone/not looking. (And then you changed it and said you weren't on your phone.)

Trouble is, the post where you said you were on your phone is still there and you can't delete it, so you have totally contradicted yourself. And are flatly denying it. Farcical! You realise ALL your posts are there for all to see right? Confused

Also baffled by a couple of other posters who say they ALSO get annoyed by people stopping in the street, resulting in them slamming into the back of them. 100% the fault of the dopey article who slams into the back. Obviously NOT paying attention, and then refusing to admit liability. Are people meant to walk and walk and walk and never stop then? Stupid thing to say!

Also, as a few posters have said, if you were driving on the road, and you slammed into the back of someone, it would be YOUR FAULT. For driving too close, and NOT paying attention.

I can't believe I am having to explain this basic and obvious shit to be honest!

Caktwenty · 29/10/2022 19:20

This drives me insane! Unfortunately I am in active treatment for cancer, although for someone to look at me they would never guess. I make a point of keeping a safe distance from anyone when I am out and about, but the amount of people that just will happily invade your personal space is mental!
Just the other week I was using the toilet at a service station and the lady beside me reached right in cross the front of me to use the soapthat she could have got at her other side, goodness knows why she couldn't wait literally 5 seconds is beyond me!

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 29/10/2022 19:29

The level of self absorption and entitlement at this point are beyond in some people… alongside the lack of ability to basically care for themselves. Bloody scares me for the future!!! But ‘be kind’ got very swiftly forgotten by a lot of people at this point IMHE and it’s usually those that post it all over their social media, only serving to make it more hypocritical because it only applies to when people are not being kind to them apparently

Lialii · 29/10/2022 19:36

Backthetruckup · 29/10/2022 18:49

Woah, crossed post!

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Mumsy2022 · 29/10/2022 19:47

Wow! You literally have my way of thinking. I’m 100% with you on this, certain people are so rude, entitled and ignorant!! It pisses me off something rotten.

I’ve had similar things happen, while out shopping. People getting far too close for comfort, or walking in front of me when there was no reason to do so. Practically standing in front of me when looking for something. Do you know, it could be the most random, smallest, unpopular item ever, but you can bet your life on it, someone will still come and stand there in front of me to look at it. Not at the side of me, but right in front of me and don’t even give it a second thought, that I might actually be looking myself at the item. Certain people are shocking!

I passed my test 12 years ago, cause I couldn’t bare buses and rude, nasty people any more! Sadly, we just get them on the road in other vehicles now instead of in person.

There is selfishness and entitlement everywhere, it’s horrendous! The worst it’s ever been I’d say.

Juat to avoid the public, I tend to use online shopping more often than not these days. Whether it be clothing, groceries or toys for my children. I hate the shops and people just annoy me so much. I hold doors open for people, say please and thank you, allow other drivers in, allow people in front of me in supermarkets if they’ve got one or two items, if I do choose to go the shops, I help people a lot, and I too courteous for my own food sometimes. Do you think I’ve ever gotten it back in return? NO! I’m not expecting a thanks or them to bow down to me, but it would be nice to sometimes come across another courteous person.

Society suck! It’s only going to get worse. I feel
your pain, I truly do!

JanieAllen · 29/10/2022 20:38

A couple of times pre pandemic I'd be walking along in a shop or along a pavement but to the side and someone would walk up to me and demand that I moved over when there was PLENTY of room to pass me. That PISSES me off mightily.

Trylessonslearned · 29/10/2022 20:42

Awe I saw a film like this. It turns out nobody did see her as she eventually worked she was a ghost!

reigatecastle · 29/10/2022 20:47

Worrying these people also drive in the same way they walk

That worry has long predated covid with me. The way people push their trolleys around supermarkets with little control over them...and then get in their cars and drive off.

I do most shopping online as it's an ordeal anyway, not (just) because people are a pain but because you either get ignored by shop staff, or hassled. Much easier to buy online.

reigatecastle · 29/10/2022 20:49

JanieAllen · 29/10/2022 20:38

A couple of times pre pandemic I'd be walking along in a shop or along a pavement but to the side and someone would walk up to me and demand that I moved over when there was PLENTY of room to pass me. That PISSES me off mightily.

Really? I've never experienced that but I have had it on a wide towpath with a cyclist dinging their bell at me even though there was plenty of space for them to pass. But apparently it's because they can't trust me to carry on walking or running in a straight line and will suddenly dance in front of them. Of course I will.

reigatecastle · 29/10/2022 20:52

What annoys me is people walking 3 abreast and refuse to move I just stop and force them to go round me. Happened yesterday when I was in London - a family right across the pavement. I was walking, not running but it's the same principle.

ReformedWaywardTeen · 29/10/2022 20:52

This is why I miss masks. I could silently mouth very rude words at div's and they had no clue. If I didn't make eye contact and there were lots of people near I could even be really sarcastic and the person who clearly knew it was directed at them would look around, clueless at who had slagged them off.

Simpler times.

Natty13 · 29/10/2022 21:11

One thing I would like to point out is that what is "considerate" in one country is not necessarily what is polite in another, nor even another part of the UK. As a foreigner who has lived here for nearly 2 decades I have said since day 1 that English people seem strangely adverse to saying "excuse me". I find it swings massively from silence and a very steely smile right to snapping and shoving you out the way. So many posts here reflect that to be honest. If you say "excuse me please" 99.9% of people move, often with a smile too. If you say nothing and expect others to read your mind as to what you find "considerate" then of course lots of times you will end up disappointed and angry.

eastegg · 29/10/2022 21:19

Herbie0987 · 28/10/2022 13:49

I was in a supermarket queue when another shopper stood very close to me, when I got through the till and started to pay with my card she stood right beside me. I told her “could you stand back please you are invading my space”, she was surprised but moved away from me.

I can’t bear this. What advantage do these people think they’re going to get by getting so close in a queue or, even worse, standing next to you?

You should have said ‘do you want to pay for me?’.