Hen do issues

[Nettty]

Friend is getting married next year and she has 4 bridesmaids who are in charge of planning the hen do. I'd be interested to know what others would do in this situation.

Bridesmaid 1 & 2 can do any weekend

Bridesmaid 3 can do any weekend, but only from Saturday evening due to religious commitments (so could so Sat eve - Mon) for example.

Bridesmaid 4 is a single mum to 2 children and doesn't have them every other weekend. No flexibility with swapping weekends due to court order with horrible ex and no family to help out.

Arguments are happening because bridesmaid 3 wants it to be Sat eve - Mon to accommodate her religious commitments, but this would mean bridesmaid 4 would have to leave the hen do a day early as she has no one to have her children the Sunday evening.

What's the best solution here? Any suggestion I think of seems unreasonable to one of the bridesmaids!

Accommodate B4. B3 can come after her religious commitments. IMO.
Sounds like a lot of hassle 😬

I agree with this. In my experience people with religious commitments tend to be happy to prioritise them and fit into plans where they can.

Have a one day hen on the Saturday and bridesmaid 3 comes after her religious duty

To be honest I imagine most guests would want to get back on the Sunday and not stay till Monday. Bridesmaid 3 can just come for Saturday - Sunday

Just do something nice on the Saturday night.

I'd be backing away from having anything to do with planning this.

Too many cooks for a start.

The person with a court order should get priority.

no one wants to stay until Monday!!!

Religious bridesmaid joins after commitments. She can make it up to her deity of choice another time. Bridesmaid 4 can't dump
Her kids.

Just do 1 night, the Saturday to Sunday. Or Friday night to Sunday is more the norm

Has the plan always been Saturday-Monday?

I'd go with BM4. I can't imagine the majority would want to do Saturday-Monday. I'd expect Friday-Sunday for this sort of hen.

Bridesmaid 4 trumps bridesmaid 3

Why can't it be just one night?

Which one are you op ?

@Vapeyvapevape The one with a headache 😂 I'm number 1 (or 2!).

@yikesanotherbooboo It could be but bride really wanted 2.

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All the bridesmaids can make one weekend fri -Sunday except bridesmaid 3 who can't make any weekend fri-Sunday, so they're the one that'll have to compromise.

Nobody wants to take up a Monday on a hen do. 3 can choose between religious commitment and Saturday at hen do. 4 cannot choose to stay til Monday.

Yeah fri-sun, no one else will want to take a day off and stay till Monday.

What are peoples working days? Would everyone have to take Monday off work? Because that would like be a deciding point.

If so then I'd go for the weekend and bridesmaids 3 comes on Saturday evening

If you invited me to a hen party and said I had to use a day of holiday for the Monday, I would only come to the weekend part of it.

I wouldn’t take off a Monday to accommodate a hens religious beliefs- sorry.

Make it 3 nights Fri-Mon 1 & 2 and the bride in for the long haul the other 2 can do two nights each.

Everyone going works week days and not weekends, other than one person invited (not a bridesmaid) who works weekends.

I would say no to a Monday hen do.

Whatever is likely to be easiest for the majority of the other guests, which presumably would be Friday - Sunday