What is WRONG with people? It's 2022!

[EdaYildiz]

Over the past couple of weeks, ALOT of things when out and about has been getting on my last nerves, it's almost like people just think they walk the earth alone and are not considerate for anybody around them!

EVERYTIME I go to Tesco I can guarantee that at least one person will come and stand right in front of me when I am looking at something - literally plonk themselves right in front of me like I'm not there! I always make a point to stand so I'm not blocking the way for others to walk behind me but also that I've left enough space for others to grab and go from the shelf.

I was in Primark yesterday looking at some basic jumpers on the folded table and there was an ENTIRE table to walk around but no no, I'll let you guess where she came a stood.

I finished work yesterday and was walking down Oxford St with a friend and then BAM the women in front of me just stopped so obviously I went into the back of her and I hurt my nose because of the impact so I said to her "Yes please, just stop walking in the middle of the street".

Shopping Centers is another ache up my backside with people just stopping when they're walking.

I was in a different Primark recently and the women behind me was so close for the 20 minutes we were queuing that I was practically grinding her! Then when I was waiting for my turn to be called to a till, she overtook me and went to the till so I chased her and said excuse me a few times which she ignored!

Another time in Primark, a teenager walked up to the disabled tills bypassing the huge queue, paid and walked off laughing to her friend and saying "idiots looks at them all queuing" so it was clear she was faking it because then she was running around Primark playing tag with her group of friends and then booting it up the escalators on the wrong way racing her friends.

My lord, what is wrong with people? Does anybody find this happens to them too or does this just happen to me?

Yes agree. Also find no one can walk in a straight line. Always avoiding people walking slam into me as they are too engrossed in conversation - I might as well not be there.

My husband had a professor like ten years ago who called such people Meanderthals. At the time it referred to those staring at their phones and walking, but now it seems like its 90% of people in any given public space.

Completely off topic now but sat opposite a family with 2 tablets playing games with music on. Argh

Once in a shop the woman behind me in the queue kept standing so close, every time i moved an inch forward she did too, once i had paid i stepped back onto her foot, god did she yelp, i smiled and said i didn't realise you were soooooo close behind me. Hope she learned her lesson.

Go to India....no concept at all of personal space....even if empty seats...they will crowd each other....very odd......we found it really annoying....constantly getting squashed and pushed when there was no need for it.

I walked 12 miles around London yesterday, including Regent Street, Piccadilly and Oxford St. The only time I bumped into anyone, or they me, was getting the tube at Oxford Circus at 5pm.

I think you might had an odd sense of personal space tbh! Of course people will go in front of you to get items if you are not right next to the shelf. And why are you so close to people walking that you crash into them.

Stuck at temp traffic lights yesterday the woman in front started doing her hair-brushing, up in a pony tail, faffing with side fringe.. ! No handbrake on as she was rolling back. I kept my hand on the horn. She started shouting at me.
I shouted back You are doing ya friggin hair you stupid woman! Some people are so wrapped up in themselves they should stay home looking in a mirror...

I don't know what's wrong with people but what's wrong with you is that you try and command more than your fair share of space in supermarkets and walk stupidly close to people in the street.

My mum coughs if she feels someone is too close. I die of embarrassment next to her and don't advocate it, but the success rate is pretty much 100%.

There were so many bizarre queuing experiments begun during lockdown that I think many people are genuinely confused rather than rude.

My local LIDL made everyone queue down the central aisle and wait to be called forward by a cashier. Lately shoppers seem to be ignoring the rule though the 'big queue' still exists. (I think.) There is much bad feeling, eyerolling, EXCUSEMETHERESAQUEUE, shrugs, apologies, and general bewilderment. I really wish stores would get the message straight on this because this half-arsed 'half-distancing' is head melting.

@EdaYildiz

I do agree that people crowding you whilst you are trying to look at something is annoying, and reaching over and around you to get something without being arsed to say 'excuse me' is infuriating. I actually just stay there and refuse to move until they say 'excuse me' Even if I am done.

However I am not on board with your complaint about a woman suddenly stopping in the street and you crashing into the back of her. You were clearly walking too close behind her. I HATE people walking close behind.

If you'd told ME to 'stop walking in the middle of the street' after crashing into the back of me, (if I had suddenly stopped walking,) you'd have got a VERY short shrift from me and I'd have told you to do one.

I find it creepy, intrusive and rude when people walk really close behind. Unless it's a VERY packed place like the Bullring shopping centre at Christmas, or the underground/somewhere very busy, there is no need to walk just 2 or 3 feet behind people/so close that you crash into them when they stop suddenly.

One woman slammed into the back of my DH when we were out in Coventry the other week, when he stopped suddenly to check if he had his wallet. She said 'Fucking bastard hell - YOU need fucking brake lights you do!' DH looked gobsmacked. I was fuming and said 'fucking bastard hell, YOU need to not walk so fucking bastard CLOSE to people, then you wouldn't slam straight into them WOULD you?!' Stupid bint.

Hmmm

I think all these things probably always happened. I think there comes a point when it gets really really irritating and you can’t tolerate it.
You may have reached this point

You think that's bad, try working in a Primark factory in a developing country.

I handle it by getting up close and doing straight talking:

• stand in my way while i'm looking at shelves in supermarket, not blocking the aisle: "you are in my way, please move"
• same in a clothes shop: "i was looking at those, please move"
• stop dead on a busy pavement so i bump into them: -shove- "don't do that, it's unsafe for you"
• stop dead at the top of an escalator? I will gently push you out of the way because you're making it dangerous

and so on and so forth. But I'm gobby, old and i have no fucks to give for rude people

Maybe you're actually either invisible or a ghost, and nobody knows you're there?

The teenage years are such an important time for learning the social skills you need for adulthood. We've now got a bunch of teens and young adults who didn't go through that and have to catch up. As well as adults who have forgotten some skills. Plus people have gone into survival mode after how awful the last few years have been. You can't be as considerate as you should when you're in that mindset.

Basically everyone's unsocialised and miserable.

And neither's "everytime".

I’m with you, people are just rude and nuts!
they can stand and look at the pretty lights when Putin nukes us

about the supermarket shelves - i need to be able to move my head up and down so i can see the top and bottom shelf. too far away and i can't read the labels, too close, and i can't see all the things. There is just about enough room to push in front but if you do you are too close and will be moved out of my way (since you're already right up in my space you can't object to the physical contact)

Yes, it's a complete different culture. Did you do any research before your visit...?

OP, you are spending far too much time in Primark! 🤣 I avoid Primark for this very reason, everybody sticks to everyone else like magnets. Only ever happens in Primark.

I agree and it's mostly women. Men do not get so close. They still remember not to.

I hate it when i am waiting to look at something on the shelf and the person is taking ages when they can see I am waiting to get there!

I agree OP. People are rude,selfish and self absorbed. My DD12 was in the queue at Tesco and a group of adults walked right in front of her to pay. Luckily I was there and told them where to go. They looked at me like I had ten heads , how dare I tell them to queue!!

Can't stand shopping centres,they crawl along like snails,stop suddenly, are engrossed in their phones and walk in the wrong direction..it's like an assault course trying to weave and bob around them.

Or when I'm in the supermarket and there's a whole family out for a day trip blocking the aisles with unruly kids.Not forgetting the ones who stop for a chat or walk parallel with trolleys (usually daughters who bring their mothers for their weekly shop) and discuss every item they are buying.